r/ExEgyptDating

This is a fake acc to feel free in what I want to say because it is a sensitive topic and i has no one to ask

I was in a crush on someone and we had sex - Making out- for the first time in my life but I stayed away from him because he makes me feel bad about myself, whatever!

The problem is that my brain doesn't accept that I'm going to be with someone else one day, I thought that anything sexual that would happen would be with The One, I can't move on and I don't know if I'm going to tell my next lover that I've actually been in a sexual relationship before? Do Eastern males still Eastern males even they get rid of religion, and backward traditions by wanting to marry a girl who has not yet been touched?

I prefer people +30 and preferably from Cairo too, so that if we feel comfortable with each other, we can go out and meet

Im tired of the games, of not being able to be myself not to be perceived as “desperate” or get played with then discarded.

Im especially sick of ghosting.. why is everything going okay for two weeks with daily texts and calls then suddenly NOTHING, and after finally getting something its always how some "ظروف" came up few weeks ago and then nothing is the same anymore, just say youre uninterested and stop wasting my and your time, its so disrespectful.. especially if we were talking for weeks and months.

Dont get me started on the ridiculous posts being made here and the ridiculous check lists that people require you to check in order to be given a chance.. its so dehumanizing. We are human beings, relationships must have compromise. Social media have given us a false sense of having endless or possible “better” options, but its simply not true.. if it was true majority of people wouldnt be suffering of loneliness.

im not saying that people need to accept someone that is not their type or that doesnt meet any of their standards for the sake of being in a relationship, but if someone checks almost all your standards except one or two it might be reasonable to give them a chance.

dont get me started with the men who pretend to be interested in something serious only to get sexual and inappropriate with you.. its honestly exhausting. or people who post/engage in corn subreddits and dming us for a serious relationship.. really?

Also why is suddenly almost every post (mostly made by men) demanding that their partner shouldnt have been in a past relationship or has any type of past.. isnt that an ex religious subreddit where people are supposedly more open and forgiving with eachother? im not saying you HAVE TO accept someone who slept with 10 people or if they slept with anyone at all especially if you are a virgin, but ive seen multiple posts demanding they prefer someone that wasnt in any relationship AT ALL prior to them.

and like come on.. most of us here are in our mid to late 20s, why are grown non religious people basically demanding a “قطة مغمضة" type of thing.. you dont want someone that lived before you or made any mistakes? how unrealistic and unforgiving. ive legit seen some muslim men more accepting of women’s pasts than the men ive seen/conversed with here.

whats the point of dating non religious then if we’re going to follow the exact awful rules, conditions and traditions that religion and society imposes on us? so its basically the same thing only without prayer and religious rituals?

and the way almost ever post is made with too much AI down to the title- like yall cant have an original thought anymore? even dms are obviously AI LIKE WTH- (i get using ai to help you make or organize your post) but sometimes EVERYTHING is obviously AI and its so cringe like at least come up with the title to your own post..

this is not a post against men btw, im a straight woman so obviously my dating frustrations will be directed towards men, if you feel the same way about women please feel free to make your own post about it and do not use my post to make this about you or turn it into a gender war thing🙏🏻

i feel like i might be downvoted but i dont care i just really needed to rant, it’s already hard enough as a non religious person to find a partner outside in the real world so i thought it will be easier on here and people will be more accepting of eachother since we are a minority community, but it seems like i was a fool to expect something legit to come from reddit.

why is the idea of consent so hard for men to grasp?

why can't men understand that YES consent is important and YES it makes it easier for everyone if it's verbal and even that alone isn't always enough

cuz many ppl especially here in Egypt treat sex like it's that magical thing that's impossible to attain so they overlook consent and treat it as some non important detail that just prolongs the path to that magical thing

the word consent comes from the latin words (con) and (sentire) where (con) means (with) and (sentire) means (feel)

consent shouldn't only be verbal, it also has to be apparent that both parties desire the same thing both want to feel with the other party.

the absence of a NO is not a yes, saying I don't really feel like it but if u want to I don't mind is not a yes, saying i would do it for you is not devotion and it's definitely not a yes.

and it IS that big of a deal and it isn't talked about nearly enough.

ppl who argue saying "اصل احنا عملنا كدا قبل كدا ف ايه الجد جديد"

any prior agreements doesn't make u entitled for anything cuz you don't own the other person's body.

consent isn't just given it's shared, i don't give consent as in giving permission for the other party to use my body, we consent to each other to share an experience we both desire and can only be done ethically if we both desire it.

sorry for the long post but we should really talk about it and everybody should be aware of what consent is cuz it breaks my heart the most when a friend is graped or SAed and ppl around them tell them that what happened isn't what you think it is you are just overly sensitive or saying it's even their fault for not making it clear enough.

please talk more about consent.

