r/AmIBeingTooSensitive

I’m pregnant and wondering if I’m being too sensitive or if my friend’s behavior was actually rude.

A few days ago, one of my friends said she wanted to come visit to celebrate my pregnancy. She lives about 2 hours away, and she asked if my friend and her husband could stay at our house for 2 days so I agreed. And they arrived around 7pm.

The morning, they slept until around noon. I didn’t expect them to sleep that late, so I had already made breakfast and waited for them for a while. Eventually I put the food in the fridge and told them to eat it when they woke up because I wanted to finish my chores and take a nap afterward (I’m dealing with pregnancy fatigue and nausea).

After that, my friend started helping herself to food, leftover and drinks in our fridge without asking. She even ate some frozen foods I had specifically stocked for my morning sickness.

Later that evening, she said her husband was hungry and asked me if I could cook something. So I suggested to go restaurant together but they wanted to eat at home. I was honestly irritated at that point, but I made early dinner for them.

The entire visit felt strange because despite saying they came to celebrate my pregnancy, they never actually celebrated it. We didn’t go anywhere together, they didn’t do anything thoughtful, and the two days mostly felt like I was hosting and taking care of them.

On the last day, my husband and I had work and left the house in the morning. My friend said they would leave before noon, but when I came home around 3 PM, they were still there and looked like they had just woken up. And asked cook again.
And now she asked if they could come stay again in a few weeks.
I know pregnancy hormones and exhaustion can make me more emotional, so maybe I’m overreacting. But honestly, the whole experience left me feeling used and stressed instead of supported.

Am I being too sensitive, or does this seem inconsiderate to other people too?

I have a friend I've known since childhood who is an animal lover. She has always had cats, and treats them like her babies. Today I sent her an email with a Happy Mother's Day picture of a woman and a cat. I was just being silly and thought it was cute, and I've always thought of people with pets as "pet parents".

This is the response I got from her:

"Its just a personal thing I know, but I have never been a fan of the "mom" part for animals... 

It may be silly, but it may have to do with (appearing as if) some people using it as a way to compensate or explain when they have no human children. I never felt any calling to have human kids, and dont need to have animals be the substitute, bc I dont regret not ending up with any!

Plus, they never say that about a guy being a "dad" to their pets either."

This just really hurt my feelings. I send similar things to friends on social media, and many of them also have human children. Same goes for men with pets. I haven't responded to her because I honestly don't even know what I would say. We don't live anywhere near each other, and only communicate through email.

Am I being too sensitive?

So I have a male friend and we’re strictly platonic friends. We had a falling out a couple years ago and then recently a few months ago he reached out to me about reconnecting and apolgized for the falling out. (Our falling out was because I had feelings for him and he just wanted something casual and not be committed).

Lately, he hasn’t been really keeping in contact with me. I brought it up and he apolgized and said he’ll do better but still he barely replies and doesn’t reach out, it’s always me reaching out.

When we would talk it’s always him roasting me and I felt really hurt recently cuz he said some stuff that really hurt my feelings. I said some hurtful things back to him. He apolgized and i apolgized. And he said he’ll do better to keep in contact but it’s been so long since he last reached out. I don’t know why but it’s been pissing me off lately and I’m building resentment towards him again. Do I let this friendship go? Am I being too sensitive?

He makes time for our other friends and always invites them out but never me. I always invite him to my hangouts with our friends and he always declines. What’s wrong with me?

Any insight would be helpful.

I know I would get labelled as the typical nagging “wife” for this kind of complaint. My husband tends to think very “bigly” of his friends which is ofc healthy and warranted but in front of them treats me more “smally” especially his female ones.

I know he doesn’t mean it badly, he doesn’t really do anything intentionally and I wish I knew why it irritates me so much.

I generally see guys walking with their wives/girlfriends even in groups. In a group, my husband will really never walk with me. He’s a bit of a social butterfly. It makes him happy to just be in the line of 3 and let me walk ahead alone or to look around and ask everyone where to eat but complete look away from where I am.

Honestly it wouldn’t even bother me if he just didn’t do it with his female friends. That itches me the wrong way. Mostly because I love to spoil the guy, he’s really my sweetheart and I love to let him choose where we eat, what activity we do, what we eat etc etc etc. But then here come his friends and now suddenly he’s willing to make all the accommodations in the world for them 😡

I have tried talking to him about it but all it’s done is make him walk with me regularly for 1 min o it of every 10 mins so that “I don’t create a fuss” lol.

This was really a very long end of day rant. I am quite exhausted. I don’t see this man changing tbh but he has several amazing qualities so I’m just going to have to find a way to rant about it and let it go.

I can’t thank you enough for giving me this much needed space to express how I feel.

My sister-in-law is getting married, and for almost a year she had told me I would be one of her bridesmaids… but about a month ago she had mentioned that some of her fiance’s groomsmen might not be able to make it, so she might have to remove one or two bridesmaids, which included me. I understood and was okay with that! But we just found out that she actually added two new girls to the wedding party, so I was the only one removed. Since she mentioned removing me I’ve also been completely excluded from helping with the wedding, even though I had been involved in planning things like venues, colors, and decor. Now I’m no longer included at all… and I completely understand it’s her wedding but I feel a little upset? My husbands isn’t happy and suggested we don’t have to go, she also mentioned putting him and their siblings and mom alone at a table and he wasn’t a fan of that because we have our own family (two kids who she wants in the wedding) and he didn’t think it made sense for him to sit away from us. I genuinely don’t know if I should even be upset, I just needed to rant 🙃