u/ssg_partners

I keep seeing that people who are on WHV in Australia do 88 days by default as if they need to do it. However, if you want to only spend a year, you don’t need to do the 88 days.

How did you decide that extending the visa by 1 year is worth 88 days of regional work? Did any of you decide against the idea and only staying for the initial one year? Did you regret not extending the visa?

I haven’t made a decision about this yet and would love to get some tips on how to decide

I’ll keep it concise.
I meet a girl at a festival. I spend an entire day with her cuddling and talking. She tells me she is not interested romantically. (rejection #1)

I accept the rejection, I flirt and dance with another girl at a concert in front of her. Her face droops and she is jealous. She tries to come in between and dance with me. (confusion #1)
I ask her if she is sure she is not interested romantically. She said yes (rejection #2)

While leaving festival, we realize both of us are planning to go to Bali for a month. She said we should go together but not romantically but as friends (rejection #3)

I accepted that we are only friends and treated her as such in our Bali trip. I even book separate beds to ensure this.
In just the second day of the trip, she comes close and starts touching me. We have sex, clearly initiated by her. (confusion #2)

Since that day, for the entire one month in Bali we live together, shower together, sleep together, eat together and do everything together, including being sexually intimate together. She doesn’t meet other people but chooses to only spend time with me. None of us have talked about what we are doing. (confusion #3)

One night in bed she tells me she thinks she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me but she is not sure, maybe she does. I think we do everything that romantic partners do, in what way does she believe she doesn’t have feelings? I’m more confused (confusion #4 & rejection #4)

I accept the fact that she rejected me. I start flirting with another girl at a bar. She comes in between us, acts like my girlfriend and breaks my conversation with the other girl. She later tells me that she felt jealous. (confusion #5)

She stays in Bali one week more than me because of logistical reasons. One day before leaving, we have ‘the talk’ and she tells me that what we had was a FWB situation only and she has no romantic feelings for me. I feel extremely hurt. That same evening, she meets another guy and cuddles with him in front of me. I confront her and she tells it was platonic with him and she already told me she is not interested romantically in me. (rejection #5)

When I leave, the guy she cuddled with and her get together and hookup the entire week. Then the guy finds another girl and my girl leaves Bali.

(After the SE Asia trip, back in Europe)
She invites me to her town (we live in separate European countries). We keep texting. I’m not gonna go in the details because it’ll be too long. I’ll just tell you the pattern:

I plan logistics to visit her or meet her. -> she replies late or distant. -> I accept I’m being rejected and I pull emotionally from her -> she becomes extremely flirty, sending romantic signals like hearts, kisses and compliments -> I think she is interested (atleast in another hookup, if not as partners) and I start responding accordingly -> she again starts acting not interested-> and the pattern repeats itself.

The major problem I’m dealing with here is not whether I visit her or not, but rather that being in contact with her is preventing me from meeting other potential romantic partners. I feel like she is taking a lot of my emotional energy.

Do you think I should end contact with her? The last time I tried, she told me we should stay friends even if we stop being sexually intimate. But this thing also plays with my head.

If you think I should end contact, do I need to explain or can I just stop responding to her texts?

What are your feelings about this whole situation? Do you think there is something possible between me and her?

I’m travelling from Western Europe to Australia via Istanbul. To save money, I bought self transfer ticket (separate tickets), one short flight within Europe to Istanbul and then from Istanbul to Australia as the long haul flight.

I’ve been hearing that due to the fuel crisis, short haul flights are gonna be the first ones to get cancelled.

In that case, my cheap ticket could be cancelled and refunded but as a result I would still miss my more expensive long haul flight from Istanbul to Australia and i would receive no refund. I also checked travel insurance and I couldn’t find any that would cover such a scenario.

Is my trip at risk?

I had a FWB type fling with a woman during a month long vacation in Bali. We decided to stay friends. I was interested in more but she was not after the end of the vacation.

She is originally from Portugal but will be spending one month in France. I live in Germany. I decided to visit her in France for three days as we wanted to meet each other. She told me she has to pay 1000 euros a month for that apartment and she will be renting out 5 days for 100 euros each so that she can pay half the price for her month long rental.

I was initially planning to stay in either a hotel or at her place.

The icky part was that she asked me pay less than the hotel, and instead of hotel, to stay at her place for 80-100 euros a day.

I already experienced some other instances which showed that she might be using the fact that I was romantically interested in her for her own benefits. but this specific situation made me feel like she saw business transaction more important than our friendship. I felt as if she was trying to use my 3 day visit to financially discount her 1 month stay in France.

I feel like if she truly was a friend, she would not have asked for money to stay with her. Additionally, if she did, it should’ve been a fair share: 1000/30 =33 euros both, so 16 euros per person per day. Instead of asking for 60-100 euros per day from me.

She explained herself by telling me that she doesn’t have much money because she is a struggling artist and needs the money.
If I did visit her, the expectation and idea was that we would stay together in the same room and bed. But she also told me that she is dating someone who is in that city in France at the moment. Although they’re not exclusive yet

Also, I do not know why she felt the need to tell me about her dating situation. Could it be that she would spend time with him while I’m there too? Or perhaps just to tell me that we would not be sexually intimate during our time.

to finally respect myself, I felt it was important for me to cancel the trip. Did I misread her situation? in other words, was I an asshole for suddenly backing out from the trip?

What sounds do I need to focus on? What sounds give away the fact that I'm not natively from an English speaking country?

I’ve 24 hours to change the name for free. it’s on 18-May. I’ll sell it for cheaper than what I bought it for. just 40 euros. I have to cancel my plans due to personal reasons. let me know within 24 hours if someone here wants it. Its fully legit, i can do the ticket transfer in front of your physical presence if you want full assurance

you need to let me know before 13:00 29 April because that’s when the 24 hours will be over

UPDATE: I’m offering it just for 20 euros now!!!!’