r/DesiWeddings

It’s an arranged marriage, but we’ve taken a few months to decide, not just a few dates. While discussing wedding arrangements, I suggested that we split everything 50-50, book a resort, and have all functions together with both families staying there. He said we should instead do a 60-40 split where I pay more.

I asked him his rationale, especially since the functions are common and the number of guests is almost equal. He said that traditionally the bride’s side pays more, and that they have already spent a lot on his four sisters’ weddings, so now it’s my turn. He also mentioned that he would be spending from his savings, to which I said the same applies to me because I am not gonna take anything from my parents (except my mom's saris and jewellery). he said you could take from them but since I started earning I always wanted to sponsor and fund my own wedding and i don't wanna take money from them.

I explained that times have changed and nowadays both sides usually contribute equally. He responded that things are still not like that. his cousin is getting married and they are still following the traditional practise of the guy paying for Sangeet and bride for the wedding. He also said that in the future he would need to spend on his sisters when they visit, so he wants to save. I told him it’s not fair to expect me to pay more for the wedding because of that.

We both can afford the expenses and we both earn. So affordability is not an issue. I said we also need to gift gold to his 4 sisters (he indicated that we have to) so 50-50 is fine because we have more expenses to take care of.

The discussion turned into an argument. he said you can easily afford the extra expense and bride side should pay more is normal. at the end he got agitated and commented "they say it right girls earn but don't wanna spend" and said we can do 50-50, but then all future expenses will also be split. I already contribute in many situations even when we go out, I pay at times, and I also spend on my own family so his comment that “girls earn but don’t want to spend” felt completely untrue and hurtful. I just didn't understand any of his reasons when I genuinely asked him if he has a rationale for 60-40 ......- bride should pay more

.......-they paid for 4 sisters

.......-he got to spend on his sisters when they visit

.......-character attack on me saying "girls don't spend" or I am too forward

......- that my parents have only 2 kids so they can spend on my wedding. But I didn't ask his parents to have 5 kids. It's their personal choice and my parents choice to have only 2. Why should that define how to split.

I didn't understand any of this.

Hi, I’m getting married this December and I’m currently looking to book a makeup artist for my wedding, sangeet, and a small pooja in Delhi NCR.

I reached out to around 10–15 artists whose work I genuinely liked and connected with, but none of them are quoting less than ₹95,000 to ₹1 lakh. On top of that, I’m also expected to cover accommodation, travel and food costs for them and their team. And it doesn't include draping and hair accessories.

I’m a makeup artist myself, so technically I could do my own makeup. But since it’s such an important day, I don’t want to risk anything going wrong because of nervousness, stress, or last-minute issues. That’s why I’m trying to hire someone else.

At this point, I honestly don’t know what’s considered normal anymore. What should be a realistic budget for bridal makeup for these three functions in Delhi NCR? I’m feeling a bit confused and overwhelmed by all of this, so any advice or honest input would really help.

My husband and I are hoping to rent some traditional attire for the ceremony/reception portion of a friends wedding. We are near Devon in Chicago but from my research, none of the stores in the area rent. Would love recs if you have them! We are both tall in stature so would love to be able to try things on before renting as well.

Grew up watching this show and now when I m about to marry this year, show decided to go off air😭 why God why...how will I afford my dream lehenga now🤣😅 i really miss watching BBB and yaari dosti shadi on NDTV goodtimes

Hi everyone! My brother is getting married in August and my mom and I still have not found our outfits. We are looking for an old school Punjab type of ghagra outfit. I’d rather look online instead of flying to Canada to buy clothes there. Do you guys have any suggestions?

Thank you in advance :)