F20
Honestly down for new friends, might find my person in the process who knows

Idc abt gender

Why do Egyptian men (i notice this mostly with men from humbler backgrounds but it still applies to the rest) almost fetishize non egyptian women and would die to have them?
Im mixed and im very proud of my egyptian side and it’s a very big part of who i am, and extremely important to me to the point i find myself forgetting to mention im not fully Egyptian to people I’ve known for months, and that historically made forming any relationships with the opposite gender hard because their reaction to finding out always freaks me the fuck out because they always hyperfocus on and almost get too excitet about it and automatically attribute whatever good traits they think i have to the other side. and frankly i get intense secondhand embarasment because of it, and it icks me out very badly, especially considering my non egyptian female friends (arab and otherwise) rarely take egyptian men seriously/aspire to have relatioships with them and are very wary and aware if the negative things theyre stereotipically known for.
And youd think id encounter less of this when the guy is well educated and financially comfortable but oh well.
The self loathing is way too deep.

يعني أنا مش فاهم لحد إمتى المشكلة دي هتفضل موجودة. الواحد فعلًا محتاج يتجوز، ما إحنا مش زي أمريكا الـجنس متاح وسهل. أنا في العشرينات، والموضوع جسديًا ونفسيًا صعب بسبب الـهيجان و الهرمون التستوستيرون اللي فشخني

عديت بتجارب خلتني أتسحل فيها تجرب غيرت تفكيري ، ولما بتفركش بتحس إنك محتاج من ده تاني، فدخلت في دايرة متعبة.

تفكيري اتغير وبقى صعب ألاقي شريكة حياة بالمواصفات دي. ومش عارف البنات عندهم نفس احتياج و نفس الهرمونات ولا لأ بس اكيد مش زي الرجاله عشان لو كان كده كان زمان الحواز اتسهل

طيب انا بكتب البوست ده تاني وبحاول ابقي منظم اكتر فيه ..

انا بكتب البوست ده ليه؟؟ عشان زهقت من احساس الوحدة والرتابة الي كان في حياتي الفترة الي فاتت .. ومحتاج لكمل رحلتي اني الاقي my soul mate.

38 M. Senior graphic designer. شغال في الـ creative field بقالي سنين، فغالبًا عندي opinions زيادة عن اللزوم عن الأفلام، الألوان، والمزيكا الي بتشتغل في الخلفية وإحنا بنتكلم.

لا أدري خلفيتي مسلم ، أب لولدين، وبحاول أوازن بين الحياة، الشغل، والـ existential crises الخفيفة الي بتيجي بعد الساعة ٢ بالليل.

189 cm، broad build، حوالي 100kg. كنت رياضي زمان، والشغل المكتبي سرق جزء من الفورمة مع الوقت… بس عندي stubborn belief إني هدخل الأربعين بشكل أحسن بكتير من النسخة الي ضيعتها التلاتينات. So currently: work in progress with good shoulders 😌

مش بدور على drama ولا تعقيدات ولا حد محتاج يختبر صبري emotionally. عايز connection مريحة، فيها attraction، كلام حقيقي، هزار، chemistry، ومساحة آمنة إن كل واحد يبقى نفسه من غير تمثيل.

بحب:

\- القعدات الهادية

\- الأنيمي والـ mythologies

\- أي conversation تروح فجأة من الهزار لأسئلة وجودية

\- والناس الي عندها personality فعلًا مش مجرد bio معمول بـ ChatGPT

غالبًا هتلاقيني يا قاعد على اللابتوب، يا بضيع وقتي أتعلم حاجة جديدة، يا بفكر أبدأ حياة جديدة وأسافر فجأة.

Turn-ons:

humor ذكي، بنات عندها depth، eye contact طويل شوية، وحد فاهمة إن الراحة النفسية attractive جدًا فعلًا.

لو انتي لطيفة، بتدوري علي كونكشن حقيقي مش مجرد one night stand، وبتعرفي تفتحي كلام من غير “قول حاجة”... we’ll probably get along.

