u/CosmicCat4444

I have a friend I've known since childhood who is an animal lover. She has always had cats, and treats them like her babies. Today I sent her an email with a Happy Mother's Day picture of a woman and a cat. I was just being silly and thought it was cute, and I've always thought of people with pets as "pet parents".

This is the response I got from her:

"Its just a personal thing I know, but I have never been a fan of the "mom" part for animals... 

It may be silly, but it may have to do with (appearing as if) some people using it as a way to compensate or explain when they have no human children. I never felt any calling to have human kids, and dont need to have animals be the substitute, bc I dont regret not ending up with any!

Plus, they never say that about a guy being a "dad" to their pets either."

This just really hurt my feelings. I send similar things to friends on social media, and many of them also have human children. Same goes for men with pets. I haven't responded to her because I honestly don't even know what I would say. We don't live anywhere near each other, and only communicate through email.

Am I being too sensitive?

I had a doordash delivery a few days ago, and the dasher was great. The restaurant was very slow preparing it, but she waited there for about 15 minutes until it was ready. I had already given her a $5 tip, but I wanted to give her a bit more. Not having any cash on me, I decided to add it in the app after the order was delivered.

I thought that's what I did; I added $2, which would have been a total of $7. I remember looking at my credit card transactions and seeing the total. I figured that either the total would be adjusted or that I would see another charge of $2.

What happened, though, is that the total amount was adjusted DOWN, and based on the new total it's obvious that the dasher only ended up with a $2 tip. I've talked to support a couple of times now, trying to see if there is some way to fix this. They say there isn't.

So I asked if it would be possible to apologize to the dasher, and they said they couldn't give me her contact information. I asked if THEY could let her know what had happened, and that it wasn't what I had intended. I've read so many things about tip baiting, and it's something I would never do, but this dasher (I'm sure) must think it's exactly what I did.

I ended up feeling crappy about the whole thing, and then the support person actually asked me if they'd solved my problem! Um ... NO, not at all!

Can someone tell me how I should have handled this? Both increasing the tip, and maybe the magic words to get support to help me.