r/Adulting

I feel like I’m at a point where I should have things figured out already, but honestly I don’t. Career, life direction, goals, everything still feels a bit unclear.

Some days I feel like I’m behind, even though I know everyone moves at their own pace.

For people a bit older, did you feel the same way in your 20s? Does it eventually get clearer, or is it more about learning as you go?

Would love to hear your experiences.

I’m in my mid 20s and have recently started taking my health more seriously. Turns out I got a bunch of disorders and I need to take so many pills multiple times a day.

How do adults manage it all?? Especially if you have a condition/illness and it’s even more than average. I got a monthly 2x daily pill set, and it still doesn’t cover the powders I have to take 2x a day.

Going to graduate with a degree soon, but I just don’t understand how people just sacrifice their lives to a job?
The sacrifice their hobbies, time, freedom, and future just to live presently?
How do you guys continue living on?

im 40, earn decent money but every month im smashed. i cant stay within my budget mainly because i cant deny myself what i want, eating out, going out, buying crap. i know what i need to do logically but emotionally i cant deny myself what i want even though i know im just growing more and more debt

I work part time, but all of my free time is spent either falling asleep at 5:30 after a 9-5 shift, or cleaning because there's always just one more thing I have to do before I can relax. I live at home with my mom and two other adult siblings, my mom works full time and is often too busy for chores, and my siblings don't clean anything ever. My brother cleans up after himself usually at least, but my sister just leaves her dishes and laundry and stuff everywhere and has probably never cleaned anything in her life. I'm the one doing all the dishes, laundry, sweeping, tidying, feeding the cats, cleaning the litter, taking out the garbage... basically there's 4 people worth of mess in this 4 bedroom house we rent and I'm the only one cleaning anything.

I'm so tired and I'm so miserable, its been months since I've had time to read a book or play a video game or literally any hobby. I'm so tired all the time, any time I sit down for a second I fall asleep almost instantly. How do people do this?? AND some people work full time, AND have hobbies. How?? I'm so tired. What's even the point in living like this?

I'm 27 and I made a lot mistakes after 22.5 just gave up for little/isolated myself/cut off almost everyone. Long story short, I'm in an amazing spot now. I had work on myself alot. Health, mental, career, and have couple hobbies. The only issue is that I have no friends outside 2 people grew up in my hometown who still live their and I do not.

I have started putting myself out their and actually seeing some success. I wouldn't say friends yet, but least friendly acquaintances who actively make an attempt to talk to me. I wouldn't say we necessarily connect, though.

I wanted to ask how common my situation is. Being an adult with no friends bc least from people started interacting with recently seems like everybody has some social circle. (Plans for weekends, recounting recent stories, etc). I know prob anomaly, but didn't expect be as much given headlines always see loneliness epidemic.

I’m honestly tired. I gave people genuine love, loyalty, honesty, and care, but in the end I’m the one sitting with pain, overthinking everything, and trying to understand what I did wrong.

Sometimes I feel like being sincere is a weakness in this world. People take your kindness for granted, ignore your feelings, and move on like nothing happened while you’re left broken inside.I don’t even know how to stop feeling this heavy pain anymore. How do you heal when your heart is exhausted from caring too much? How do you stop overthinking, trusting, and hurting?

If anyone has gone through this and found a way out, I’d really appreciate your advice.

I'm 24, turning 25 next month.

Due to life circumstances and unfortunate events I'm kinda behind mentally? I feel like I'm a year out of highschool but I'm not. I went to university for linguistics, covid hit and I dropped out. I've just been doing cleaning jobs ever since.

Now I'm three years into this decent cleaning job $25/hr have about 5k saved up and a bit in investing. I met the most amazing man two years ago (going on three) he's brought up a proposal a couple times (his parents got married nine months into knowing eachother) I love him, I trust him considerably, and spending time with him has felt like living with a best friend but better, I would say yes.

Here's the kicker, he wants kids early, and would prefer for me to be a stay at home mother.

I just applied and got accepted for a collage. It's 30min away from our house, most of it would be paid for because it's in the trades and I'm a woman. This conversation has also sparked my bfs curiosity into different avenues like being a mechanic (he's currently in line for the throne of a big farm)

My goal was to complete my education, and pay off any amount of debt that I accumulate with local welding jobs and working on his farm with the machinery. Then once paid off I would have a couple children (I find the thought of birth terrifying but think it would be fulfilling to raise a bunch of little gremlins) and maybeee be a stay at home mom until they grow up. I'd buy a motorcycle and go traveling across the country.

I'm worried I'm jumping into welding without a second thought, because I'm scared of being financially dependent on someone, and want to have a skill in my back pocket that might provide for me. Also when I tell people what I want to get into it's treated as an attention grab, which is making me doubt what I want. Also mildly scared of being a single mom since I have no family.

I'm just stuck in a mental loop, of what I want, what I need, and what my bf wants. I'd appreciate some of your ancient wisdom.

I'd also like to note that my bf and I have signed a cohabitation agreement separating our finances until marriage since we're common law. Also worried about getting married and laying on debt to my future husband for no good reason

I believe i’ve already made a post about this but i honestly can’t remember. i’m nineteen and moving out while getting paid biweekly and making 15.50 an hour with rent at 640-700 (depending on how utilities flex) a month while working only 38/37 hours every week. i’m terrified i can’t do it and i applied for my move in today, and im honestly scared about it all. my mother keeps discouraging me by saying i can’t and shouldn’t do it and that i wont be able to afford anything, but i can’t really turn back now, and it’s not that i want to turn back as i just don’t have the freedom i want and need as a nineteen year old who’s pushing twenty with two little sisters. i cant seem to stop getting thrown into arguments and disagreements with my mother and it’s definitely hurting our relationship. i think i can do it and i know i wont have any money for myself to spend and that sucks but i am fully aware of the financial sacrifices im going to have to make. i really need some advice.

in my late 20s and i just let my parents down by revealing a big secret. i’ve been in debt and trying to fix it on my own and im facing the reality that i need their help. they were hurt for sure but im just wondering am i really stupid that ive been an adult for a decade and i still find new ways to hurt my parents? even though i try really hard to grow and mature and develop i feel like i just an outlier and my mistakes are worse than everyone else’s.

the answer i truly want to flat out and say but i never do.