انا اكتشفت اني خايفة من الجواز علشان كدا برفض لدرجة حتى بخاف من اني اجرب

في هنا بنات ميولهم بيبي جيرل او مامي ♥️

انا ميولي بيبي جيرل 😅

I think I’ve hit my lowest… and I can’t fucking do this alone anymore

I’m drained

Like… completely drained to the point where I feel like my mind is about to literally explode

My heart is heavy and I have no where to go

Not because I have nobody

Bas 3ashan fe3lan mahadesh fahemny and I hate it :)

I’m 24 I like art, music

anything handmade I genuinely admire the effort people put into creating things, no matter how simple or complex. There’s something beautiful about that to me.

Music is my escape ( please be as passionate about it as me )

It doesn’t just help… it heals me :)

Right now I’m literally sitting on the gym floor, crying, headphones in, because I couldn’t even finish a workout. I didn’t eat anything this morning after spending it arguing and crying

And I’ll be honest for once

I can’t handle this on my own anymore.

I’ve always hated the idea of needing someone. I saw it as weakness

But right now? I just… can’t do this alone

I’m not looking for anything intense or demanding

What I want is something that feels like a genuine connection more like a close friendship than a typical relationship.

The kind where you can be your unfiltered self. The goofy, impulsive thoughts. The deep conversations. The comfortable silence.

Because the truth is, I don’t even know if I’m capable of loving the way I used to. I’m exhausted, a bit guarded, and honestly… kind of afraid of people right now so I'll be very cautious if u don't mind it

Still, here’s me:

I care deeply

I feel things intensely (which is both a gift and a curse)

I make art

I love meaningful and even controversial conversations

I’m thoughtful

I’ll respect your space

I’ll share music with you all the time

I’ll sit with you in silence when that’s all you need :)

I'm also very good looking and I take very good care of myself

I don't care about looks so much but height is kind of a big deal for me

I don’t know how to talk about myself beyond that. I just think I’m someone you understand slowly… if you’re patient enough

I’m writing this at my absolute lowest, so please don’t expect cheerful energy right away. I’m not there. Not even close.

I’m Muslim, not very religious.

I’m not okay with anything rushed, especially anything physical or uncomfortable please respect that .

And just to be clear: I might want kids someday. Not 100% certain, but it matters to me, so if you’re completely against that, we’re probably not aligned.

If this doesn’t resonate with you, that’s completely fine but please do not waste my time :)

But if it does… maybe you get it and you'll literally be the best thing that has ever happened to me

Preferable age range : 25-35

Let's play duo in league! I am an old League player, since 2021. after being bored I decided to revist the game, if you are interested you are welcom to join me, its not pressure just to chill and have fun.

34, Cairo. Powerlifter, so yeah — on the bulky side, won't pretend otherwise.

Looking for something serious and real-life. The kind of thing that builds towards marriage or a long-term partnership.

Outside the gym, I'm the kind of person who falls down rabbit holes — reading about new tech, picking up random topics just to learn them. A good film night is one of my favourite ways to switch off.

Heads up: people often read me as serious or a bit strict on first impression. Anyone who actually knows me will tell you it's the opposite. I'm loyal, straightforward, and I genuinely can't deal with constant drama.

One thing to be upfront about: I've finished my master's and I'm planning a PhD abroad in the next few years. So long-term, I won't be based in here — better we both know from the start.

What I'm hoping for: someone on the slim or fit side, ambitious or at least clear on where she's heading, and honest from the first message — that one matters to me more than anything else.

If any of this sounds like your wavelength, say hi.

اكس كريستيان مش بدور على ارتباط على طول كدا خالص حابة اتعرف بس على ناس ونشوف الدنيا رايحة فين، أنا في المجال الطبي بحب الميوزك والقراءة

لو مهتم نتكلم بليز عرف نفسك في أول ماسج ❤️

Hello everyone, I am seeking a serious relationship that leads to an official commitment within a few months.

Basic information:

• I am from a middle class family.
• Conservative Muslim background.
• Still wear the hijab and not eager to take it off.
• Me and my entire family are college educated and have white-collar jobs.
• No previous relationships.
• Zero interest in alcohol, drugs or tobacco. (Would love to try pork one day though 😅).
• My looks are average. Nothing outstanding, nothing worth mentioning. If looks are very important to you that you'd like a detailed description, just ignore this post.

Location: Middle Delta. Open to relocate to Cairo or other big cities in the Delta.

Personality-wise : I am overall a calm person, and considerate towards others' feelings. I prefer simplicity over luxury. I enjoy being alone and prefer the company of a few people over big gatherings. People who dislike me say that I am very obstinate in what I consider right and wrong. And that I am extremely private and kept to myself. From my own perspective my biggest flaw is that I can be passive aggressive sometimes if I am really angry at someone, and I am working on changing that.

