u/skull-cow

My (28f) partner (36m) has an ex wife “Sara” (32f). They split up 7 years ago due to her cheating and the relationship having tons of issues.

My partner and I have been together for 3 years and live together and are very happy. I have a great relationship with their kid too. Sara, the ex, is pretentious and pretty cold to me. She was picking up her child and backed into my car. It left a big dent. I know this because I saw it on the security camera. Her child later told me about it and said that she said not to say anything to me.

I told my partner to let me handle it and don’t say anything to her. I don’t care about the money that much and the dent will be easy enough to fix myself. I just wish that Sara had the balls to admit what she did and apologize like a normal adult does.

Here’s where I might be the asshole because I didn’t handle it like a normal adult myself. We are all artists in the same community. At a recent community art show where anyone could submit anything at a small art space in town, I showed a black and white photo on the wall of the gallery of the dented part of my car. I captioned it “Dent, found sculpture, artist unknown”.

I knew Sara would be there and just did it to make a little joke of the situation. I wasn’t trying to humiliate her, I just thought it was really funny. I didn’t even tell anyone she did this to my car and only my partner knows who also thought this was funny.

She came to the gallery event and had her own work there too. When she saw the photo, she walked over to me in a huff and told me I need to grow the fuck up and stormed out.

AITAH?

Hi there, if some doctors and/or people who know about this stuff could reply to me here I’d deeply appreciate it. I am a 28 year old female. About 8 months ago I was referred to a rheumatologist because I had a slightly low white blood cell count and weight loss.

I tested 1:80 titer and a nucleolar pattern. I have bad anxiety and this has led me to feel terrified about scleroderma.

**I tested negative for all the scleroderma antibodies.**

The doctor also looked at my hands and said I shouldn’t worry about scleroderma because I look healthy and fine. I have no symptoms of the disease.

I read someone say online that they had 1:80 and nucleolar also and tested negative for sceleroderma and then got it 7 years later. This has sent my mind spiraling.

How worried should I be about the disease popping up later down the line? I can’t stop worrying and ids interfering with the quality of my life.

Thank you!

Hi,

I’m a 28 year old monogamous woman. I’m open minded in almost every sense. I am an advocate for trans rights, gay rights, can’t stand discrimination, and I want everyone to have equality and freedom to live how they want as long as they are not harming others.

My first experience with someone polyamorous was in college was when I got a new roomate when my serious boyfriend and I were happily together. I needed to live close to campus though and my bf lived across town for his job. My new roommate, a nonbinary person a few years older than me, was poly. I had no issue with this and a fully open mind about them as a friend until they began constantly pestering me that I should give polyamory a chance because mono relationships are “capitalist, part of white supremacy, build on control, ect.” I am a shy, passive person and so id awkwardly try and say I’m happy and to please stop bringing up my relationship but this person was constantly flirting with me and trying to ruin my relationship.

After this, I had multiple experiences with other poly men or non binary people at art school who would try and get in my pants using the argument that my monogamous relationship wasn’t valid and I needed to open my mind to polyamory. I’ve also had poly women try and convince my current partner that he should cheat on me with them.

I live in a very liberal bubble and I’m hoping that all these people are just practicing polyamory the wrong way but it’s made me feel really afraid of poly people because I’ve had so many experiences of them not respecting my relationship.

I’m an extremely private person and am so happy with one partner that I share a life with. Anything else would complicate life for me and send my mental health spiraling. If other people are poly I think that’s great until they start trying to get into my business and life.

I’ve always looked young for my age and most of these people trying to meddle with my relationship have been 5-10 years older than me and I have a feeling they were praying on me because they saw me as innocence and naive and easy to manipulate.

Can some poly people please help me feel less afraid? I’d love to have some normal, non predatory interactions with poly people.

I’m so fed up. I’m fed up with men getting away with murder, rape, harassment, belittlement of women 24/7 but women being held to impossibly high standards.

I recently saw some bozo photographer dude comment on a WOMAN’S photo series project where the theme was coming of age and he complained that only women and non-binary people were featured. Like dude. Shut the fuck up. Let women have their art project with eachother without you inserting your hurt little feelings.

I’m so sickened by the current administration, by men constantly complaining about what women do say and wear when it’s not even directed towards them. And god forbid a woman ignore them in public when they bother her. I could go on and

on. I don’t want to be bitter but everytime I read about something like men tryin to sue uber for adding a women only driver option because so many women have been assaulted in an uber, I just feel a deep deep hatred towards all the men who aren’t the few good ones I know personally.