u/wendyz7

I expect to get downvoted, as this is probably an unpopular opinion, though many people think this, so IDK. But the Fediverse is absolutely awful. At first, people were extremely nice, helpful, and kind, but they all just turned on me and started downvoting me for some reason. Now, they're accusing me of things such as thinking my boyfriend is entitled to a relationship with me, when he really doesn't care much about me and I'm just asking if I should leave, so I'm really confused.

Has anyone else gotten constant downvotes on Lemmy with people calling you rude things, attention-seeking, and a bunch of accusations?

So I (22F) am dating a masculine non-binary person (23nb) ‘Will’, and engaged to a girl (23F) ‘Aiko’. Aiko is good at spending time with me because I would let her date someone else if she wants, she is probably monogamous, but she supports polyamory and is okay with me having other partners. Will is dating ‘Dave’ (26M) as well as me, and Will has bad attachment issues, so he is attached to several different people, including us romantically. He almost never wants to hang out with me but says that we should hang out more, it’s kind of like ‘I don’t feel like it’ or ‘I’m too depressed/busy’ when I ask if we should hang out, but he is always open to hanging out with his friends or with Dave. He always freaks out when Dave doesn’t answer his texts but doesn’t care at all if I don’t text first. 

I understand from polyamory and open relationships that Dave may be Will’s primary because Aiko is starting to be mine due to the lack of attention I get from Will, but he barely talks to me or pays attention to me, and that really makes me sad. I have tried talking to him and he just says that it is his attachment issue because Dave is leaving for the military, which he will do, so he wants to spend as much time with him as he can, but I feel sorry for him because of this and it makes me sad. I am also attached to him as well as to Aiko, but Will will hardly spend time with me even though he has a reason for it, so I feel sad for myself and for Will and for Aiko for being so fixated on Will AND for Dave because he has to leave his boyfriend.

TL;DR: My NB partner spends way more time with his other boyfriend than me, we are polyamorous. I feel way too bad for him to leave him, but I feel like it'd be best to leave. I tried talking to him before and he has a good reason, IDK what to do. Should I leave? I'm far too attached. WIBTAH if I stayed?

So I (22F) am dating a masculine non-binary person (23nb) ‘Will’, and engaged to a girl (23F) ‘Aiko’. Aiko is good at spending time with me because I would let her date someone else if she wants, she is probably monogamous, but she supports polyamory and is okay with me having other partners. Will is dating ‘Dave’ (26M) as well as me, and Will has bad attachment issues, so he is attached to several different people, including us romantically. He almost never wants to hang out with me but says that we should hang out more, it’s kind of like ‘I don’t feel like it’ or ‘I’m too depressed/busy’ when I ask if we should hang out, but he is always open to hanging out with his friends or with Dave. He always freaks out when Dave doesn’t answer his texts but doesn’t care at all if I don’t text first. 

I understand from polyamory and open relationships that Dave may be Will’s primary because Aiko is starting to be mine due to the lack of attention I get from Will, but he barely talks to me or pays attention to me, and that really makes me sad. I have tried talking to him and he just says that it is his attachment issue because Dave is leaving for the military, which he will do, so he wants to spend as much time with him as he can, but I feel sorry for him because of this and it makes me sad. I am also attached to him as well as to Aiko, but Will will hardly spend time with me even though he has a reason for it, so I feel sad for myself and for Will and for Aiko for being so fixated on Will AND for Dave because he has to leave his boyfriend.

I feel really bad for him, should I leave him?

TL;DR: My NB partner spends way more time with his other boyfriend than me, we are polyamorous. I feel way too bad for him to leave him, but I feel like it'd be best to leave. I tried talking to him before and he has a good reason, IDK what to do.

So, I’m embarrassed to write this, and as shitposty as this sounds, it’s true. So, my (22F) friend, “Oskar”, (24M) got invited to a party for his dad’s friend’s daughter (15F) “Maria”. There were some adults there but mostly teens, Maria’s friends.

There was a dancefloor, and Oskar shouted “EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!” according to what he told me, and started shaking his ass and twerking in front of the girls.

He got kicked out of the party and everyone was pretty annoyed with him, saying it was disgusting and Maria said he was being a pervert.

Even if he was just being silly, it wasn’t received well. Was he TA for twerking in front of teen girls? Or am I TA for finding it a bit funny but also embarrassing?

My friend Kylie (18F) thinks that was weird and I would never twerk like that but I don’t do much “vaguely sexy” stuff anyway.