u/maddyispositive

Transferred from one state to another. Husband is in a busy residency. He had promised he would take a week off. Didn't. I had to do everything alone. The new job is 10 times harder. The new place is 3 times more expensive. I have been going on and off with him for more than a week. He took 3 days off and went a day early. Because he said since id be at work,why not save a leave. I am frustrated with all the changes and i get absolutely nothing out of this move. I just want to feel better. What can be done to modify this situation?

I moved around a 1000km away from my current workplace to be closer to my husband who joined a very tough,busy super speciality hospital for a 3 year course. initially he had assured me that he would take a week off and help me settle in the new place. that didn't happen. he blamed the early relieving from my current workplace for it,saying he didn't get time to get his leaves approved. he finally took 3 days off and looked for a place. fixed one. I hated it. fixed another. and left. a day early. saying,since anyways I would be at work,what would he do all day. the rental agreement wasn't ready,we had a lot of packed luggage which needed sorting through. but no. he left a day early. after 5 days of intense arguments from my side he has finally agreed he didn't help as much as he promised. he makes tall promises in private and in public too. he doesn't follow through and its infuriating. he said he'd send his father to help. indian FILs are treated almost like gods by their DILs. because of all the packing,there was no system in the shouse. so i said no to that. he blamed me. that i refused the help he offered. he's a good husband usually.

I moved around a 1000km away from my current workplace to be closer to my husband who joined a very tough,busy super speciality hospital for a 3 year course. initially he had assured me that he would take a week off and help me settle in the new place. that didn't happen. he blamed the early relieving from my current workplace for it,saying he didn't get time to get his leaves approved. he finally took 3 days off and looked for a place. fixed one. I hated it. fixed another. and left. a day early. saying,since anyways I would be at work,what would he do all day. the rental agreement wasn't ready,we had a lot of packed luggage which needed sorting through. but no. he left a day early. after 5 days of intense arguments from my side he has finally agreed he didn't help as much as he promised. he makes tall promises in private and in public too. he doesn't follow through and its infuriating. he said he'd send his father to help. indian FILs are treated almost like gods by their DILs. because of all the packing,there was no system in the shouse. so i said no to that. he blamed me. that i refused the help he offered. he's a good husband usually.

tldr- moving states is harder than expected,husband very busy,am i overreacting