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▲ 2 r/dating_advice

i am SO attracted to him

i(23f) am sooo freaking attracted to this guy (25m) i’ve been talking to, but i think he moves at a slower pace than me on account of his cautious nature.

we couldn’t meet irl because i was leaving the country when we matched online but i’ll be going back to live long term soon.

he wants to be friends first although he is attracted to me, he likes me, calls me pretty, sweet, kind, lovely, beautiful, cute and is super gentle and reassuring as well as envisioning me in his future (we talked about in a few months time when we finally meet irl in september, and he said he’d train me for running because i wanted to get back into it and he’s a runner)

he’s just the most loving kind sweet soul i’ve ever had the pleasure of having a mutual connection and attraction with, he is SO gorgeous to me and i can’t stop looking at his beautiful smile in photos and videos he sends me.

i really really like him sooo much

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u/sweetsweet-pea — 5 hours ago
▲ 23 r/LongDistance

MY SWEET ANGEL BOY

September cannot come quickly enoughhh i can’t wait to see my sweet angel boy ❤️ honestly he is so lovely and kind— we were talking about running (i’ve gotten really unfit, so i asked him to train me and he said he would). and the sweet boy went to my strava and liked every single one of my activities 🥹🥹 . this is right after he ran a full marathon, i congrqtulated him, ughhh he was (and still is) being such a sweetheart.

I can’t wait to see him and combine our running journeys (albeit at wholly different paces)

u/sweetsweet-pea — 1 day ago
▲ 4 r/relationship_advice

what to do about current fitness gap between me (23f) and partner (25m)?

myself(23f) and my man (25m) have a bit of a fitness gap at the moment. i used to be really fit, sporty, i still do sports and i gym but i haven’t been good at running for a while after i put on a ton of weight (20-30kilos excess) he on the other hand is super fit, he runs like 20km a week and he’s in great shape as a result (slim athletic runner build) our pace is like 3 mins different per km (i’m at like 8:30 at my FASTEST and him 5:30) my fastest when i was slim was like a 30min 5km. so 6min/km.

we’re long distance at the moment but he says he’ll train me when we’re together which will be soon, but i’m a bit anxious about not being able to keep up. i’m not my fittest, i am still active and don’t get me wrong i can run and i do lots of sports, but i’m just anxious and a bit embarrassed i let myself go. i’m going to try running on my own before meeting him too lol and his country the weather is cold whilst where i’m from it’s not so im afraid i won’t be used to the crisp dry air. but i’m moving there so i’ll have to get used to it lol.

also he knows what i look like, my body type, it’s not like he doesn’t know i’m chubby. (he says “curvy”) he values who i am and still finds me pretty but he does want me to be healthy and so he said he’ll run with me, if it’s something i want.

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u/sweetsweet-pea — 1 day ago
▲ 0 r/LongDistance

On Pause

so, i met this guy a couple weeks ago, we didn’t get to meet but we chatted and flirted everyday for 2 weeks and now i’m home. we met on bumble and on his profile he said he was looking for a long term relationship / marriage and i also put long term / life partner. we both want kids. we have similar values and religious backgrounds. we got along really well and we had a lot of chemistry and mutual attraction, although he was hesitant about the distance and us moving too fast at first because by nature he is a more cautious person whilst i am more fast moving and reckless.

i started our convo off quite flirtatiously and then even suggestively/sexually when we first started talking and he got the tiniest bit spooked and said he didn’t know me yet so found it hard to carry out the same flirtatious energy. but when i apologised , he was quick to reassure me and say he was turned on just uncertain. after a while, on another day when it did get sexual again he pushed it forward more and was very much into it, engaging in flirtatious texting. after that, he then said can we be friends first because he feels more comfortable that way. but that didn’t completely stop the flirtation too, we both kept it up just more lowkey and knowing we couldn’t do anything about it because by then i wasn’t in the country anymore. he said he wanted to meet me and everything when i was back.

i plan to come to his country for school in the fall, so we were excitedly discussing that, and just chatting a lot about stuff / getting to know each other quite well. but for a couple days he fell off.

he came back to me with this, and yeah, we’re just friends for now and i said let’s not speak because he seemed very overwhelmed and he apologised for not being a good texter (although he was, very communicative, reassuring, sweet, effortful.) he’s very kind and gentle albeit restrained. very compassionate and sweet and will call me pretty, dear, and ask me to drink water and take care of myself. he’s such a darling and yeah i’ll miss texting but i think and hope things will be so much better in real life.

i’m excited to see him in September, where we fully get the chance to explore what could be between us.

btw if you’re wondering why the text looks weird, i put it in google translate because we were communicating in french.

btw he says he’s been with foreign women before and his hesitations about LDR are very real, he’s guarded and cautious and while he feels something he said he needs time. whilst i’ve never been in an actual LDR, and i’m much more of a hopeless romantic / excitable person., and i guess more naive. we’re 23(f, me) and 25(m, him)

u/sweetsweet-pea — 3 days ago
▲ 0 r/AskMen

how do i know if a man will be an eater?

i’m not even particularly sure i enjoy it THAT much (usually when a guy eats me out i’ll stop him after 5-10 min/when i first come) but i appreciate when a man WANTS to eat me out. especially if/when i’m going down on him it feels like he puts my pleasure first.

i do enjoy PIV sex a lot though, probably more.

i’ve been talking to a guy and we joke about it here and there: i asked him if he ate meat and he said yes and when he said “just kidding you” to something i said “me? you wanna eat me? are you a cannibal?” (as a joke) and he said “who isn’t” (language barrier so he could’ve thought i meant carnivore but idk.)

does that mean he would eat me out?

i won’t see him in person for another 4 months and we’re long distance so we’re easing back on the texting to just meet in person, but how will i know if he’s actually an eater?

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u/sweetsweet-pea — 3 days ago
▲ 5 r/IWantOut

[IWantOut] 23f student from Singapore -> France

Hi, I’m a law graduate from a good university in Singapore, but I decided I want out of the Singapore corporate world and the system here before I even began.

Since graduating last year I’ve worked as a tutor while I sat the bar. Now I’m still a tutor and I just got back from a trip to France (my 3rd time visiting, first time in Spring) and I’ve decided I’m in love with the country, and the language, and Europe in general and want to explore more of it. I like French culture and its pace, I appreciate the food, the people and I have friends and family there.

I’ve applied for a Masters Programme in Paris, so far at Paris School of Business and ESCP. so far I’ve gotten into PSB, I just applied ESCP today. Both are in Paris the city not the suburbs, like HEC or INSEAD/ESSEC. Business was never really “my thing” but I know realistically I want to make money for other pursuits and passions, and I wouldn’t mind working for a company where I don’t feel like a cog in the wheel and I actually have decent work life balance. I feel that France and the EU in general provide that.

I’m wondering if anyone can give me advice on moving there as an expat permanently, after?

Thanks in advance !

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u/sweetsweet-pea — 4 days ago