why is the idea of consent so hard for men to grasp?
why can't men understand that YES consent is important and YES it makes it easier for everyone if it's verbal and even that alone isn't always enough
cuz many ppl especially here in Egypt treat sex like it's that magical thing that's impossible to attain so they overlook consent and treat it as some non important detail that just prolongs the path to that magical thing
the word consent comes from the latin words (con) and (sentire) where (con) means (with) and (sentire) means (feel)
consent shouldn't only be verbal, it also has to be apparent that both parties desire the same thing both want to feel with the other party.
the absence of a NO is not a yes, saying I don't really feel like it but if u want to I don't mind is not a yes, saying i would do it for you is not devotion and it's definitely not a yes.
and it IS that big of a deal and it isn't talked about nearly enough.
ppl who argue saying "اصل احنا عملنا كدا قبل كدا ف ايه الجد جديد"
any prior agreements doesn't make u entitled for anything cuz you don't own the other person's body.
consent isn't just given it's shared, i don't give consent as in giving permission for the other party to use my body, we consent to each other to share an experience we both desire and can only be done ethically if we both desire it.
sorry for the long post but we should really talk about it and everybody should be aware of what consent is cuz it breaks my heart the most when a friend is graped or SAed and ppl around them tell them that what happened isn't what you think it is you are just overly sensitive or saying it's even their fault for not making it clear enough.
please talk more about consent.