I decided to go celibate after my long-term relationship ended in January this year, and after 2 hookups. I’m just wondering if self-pleasure helps, or if I should stop doing that too. I stopped watching porn in October last year, and now I’m wondering if I should get rid of my vibrators 😭
I'm just starting my journey and would like to talk to other people that are on this ride too!
I really want to get rich shit so i was wondering, should i sell my body? But how? I’m so sick for being poor i want money rn, i want to be rich. So it is worth it?
I’m a 25 year old woman. I abstained from all sexual activity until about a year ago. At that time, I lost my virginity, and all I have run into since letting my guard down is men who do what they need to in order to get what they want, and they leave as soon as they’re bored and/or find someone prettier. Just got out of a 6 month relationship where I got left in such a state of heartbreak that I am currently looking to turn to celibacy for life. No more romantic relationships in any capacity. I refuse to go through this kind of pain over and over for the rest of my life. While I believe it is the correct decision, it’s a definite change. What have been the positives you have been experiencing after choosing to be celibate?
I’m writing this as a quiet reflection on a path that unfolded gradually and then became very clear to me over time.
I’m a woman in my 40s. Throughout my life, I’ve had a few relationships, none of them long-term or leading to cohabitation. I don’t have children. For many years, I lived in a way that was fairly typical—open to connection, dating, and the possibilities that come with it.
Around 2018, something shifted in me in a way that I can only describe as a calling. It wasn’t a sudden decision, but rather a deep inner clarity that developed over time. From that point forward, I began to step away from sexual and romantic involvement altogether.
Today, I live in a state of complete celibacy. I don’t experience sexual desire or the need for physical intimacy with any gender. This is not rooted in rejection of anyone, nor in judgment of others’ paths or choices. It is simply something that arose within me as part of a deeply personal spiritual direction.
I do identify this experience as a form of religious calling. It has become a quiet but central part of my inner life, one that deepens my sense of connection with God and brings a strong sense of clarity and alignment.
Interestingly, I did still explore casual dating again in 2023 and 2024, as a way of checking in with myself and my feelings. After those experiences, I found even more certainty in my path and chose to step away from dating entirely.
What remains for me is a sense of peace—something very clean, settled, and undisturbed. It feels like I am no longer carrying emotional dynamics or expectations that were never truly mine to hold. There is a lightness in that.
I share this quietly, not as a statement or philosophy, but simply as one lived experience among many possible ways of being.
If anyone here has gone through a similar transition into voluntary celibacy—whether gradual or sudden—I would genuinely be interested in hearing how that unfolded for you. What changed, what stayed, and how you experience your path today. Feel free to share your story if you feel comfortable.
33F. I’ve been consciously abstaining from sex and self love for almost 6 months now, this is the longest I’ve gone since I was first sexually active… so it’s been a huge deal for me. I’m in therapy for BPD and sex addiction, and my mental health has never been better. I’ve worked really hard to get to a point where I like me as an individual outside of my sexuality, I’ve stopped a lot of my bad habits, I enjoy my life and my hobbies, I have a job I adore that has renewed my love for what I do… annnnddddd I’ve committed to the gym at least 4-5 times a week for several months. I really enjoy it, now. But after every gym session I feel like a feral animal. I feel like I’m going to explode. I’ve tried to push myself to sheer physical exhaustion so I’m just too tired to think about it, and even that doesn’t help, so what the heck do the celibate gym goers do to chill tf out? 🫠
Unfortunately through sex I get too attached and it destroys my life every time. My life is always on point and successful when I’m abstaining from sex and purely focused on making money, friendships and personal enjoyment from other experiences.
I’m not religious at all, I’m simply going celibate because I prefer the way my brain works and how ky life feels when I’m not having sex with people.
Guys, I have an insanely high sex drive. I've intentionally deprived myself of having sex with women for more than 3 years now. This is a decision that I constantly scrutinise as I fear that I'm abstaining from sex and all forms of sexual activity during the peak of my sex drive. And the only reason why I haven't succumbed to my desires is simply because of the consequences. I'm scared of making a baby with the wrong woman, I'm scared of catching an infection, I'm scared of falling for the wrong person because I'm a really sensitive man, but most of all I'm scared that if I folded it would come back to haunt me later in my life and I don't want that because I wanna get married one day.
I think about sex all day, every day. If I'm not working on ridiculously hard engineering problems the only thing that circulates my mind is sex. I love beautiful women, I love a woman's naked body, I love boobs (all sizes I think), I love bums, I love the sound of a woman moaning when she plays with herself, I love the sounds a wet pussy makes. I love seeing a moist vagina, I love when she's so wet and you can feel it through her panties. I miss the tastes of a wet, clean pussy. I miss swallowing it. I love when they bend over. I'd love to fuck a hairy pussy one day. I'd love to be surrounded by multiple naked women in one room. I would love to watch multiple different women eat each other out in real life. I love a woman with big round breasts and veins popping out like goulda cheese. I wanna fuck Athena from god of war and drink her blood. I wanna fuck all the pornstars I had a crush on when I was a teen. I'm hard from the moment I wake till the moment I fall asleep.
That's how I feel and these are the things that go through my mind when I'm not working or studying. I could do all these things but I can't because I don't want to, it's not me. This is not a cry for help. And no, I'm not lonely or some kind of incel. I knew abstaining from sex would be hard but it's just gotten even harder as time goes on. I'm surrounded by and friends with beautiful women with most of them trying to seduce me, to break my streak. 😭😭 But again, I can't fold... I'd be doing a huge disservice to the kind of man I want to become.
I don't really know what the point of all this was but if you're going through something similar...
I really believe our culture sees celibacy as a death sentence. Touch starvation is a real issue and we have been conditioned to associate deep physical affection with sex. Lies. Deep, chaste physical affection with your close friend(s) is essential to human flourishing. Ladies, yall got a friend who you see as a sister? Walk down the street holding hands, I dare you. Screw it, have a spend the night, share the bed and tell each other secrets like you're 10 year olds again. Fellas? Got a friend you see as a brother? Do the same thing. Let's make friendship look badass. Celibacy is NOT a tragedy. It's our superpower.
I (22F) am trying my hardest to stay celibate. I haven’t had sex since Nov 2025 which having no sex is easy when being single but it’s the urge to masturbate that’s hard. It hits hardest at night to have the urge but, i always manage to stop it. I can’t remember the last time i masturbated but I think it’s at least been a month, I have no clue. Another thing is that I also have sexual thoughts when I see a cute guy. I tell myself it’s not okay to think that and get over it. But, I’m getting to the point that I’m getting scared for when I do find someone in the future because I want to wait til marriage but, I’m afraid my desires will push me over the edge with them and I’m also afraid I could bring them with me. :/
I'm cut from family also so don't know what to do.
So backstory im indian got to know about sr an year ago on and off with a highest streak of 42 days and im 17 and a half
So has anyone manifested a comeback in their sport life through a long streak of sr because I used to play cricket till I was 15 at the time I was 85 kilos 5 foot 5 and I used to bowl at 110 kmh fast forward 17 and a half same weight but lots of muscle about 5 foot 10 in height so for those who know cricket height really helps with bowling speed I haven't bowled in an year but I feel like if I do a long streak lose this weight do the proper training and avail the manifestation benefits through retention I could perform a miracle and comeback (I bowl good line and lengths but pace is the problem and sr makes the legs strong and I belive that I may grow get that bowling speed up via sr with late pubery)
So anyone who manifested and made a comeback in ur sport pls do share some info
I couldn't stop the compulsion today and I failed the path of Celibacy again.