u/pomegranatejello

I don’t have ADHD but am autistic and have executive functioning challenges. Not seeking medical/drug advice (rule 7).

I’m constantly tardy to everything even though I never mean to be. I’ve been late to multiple job interviews even though I understand the urgency of making it there on time and really want to be there when I need to be. I’ll make a concerted effort to leave early, but it’s like I blink and half an hour has passed without me realizing. Struggled with this for years.

I have a potential job offer where I’m going to have to be up early in the morning every day with an hour-long commute. So it will be a big adjustment to my current lifestyle, but I need to find a way to deal with it so I won’t get fired for my habit of tardiness.

Yes, it would definitely be ideal to find a job where none of that is a concern, but unfortunately I don’t necessarily have that luxury right now and want to make good of this opportunity.

I’m sure there will be a few snarky “pull up your bootstraps,” “grow up already,” “stop making excuses for yourself,” etc comments. But, any good faith advice from people who’ve actually been where I am would be much appreciated!!

My razor is starting to smell kind of funky. I wash the exterior with water and wipe the blade attachment with rubbing alcohol periodically. I don’t visibly see hair stuck in the inner chamber but idk if there’s some stuck I can’t see. Is it safe to wash the inside part where the blade attaches to the rest of it with water or alcohol? Or is there another way to clean that inner chamber?

I spend a lot of time on a screen for both work and pleasure, and most of my other hobbies (reading, sewing, etc) all involve staring at small objects or text for long periods of time.

I can do exercise indoors when my exercise space is available, but I don’t really think of that as a hobby or do it for fun, it’s just health maintenance for me.

Any ideas?

For instance, sometimes I'll be tasked with dog sitting before other people make their way home. After some initial playtime and walking them, they're pretty calm and don't need much supervision. But in my head, my *one task* is to watch the dogs and I feel like I can't switch away from it until the others get home. I don't let myself do anything that requires much sustained thought because I'm worried they'll get into trouble I'll be too distracted to notice or something. I know it doesn't make sense when they're just chilling on the couch the whole time, and it often lasts for hours so I waste a lot of time. I'm like this with other things as well. Why do I do this? And what helps you get over the mental block? I am autistic so idk if that's related somehow.

She wants the name to be a surprise and is very tight lipped about it so I have no clue what she’s thinking. She’s due next week. I kept meaning to ask her but I’m scared bc I have no idea how she’d react to my identity. My mom wasn’t very accepting of a past partner identifying as nonbinary and idk if my sister even knew how they identified because they’d only interacted briefly on a cursory level. I feel like telling her I’ve used the chosen name as a nickname would invite more questions bc it’s nothing like my birth name. I feel like I’m simultaneously being a coward and overreacting, and also being selfish bc it’s so close to the due date.

Unfortunately, my career post-college hasn't worked out for me, so I've been thinking of exploring some different career paths and was considering hairstyling. I'm starting to ask some questions for people who I know have worked as hairstylists before to hear their perspectives, but I'd like if people had ideas for a way I could sort of test it out before investing in beauty school, if that makes sense? I'm pretty new to all of it, so I don't know anyone who'd feel comfortable letting me use them as a guinea pig right out the gate. Thank you for any advice or ideas!