u/junglibilli21

Hi all,

I don’t know why, but today I just felt like venting. Please bear with me.

There are certain incidents regarding my soon-to-be ex-husband that still hurt deeply.

1. My dad passed away two years ago. When my soon-to-be ex-husband came for the funeral, he spent most of the time smirking and smiling. Later that evening, he came and offered fake condolences. He wanted to speak to me privately, but I only spoke to him briefly in the living room and asked him to leave.

2. During my daughter’s school admission, I needed his payslips since he works in the USA. I requested him multiple times, even asking him to directly fill out the form if he didn’t want to share the documents. He simply told me not to disturb him. That was the point I told him to proceed with divorce.

3. He applied for divorce, and honestly, I’m okay with that now. But what hurt was that two years ago I didn’t even have a stable job, and he never cared about how I would manage expenses or my daughter’s future. I felt completely abandoned.

4. I slowly realized he never truly loved me. I often felt used and emotionally drained. He constantly projected himself as someone irreplaceable — always boasting that he was the greatest coder and no one could match him. Life changes people though, and now even he is pursuing an MBA in the USA.

5. There was also physical abuse. Whenever he became aggressive, he blamed me for “causing” it. Yet outside, he portrayed himself as the sweetest person on earth.

I don’t even know why I’m writing all this today. Maybe because people should be taught how manipulation works and how deeply it affects someone’s mind.

Even now, after everything, a part of me still feels like I’m the bad person. And today, for some reason, I just broke down crying.

Hi all,

This is a vent-out post. I know I need to take therapy sessions, and I’m planning to start soon.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, I started thinking about my soon-to-be ex-husband.

I recently got a contract job after a 9-year career gap.

Last week, I went for a team lunch. I’m an introverted person, but I still decided to go. My teammates were kind and didn’t bother me when I declined alcohol. Everyone had fun and bonded well.

At that moment, I suddenly thought about my soon-to-be ex-husband. When we used to go out in the USA after marriage, I would decline alcohol and tell him that he could drink if he wanted to. Instead of respecting my decision, he would hold the glass near me and force me to drink.

Before marriage, I had clearly mentioned that I don’t consume alcohol, and he seemed okay with it at that time. Later, he showed his true colors.

He physically assaulted me and abandoned me while I was pregnant with his child.

Sometimes, I feel like a loser.

I feel like I’m just running in a rat race that I never wanted to be part of.

Today, I’m crying, wondering why I was treated so horribly. Maybe I really am a loser, just like my soon-to-be ex-husband says.

Some days, I feel like I’ve moved on. But today, I feel like I’m back to square one.

Somewhere, I truly loved him, and realizing that he never loved me the same way still hurts a lot.

But I also want to prove to myself that I’m not a loser. That’s why, even with social anxiety, I’m trying every day to become better, stronger, and more confident.

Hi,

I’ve recently joined as a fresher in the Client Success Manager domain. I would like to build a strong understanding of the technical aspects of EDI.

Could you please share any useful resources, links, or documents that can help me learn? I’m especially interested in understanding how customer work orders are handled from a technical perspective.

Since I come from a non-technical background, gaining this knowledge will help me collaborate more effectively with mappers and integrators.

Thank you in advance for your support.

Hi all,

I recently joined as a CSM in a product company.

Because of my father’s death, pregnancy, and divorce, I had a career gap of 9 years.

When I got the interview call for this role, I honestly thought I wouldn’t clear it. But I did, and I joined on a contractual basis as a fresher.

In the last one month, I have been given KT and currently handling only 4 accounts. My manager asked me to bill 0.5 hours for each project and mark the remaining time as training.

During this KT period, I’ve been trying to understand the role better. From what I understand, a CSM’s job is to ensure both customer satisfaction and smooth coordination with internal teams.

However, I sometimes feel that internal teams like mappers and integrators don’t take me seriously because I’m new and I don’t have strong technical knowledge in EDI.

Whenever an SLA is close to breach, I inform the development team and follow up to make sure it gets resolved.

I really want to improve as a CSM and perform well so I can continue after probation. This job means a lot to me.

I’m also an introvert, but I’m trying my best to come out of my comfort zone and grow professionally.

I would really appreciate advice from experienced CSMs on how to improve, gain confidence, and handle internal teams better.

I lost my dad a year ago and I’m navigating a difficult divorce. My focus now is to make my mom and daughter proud and happy, and to grow into a better version of myself this year.