u/raatkibachibiryani

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I would have been another Twisha

30F , got married in 2025 met him through online matrimonial, into what liked a normal educated , Morden family . The more I read about twisha’s unfair case the more chills I get , my parents when met his family just had a bad feeling about this match but I was hell bent on marrying him, he was my first love first relationship. Everyone around me just kept warning about something feeling off about them but I was so blind in love and oblivious to it and my parents went ahead to make me happy , the abuse started a month after the wedding and never stopped through major injuries , pregnancy nothing .
In laws also weren’t very nice , taunts about waking up slightly late, scolding me for getting something’ for kitchen without asking Them and even if I made a cup of coffee extra . Didnt let me work but also never gave me any sort of allowance , monitored my calls with family and taunted if it exceeded few minutes , I stopped talking to them too . Not one single happy memory but I’d always forgive him and let him manipulate me with sorrys and fake ass efforts . Towards the end even his parents started blaming me for his actions saying I’m the one who provokes him :) because I stop him to not ruin life with alcohol, not cheat on me , not waste his life on stupid things , eat better . I was blamed for checking his phone but he was right at cheating on me because men are like that .

I’m partly to blame because I tolerated it , my family , close friends were always ready to get me out in a moment but I resisted trusting him. I let go of my career happily , made him my entire universe, took care of his family like my own , so I added to my ruins- my education , my family support , my brains and wit , let go of everything happily .

I was 10 weeks pregnant when he hit me and my father just knew something was off and he got me back the next day , I didn’t tell parents until I miscarried a week later . Post that they strictly asked me to block them and there was no question of going back , the trauma bond kept me missing him and first few months were terrible .

Please don’t be like me or her 10000s of women suffering through this or worse , speak up and leave in whatever way you can , these people never change , don’t protect them and this is beyond love . Your life so much more important than a relationship that too an abusive one, these as*******s won’t ever stop unless we put an end to it any way possible , I’m literally getting chills every time i see it on the news and everyone of my friends and family have been telling me how lucky I’ve been to come out of it in the right time , a little late but nonetheless.

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u/raatkibachibiryani — 6 hours ago

OP ka birthday dinner 🥰🎀

Made my favourite desi Chinese
•crispy fried chicken
•chicken and pepper rice
•chilly prawns
•blue lagoon mocktail and mango passion sparkling water
And cake loads of cake .

u/raatkibachibiryani — 1 day ago

Op turned 30 in the middle of worst year of life

I honestly cannot believe I’m alive . A painful miscarriage , domestic violence , betrayal and separation . I’ve made posts here before and I keep all the comments as screenshots I come back to when I’m doubting my decision or myself 🥹
If it weren’t for my parents I wouldn’t have been making this post safe sound and finally relearning happiness . I’ve been reading news about heinous crimes against women recently, that this feels nothing short of a second life .
I always read and heard that one day it just won’t hurt as much and I’m slowly starting to get it , I had to learn how to eat again , sleep again , series of nightmares , panic attacks and what not , very thankful for my parents who pushed me for therapy . I had a very traumatic childhood and an even worse married life , what I’ve learned is that you cannot ever stop having faith , I’m in deepest of rock bottom at This point with no job , zero savings and An unclear future but I also have this giddiness and excitement of what I’ll become and build starting now ,
As someone who had always been obsessed with Birthdays , my family practically forced me to make it happy this year and so i did 🌻
Make shift decorated a corner, spend the day doing what I love - cooking and a long drive to end it .

For my big 30 , my biggest wish is that no one suffers in the name of love and that we all find the courage to end and leave where we’re not celebrated . My Pyari Women , it does get better in ways we can’t fathom but it does 🎀

u/raatkibachibiryani — 1 day ago