My relationship with religion & view on life: I don't care about religion, but I don't mind participating in cultural events. And I pretend to pray and fast to keep my peace of mind. To me, life is just a bunch of chemical reactions going through a fleeting moment of awareness. There might be gods/a god out there, I actually hope there is, but we don't know and maybe we'll never know. So I'd like to enjoy this fleeting existence and live it as good as I can. And sharing it with a like-minded partner is part of the joy :).

My ethics and values come from a place of compassion towards others.

What I am looking for: An authentic person from a similar social context to mine. Someone who is looking for a serious commitment and starting a family, and wants to build a life here in Egypt. Someone who sees women as actual human beings and not just sexual objects. And obviously, someone who doesn't care about religion too.

I am not what you're looking for if :

• you drink alcohol or do drugs.
• age below 30 or over 40.
• you are child-free/anti-natalist.
• you are looking for something casual or want to drag the relationship for several months before actually committing.
• you want to engage in any kind of sexual activity before marriage.
• you are known in your immediate community to be non-religious.
• you want to live in a village or a small town. (Sorry, but small towns in Egypt have their own set of laws and traditions that I am not willing to cater to).
• having a luxurious lifestyle is one of your main goals.

I know the account is new, but don't worry, we don't have to share personal information about ourselves. Just a little talking will do, and the period could even last for more than a month before we reveal our identities

I had an account, but I deleted it a month ago and created a new one to meet new people

I am 24 years old, of average height. I am not working yet, but I have the qualifications to do so. I live an above-average lifestyle and I am seeking to become financially independent. I am a calm and kind-hearted person, and a bit cultured—I can talk about many aspects of life.

I am looking for a man between 23 and 27 years old, cultured, and with a height between 170-185 cm. His field of study doesn't matter to me as much as him being passionate and perseverant, and kind-hearted.

For me, these are red flags:

Having pathological anger issues.

Not admitting his mistakes.

Being unclean.

الموضوع عدي عليه اقل من اسبوعين بس البيريود متاخره ٣ ايام و هي متوتره و خايفه، ممكن اعرف لو طلع فيه حمل ايه ابسط طريقه للتخلص منه؟ فيه حبوب سهل الواحد يحصل عليها لو لسه ف مراحل اوليه فشخ ولا لازم دكتور؟ و الدكتور هيبقي متفهم ولا ممكن يخش ف مشكله؟ اي حد عنده خبره ف الموقف ياريت يفيدنا🙏🏼

I got banned from r/ExEgyptDating for commenting "interested" on a post. When I asked why, the mod accused me of being a predator. What followed reveals a moderator with zero principles, a god complex, and a dangerous lack of self-awareness.

The Initial Ban:

I commented "interested" on his post. That's it. No harassment, no rule-breaking. I was banned immediately with zero explanation. When I messaged him asking why, he accused me of "following a pattern" of targeting "victims" and posting "meet up posts." I've never done either. Zero evidence. Zero specifics. I am posting a screenshot from my profile indicating my comment on his post, as well as a previous post of mine on another subreddit.

The Contradictions:

He banned me as a "creep," then immediately invited me to his other subreddit r/UnholyEgy, but only if I passed his questionnaire and "got my answers right." So which is it? Am I a threat or not?

He demanded I prove I'm "not hiding anything" by filling out his questionnaire, completely missing that Reddit's entire value is anonymity. That's literally why we're all here. His logic defies the platform itself. Although he claimed that he would never invite predators like me to his other subreddit, he kept asking me to go on it to really prove that I am irreligious!

The God Complex:

When I questioned his approach, he started asking what he's done for me and said that I should be grateful that he is trying to protect us. He admitted that he might make mistakes and ban the wrong people, but it is for the greater good. Nobody asked him to do any of this. Also, he does sound like a delusional self-proclaimed leader with a savior complex.

He doesn't understand that Reddit is anonymous for a reason. Everybody knows the worst qualities in humans come out here with no repercussions; that's the trade-off of anonymity. It's not his job to "save" people. Yet he acts like he's doing us all a favor and deserves appreciation for it.

Also, when he demanded respect! Oh my! It is such a stupid statement. Respect is only earned, and he didn't earn mine.

The Bottom Line:

This mod has no actual principles. He just has power and uses it inconsistently. He can't even keep his own story straight. He banned a woman for one comment, accused her of being a predator with zero evidence, then invited her to another sub while demanding she prove she's trustworthy, and somehow, when I said I would post our conversation, he became all apologetic.

This is not moderation. This is a power trip wrapped in a savior complex.

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