r/HowDoIRespondToThis

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How do I get through to this dumb dumb?

So I go to a school where we get to play music. Like actually a band where we play all sorts of music like Linkin Park, Deftones, System Of A Down, Tool. The program is split up into 2 different classes. One is the rock band class where we get to play almost whatever we want. The whole point of the rock band class is to teach you how to play with a band. Then there's the show band. The show band is meant to be the professional class where you play pop, classic rock, top 100 songs, and anything else famous. Basically the crowd pleasing class. Ever since I joined the class all I've wanted to play was metal. And there was this constant pushback from my teacher. Let me tell you about my teacher. He plays in a pop/disco cover band and plays for mainly people that are 50+ years old. So of course there's pushback from him. Whatever that's fine we all have our opinion. We played One Step Closer by Linkin Park for the whole school and there was a moshpit and we had the loudest reaction from a crowd that the band had ever heard. So we're like oh yeah people like metal lets play more metal. So we sent out a survey full of all sorts of genres, artists, bands, basically everything you'd expect on a music survey. The top results were hard rock and metal. We started pumping out that good hard rock because that's what the people in the survey said. Everytime we tried something new and hard our teacher would basically tell us this sucks and it won't work or it's not popular enough. So we decided to do one of the most popular metal songs of all time. Chop Suey. 2 BILLION streams across all streaming services. Guess what he says. SOAD is a niche band and that Chop Suey Isn't popular. What do I say for him to understand that people like hard rock and metal music?

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u/FragrantLetter8925 — 1 day ago

This is why I don't talk to strangers...

I have new neighbors next door. A man and a woman...I have never talked to the woman, but the man introduced himself and smiles and says hello when I see him out front. I dont know if they are a couple or if they are just roommates. ​

A few days ago he saw me outside and says, "Hey! I been meaning to ask you something. Do you smoke? If so, I should come over and smoke with you sometime."

I was thinking it was kinda weird that he was asking me to smoke at MY house, instead of inviting me to his house...but I said that sounds cool I'll text you my number which seemed like a good idea to do anyway because we live next door to each other and have pets.

I texted him so that he would have my number, and as you can see in my screenshots....shit got weird. I need a good reply that will make him feel like the dumbass he is and let him know that I am not interested in having any type of relationship with him other than NEIGHBOR. I feel like he was really trying to find out of I had a boyfriend. The cat outfit/ tail question was too much though. That's some creepy/ weirdo shit to ask somebody you just met.

I have not replied yet and as you can see in the screenshots, his dumbass keeps texting. I have no problem being direct or rude. I am very good at that. I just have not found the right words yet in the right order.

"This is why I dont talk to strangers."

I could reply with that. But will he GET IT?

u/Shedoesntwant — 7 hours ago

Did I get the wrong number or is she just being nice?

For context I met this girl at a bar, and played pool with her dad all night, when i left for the night i asked if any of them were going out tomorrow, and she gave me her phone to put my number in, so when i called my phone i just saved the number as her and messaged her the next day but now she doesnt know who i am after sending a pic of me? Is she just being nice trying to get rid of me? Or somehow did i magically get the wrong number? Or could there be a possibility she actually just totally forgot I existed after talking all night and playing pool with her family?

u/imcooliguessmaybe — 2 days ago
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should i apologize to my “talking stage” for being too clingy, or is that only going to make things worse?

i’m 17f, he’s 18m; please be easy on me, i’m aware this is a juvenile issue

for context, i had been talking to this guy online for a few months last school year, and it ended due to a misunderstanding. there’s no bad blood, and we’ve been talking again for the past few days. we’ve been discussing meeting up this summer and seeing where it goes from there.

however, despite heavy enthusiasm the first day, he takes more than 24 hours to answer me (regardless of what i send; he also cuts conversations short sometimes) while spending like the entire day on instagram, so i was worried that he might not be interested. but i wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, because he was truly eager the first day.

side note: maybe it’s just been normalized to me to text like all day or at least throughout the day with talking stages?? that’s how it’s always been in the past for me. but apparently that’s not normal, which i wish i had been informed of a few hours ago!

anyway, this led me to be persuaded into texting him about my “concerns” earlier, shall we call them (as shown in the photos)… and i’m now realizing that i sound obsessive and clingy and insane!! which is very upsetting, because i really like this guy. (and ironically, as you can see, he left me on delivered after that.)

now i’m wondering if i should apologize tomorrow (or whenever he answers), or if that would make it worse?? i feel like i just keep digging a deeper and deeper hole for myself and i need HELP

if i do apologize i was just going to say something like “sorry for coming off so strongly [yesterday/the other day] btw 😭” “i feel bad, you can just text me whenever” AFTER he texts me first (yes i plan these things meticulously in advance)

is that weird too?? should i just leave it alone? did i already mess this up? i absolutely CRINGE every time i read the latter half of messages that i sent him

u/Zestyclose-Emu9510 — 1 day ago

Terrified to tell my results to my extremely strict parents. Please help.

I got my MA results yesterday and I am terrified.

I'm worried and terrified about my results. I saw them yesterday last night. And it's NOT good. 3.95 GPA on a ten point scale.

196 total. The highest is 256. Most of my classmates got good results.

I want to speak to my parents but at the same time can't.

Because they have high expectations. They expected atleast a 6 GPA.

I have brown parents. They wxpect a lot from me. I feel guilty too. I keep giving them hope only to destroy it.

In school, in college, now in university.

I'm terrified of telling them. They will insult me, mock me, scream and shout at me. It will go on for days and weeks .

And when that stops, they will argue themselves. Say harsh words to each other. Especially my dad to my mom. Who will cry and this will go on for days. I hate seeing her cry. She does and sacrifices a lot.

As much I want to tell them to relieve my burden of telling them, I'm terrified. I had anxiety attack last night but handled it myself, do they won't know. I couldn't eat yesterday. I couldn't eat my breakfast today.

Before you wonder, yes my parents reaction will really be bad. They warned me this time.

And no, please don't advice me against taking any step against them.

I love my parents, but really wish someone tells me what to do.

I'm think if only it was a 4, I could tell them . Yes I'd still be insulted. If I ask for a reassessment or recheck, I'll have to pay, and they will know.

I need help.

Pleaseeeeeee. I'm shaking, trembling and constant urge to throw up. Help me please.

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u/PresentPlastic842 — 13 hours ago

How the heck am i supposed to take this

Okay so context, I started talking to this guy a little over 2 months ago and we met up one time. After hanging I could feel the shift in our conversations, they were shorter, slower, etc. which I have no problem with, I casually distanced myself because I know every guy I meet is not the “one”
Basicallyyyyyyy since our convos were slow I eventually stopped responding, well he continues to text me, double text sometimes and I don’t understand why because if we both weren’t feeling each other after meeting why are we still having the same mundane conversations? I asked him last night what did he get out of our hang out because it seems like he doesn’t like me but he doesn’t want to stop texting me. This was his response.
I know for a fact these conversations are wasting both of our times..
Should I tell him to stop reaching out or should I just casually fade out like I was doing?

u/Any_Adagio_6455 — 1 day ago