u/ratinspace

im 22 hes 23

We've been friends for over a decade because we went to school together, we got closer a few years ago before we started dating. Together a bit over half a year nearly 2 years.

A week ago I got a message on insta from a girl who said that he'd been flirting with her and messaging her asking if she wanted anything casual and asked for pics, she said they had never met in person but he found her on snap. He didn't tell her that he was taken and the only reason she found my insta was because he was sharing his screen on a call and I had texted him at the time a notification popped up, she told me I should check his phone if I could.

I know it was wrong to but I thought if she wasn't lying and those messages weren't fake he would delete the evidence if I asked him and was upfront about it. So when I was at his place I asked to go on his pc while he was downstairs. I knew he was logged onto stuff on there like messaging apps etc.

First I looked on reddit... I know reddit isn't just porn but I just had a feeling because of all the nsfw stuff that's on here and I turned out to be right. He was commenting on kinky amateur subreddit posts and messaging them, asking to trade pics n shit

I looked at another app and he was adding them there, and the messages were horrible, he'd talk in detail how he would fuck them, he told one that she should get here and visit and that they could screw, the thing that made me almost throw up was I found a chat dating back literally to the month we started dating.

I couldn't believe my eyes, he's honestly the sweetest man ever and is such a supportive helpful and emotionally mature bf. When I told him he was shocked but then said he had an issue with porn and that he thought it was alright if he didn't meet them, I asked if he met any and he said he wouldn't even dream to that it was like roleplaying but he feels terrible that he didn't think online stuff would hurt as much as physical.

We were planning to move in together in half a year and genuinely had so much planned. Could he be telling the truth and he really did think it didn't mean anything? Break up or try to get him into some kind of therapy for it?

tldr: Boyfriend messaging girls and didn't see it as something that would affect our relationship

Im 22, hes 23

We've been friends for over a decade because we went to school together, we got closer a few years ago before we started dating. Together a bit over half a year nearly 2 years.

A week ago I got a message on insta from a girl who said that he'd been flirting with her and messaging her asking if she wanted anything casual and asked for pics, she said they had never met in person but he found her on snap. He didn't tell her that he was taken and the only reason she found my insta was because he was sharing his screen on a call and I had texted him at the time a notification popped up, she told me I should check his phone if I could.

I know it was wrong to but I thought if she wasn't lying and those messages weren't fake he would delete the evidence if I asked him and was upfront about it. So when I was at his place I asked to go on his pc while he was downstairs. I knew he was logged onto stuff on there like messaging apps etc.

First I looked on reddit... I know reddit isn't just porn but I just had a feeling because of all the nsfw stuff that's on here and I turned out to be right. He was commenting on kinky amateur subreddit posts and messaging them, asking to trade pics n shit

I looked at another app and he was adding them there, and the messages were horrible, he'd talk in detail how he would fuck them, he told one that she should get here and visit and that they could screw, the thing that made me almost throw up was I found a chat dating back literally to the month we started dating.

I couldn't believe my eyes, he's honestly the sweetest man ever and is such a supportive helpful and emotionally mature bf. When I told him he was shocked but then said he had an issue with porn and that he thought it was alright if he didn't meet them, I asked if he met any and he said he wouldn't even dream to that it was like roleplaying but he feels terrible that he didn't think online stuff would hurt as much as physical.

We were planning to move in together in half a year and genuinely had so much planned. Could he be telling the truth and he really did think it didn't mean anything? Break up or try to get him into some kind of therapy for it?

tldr: Boyfriend messaging girls and didn't see it as something that would affect our relationship

We've been friends for over a decade because we went to school together, we got closer a few years ago before we started dating. Together a bit over half a year nearly 2 years.

A week ago I got a message on insta from a girl who said that he'd been flirting with her and messaging her asking if she wanted anything casual and asked for pics, she said they had never met in person but he found her on snap. He didn't tell her that he was taken and the only reason she found my insta was because he was sharing his screen on a call and I had texted him at the time a notification popped up, she told me I should check his phone if I could.

I know it was wrong to but I thought if she wasn't lying and those messages weren't fake he would delete the evidence if I asked him and was upfront about it. So when I was at his place I asked to go on his pc while he was downstairs. I knew he was logged onto stuff on there like messaging apps etc.

First I looked on reddit... I know reddit isn't just porn but I just had a feeling because of all the nsfw stuff that's on here and I turned out to be right. He was commenting on kinky amateur subreddit posts and messaging them, asking to trade pics n shit

I looked at another app and he was adding them there, and the messages were horrible, he'd talk in detail how he would fuck them, he told one that she should get here and visit and that they could screw, the thing that made me almost throw up was I found a chat dating back literally to the month we started dating.

I couldn't believe my eyes, he's honestly the sweetest man ever and is such a supportive helpful and emotionally mature bf. When I told him he was shocked but then said he had an issue with porn and that he thought it was alright if he didn't meet them, I asked if he met any and he said he wouldn't even dream to that it was like roleplaying but he feels terrible that he didn't think online stuff would hurt as much as physical.

We were planning to move in together in half a year and genuinely had so much planned. Could he be telling the truth and he really did think it didn't mean anything? Break up or try to get him into some kind of therapy for it?

tldr: Boyfriend messaging girls and didn't see it as something that would affect our relationship