u/username1628w9

19f, never kissed anyone or had a partner. I swear Im straight, but I questioned my sexuality since the 5th grade to 10th and I dont know why and now its back.

Ive been on hinge hoping to gain some experience and I set it as only open to men. However, at a halloween party I met a girl dressed as magic Mike and I genuinely can't stop thinking about her. And now the door has opened again since I have a celebrity crush on woman. But those aren't good indicators to if I like women so I want to see what its like in real life.

The problem is that I dont do hookups. its just not my thing. So I would need to "try" a relationship with someone. But thats a terrible thing to do if I end up being straight. It would be like getting someone to be my guinea pig.

And maybe I should just let this part of me go since I get uncomfortable with the thought of same sex couples getting married even though Im not trying to think that way... I just wish I could explore without pressure and without it being harmful to someone else.

Hello men.

I 19f, am going on a coffee shop date, and Im worried about the payment expectations. Im hoping we just order separately and pay separately as Im worried that him paying means he will expect sex and I dont want to lead anyone on since I am not the kind of girl at all to have sex or so anything so soon.

But would paying separate be seen as rejection? And does it just make things awkward?

Also is it bad that I assumed that the two options are that he will pay, or we will pay separate? Should I offer to pay for both of us?

Maybe Im wayyy overanalyzing this, but Im a bit anxious so bare with me. I 19f, am going on a date to a coffee shop and Im wondering about the paying situation.

I hope what will happen is he will order first then pay for his. Then I will order and pay for mine. But sometimes men like to pay, which to me is a bit scary cause I dont know what they want from me and I feel indebted to them (which is probably why I get worked up over this stuff). I also know that some guys take paying separate as being rejected, which is dumb.

Anyway, so what if the guy Im with orders and then moves over like I should also order, what happens?

Do I just say "I can pay seperate" and, if so, is that something I say to him or the cashier? Do I just order and then offer to pay for both of us? Do I let him pay and then offer to e-transfer him?

Or should I try and order first so I can take my card out and pay for mine?

Someone actually just take me out rn, I hate this.