I am not asking about iq, but about how do you think things? That separate you from normal people?
Something that you will see in someone and find them gifted.
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hi, I'm a teenager. 15 yrs-old. All my life has been so easy, so boring. I have an IQ of 130. Since the kindergarten ppl told me in elementary school everything will change, then in high school everything will be harder. In the contests I've taken, always first place. Almost all categories: Oratory, Mathematical Olympics (idk if that's the name in English, isn't my first language tbh), writing, reading, tests... It's a ****, I can't fit in any place, I've met a lot of people, but I never could find somebody that understands me. I have no more than two friends, and I can't talk about the things I'm into with them. At least they try to understand me. I just wanna be normal.
Today, a teacher just told me that I should skip high school, that I don't belong there. I got out of class and went to the bathroom just to cry, and I wrote this in the floor:
"why can't I just be normal?
I'm not gifted. I'm cursed. What kind of terrible God would let a world with rules, with bureaucracy, tell us that we (the gifted one') are the smartest, and then **** we all? Why do they fit and I don't? Why is it so normal for them? Why they can follow? Why is everything just obeying? Am I the problem? I cannot change the way things are. Really I can't?
Am I blind? I'm a fool! That is... not true. I am not. That's the problem. I'd rather be stupid. At least they have no problem with people or authorities.
WHY THE **** THEY DON'T SEE ANYTHING? DO I HAVE GOOD SIGHT? OR THEY ARE KINDA SO BLIND?
I don't care about anything, I just wanna be normal. Could I? What is my ****** ******* problem? Really, God help me, I need to know, why did you give me a gift, made me a gifted, and then put me in the worst place to be it?
I am a thought-criminal. A divergent. But I don't wanna be both of it. Could I change? Apply? I've tried. I SWEAR I'VE TRIED. I JUST CANNOT. WHY, LORD, WHY?
I just wanna be normal."
Anyways, thanks for reading.
My son is having behavior difficulties at school and we suspect it is related to boredom. He is currently reading at a 3rd grade level and is confident in addition, subtraction, and multiplication.
Does anyone have recommendations for learning apps to challenge him? He is particularly interested in science (biology/DNA) and reading. TIA
These spells started for me a few years ago, and they are much less intense, and much less frequent than they were before, but they still feel pretty awful, like I can’t think as clearly as I normally do.
Does anybody else have these spells / episodes? How have you dealt with them? I can’t find a doctor that will take me seriously on the matter, so I’ve been raw dogging it for years now.
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I am yet to come to terms with what has happened yesterday.
I have always known that my child is smart. The six year old is a lover of words, he has always been good in spelling bees and he has this habit of posing an age inappropriate question which appears too big to him. We have encouraged him, trained, and have attempted not to make it pressure. But yesterday really took me by surprise.
I was preparing lunch in the kitchen, when he strolled in and picked a random note on the counter and began spelling out loud, calmly, confidently, Methyltrimethoxysilane. No hesitation. No second-guessing. Just… spelled it. You are familiar with the mtms. Then looked after it with some two more long technical words as he was enumerating grocery items.
I smiled, nodded, complimented him that it was very good, and with a slight gesture of shooing him back to his room, wondered inside how I had ended up being the mother of a child who could spell words I could not spell. Subsequently, as I sat to breathe later, I noticed that we had seen the word on previous scrolls of Alibaba pages of school-based science kits and learning tools with a learning laboratory theme. And somehow that was more than anything with him.
I am so proud, and to some extent, I am overwhelmed. I would like to encourage his gift without making it a pressure or burnout.
Parents of gifted kids:
How do you assist them develop without performance being the major topic?
What makes a difference and what not to do?
I would like to do this properly.
Cluster grouping is one of the main components of the local public school's gifted program for elementary aged kids. How is that numerically possible in a small school?
There are 89 2nd graders, or 4 classrooms. Two classrooms are put into a team together. The cluster grouping as defined on the county web site is to group gifted kids on the same team, not even the same classroom. I think the requirements for the program include top 10% on the CoGat, not the top 2% of intellectual ability. So 9 kids spread over two classes? Is that even enough to make a difference in educational setting at all, even ignoring the fact that only 2 of them likely have IQ scores above 130?
What have you seen in your programs, or your kid's programs? Were the kids seated together at one table and allowed to work together or were they split up? Was cluster grouping beneficial? Did it make any difference at all?
I’m in a deeply vulnerable place right now, and I’m honestly embarrassed even writing this.
I have almost no real support outside my family. I have zero close friends. Over the past few years, I’ve gone through one traumatic experience after another, and I also went through a divorce recently. On top of that, I hate my job. I’m very good at it and it pays well, so I’m stuck with it, but there is nothing else about it that I actually like.
I first started seeing my psychiatrist because I was dealing with palpitations and a lot of trauma-related distress. I still remember that at the beginning he asked me to get an ECG, and even in those early appointments I could feel a huge difference in how I felt before seeing him versus after. I would go in feeling utterly overwhelmed and leave feeling calmer. Over time, I think I developed some kind of infatuation or attachment or transference, whatever you call it.
He has no role in this except being the amazing person he is. He has always been professional, principled, and appropriate. He was just doing his job. He has no role in what I’m feeling. This is coming from me and from how starved I am for this kind of connection in real life.
What makes this so painful is that I don’t really have anyone around me who feels as kind, intelligent, emotionally sensitive, and understanding as he does. Something about his voice and the way he smiles when he looks at me. My family is my only support, and I’m grateful for them, but they’re fairly simple people and I often feel profoundly alone at the level of emotional and intellectual depth I need. Being around someone who felt calm, sharp, kind, and deeply understanding affected me more than I expected.
I know I don’t actually know him as a real person outside the professional setting. I know I may be idealizing him. I know therapy can intensify these feelings. But it still hurts. It hurts because it feels like I will never meet anyone like that in real life, and I know I can’t have that kind of relationship with him.
I’ve already requested a transfer because I think the attachment was becoming too painful. Last night I even had a dream where I was in his office and just fell asleep there while he worked. Nothing romantic or sexual happened in the dream. I just slept. Even that feels sad to me, like my mind is just clinging to the feeling of safety and relief I feel when I’m near him.
Has anyone else experienced this with a psychiatrist or therapist? How did you deal with it? How do you come to terms with the feeling that you’ll never be understood that way in real life?