u/wolfinthesuburbs

Okay hi hello! I give a lot of advice in here but now it’s my turn to ask. No pics as I’ve been in medical crisis and not up to pictures but I can describe it pretty well, I think well enough to get suggestions.

I have much over a decade experience dying mine and others’ hair, so I’m nowhere near a newbie and don’t have any questions about process, damage, any of that. I know how to do what I’m going to do, just kind of undecided on what product to pick. I’m blond again for the first time in forever, hooray! Problem is every time I’ve been blond before I’ve been a platinum white Wella T18 diehard. This time I’m wanting a much warmer look (I’m a natural redhead, just suits my undertones better). I’m sticking with Wella, been using it for too long to switch, but I’ve no idea which one to use.

Right now my hair is a warmish level 9 for the first ~12 inches shifting into a more neutral level 8 to 7 in the last 10 or so inches. I like the transition, I’m good with that. I’m aiming for a honeyish alllllmost almost strawberry blond just shy of the strawberry. Like sip of LaCroix amount of strawberry. I’m thinking either T30 or T35 of the liquid toner? Or mayyyybe even T50 with the cream toner but I’m worried about going too pinkish. Thoughts? Experiences? Advice? I really don’t want to land back in ginger territory.

Sorry for the book of text, I’m not a concise person 😅

Okay, I diy a lot of my clothes, some from scratch, some as repairs, some to transform… the one problem I can’t fix? Camel toe. Sorry :( No, it’s not because my clothes are too tight. Not really. It’s because I have a bigger butt than the front of my body allows for, so the extra allowance all moves to the back and the front gets pulled unfortunately tight. Usually not a huge issue, but I have a pair of overall shorts I absolutely adore that are very light wash denim. Pretty hard to ignore.

I’ve thought every which ways I could on this issue, and I cannot land on a way to fix it. Maybe there’s no fix, maybe there’s a super easy fix I’m blind to, something in between. Does anybody have any advice, suggestions?

After having multiple exchanges about texting this week (how does someone stop texting so frequently, can you tell if your partner is with someone else based on their texting behavior, etc)… I’m struck with serious curiosity about other people’s texting behavior/etiquette/routine with partners! I’m kind of wondering if I’m out of the norm.

For me (28 years old)… texting really, really isn’t a huge deal. My wife and I text a lot, but that’s mostly out of necessity of being nesting partners (do we need this from the grocery store, I won’t be home when you get home, what are we planning for dinner, shit like that). Other than that… I text one of my partners a couple times a week, sometimes just once a week, usually for a little while (hour?) back and forth, and again when we go to make plans. A long distance connection and I touch base over text a few times a week in a chat with friends and do more in depth, meaningful one on one texts every once in a while. My most recent ex and I basically only texted when we were making plans or after plans to say that was fun, see you soon. I text first when I feel like texting and let people respond when they’re able to respond. I obviously will send a check in if we haven’t seen each other/talked in a minute, but that could even be 2 weeks between if we already have scheduled time together coming up and I know I’ll be seeing them (a little less if we don’t). I strongly prioritize in person time together, and even in spaces where I want more in person time together I think I’m fully comfortable with the frequency of text communication maintaining as is. I’m this way with friends and family as well. Texting is not that important to me, but I’m starting to feel like I’m not in the majority.

So I’m curious! What are your texting expectations/etiquettes? Does it vary partner to partner? Is being texted in between visits important to you for the health of the relationship? Do you have conversations when developing the relationship about what you look for in text communication when you’re not face to face?

Not looking for advice, what works for me works for me, I’m just wondering what other people’s ideals look like! Curiosity has struck because I find myself going “oh, wow, that’s not what my text communication looks like at all!” And also maybe if I’m in the overwhelming minority I’ll understand why dating app matches seem so insistent on immediate responses and daily texts (half joking).