u/hardtruthsociety

,why a child's age matters in a predator situation but not in a criminal situation(child commits crime).

People seem to only care about a child's age when it's a predator/pedophilic situation, to the point it makes me think the care of pedophilia is really just fake/something they are told to care about and don't want to seem like a predator.

When a child commits a crime, the public doesn't care about the child's age

" I don't care if they're a child,"

Society treats them children like they have full adult mental capacity, but then when it's a child predator situation.

Now, the child seems to lack all understanding of everything.

They can't understand consent or relationships, but they magically are mentally capable of being in prison with adults and understanding full adult consequences.. ...

The picking n choosing when it comes to children's development/understanding is very visible.

People "care" all about the science behind children being unable to consent to adults but dismiss information, science about how prison/treating children like adults hurts them. .

The care for pedophilia seems performative and emotional rather than logical.

And before people accuse me of justifying pedophilia. No, I'm not, I'm pointing out a huge problem with how people treat children, and this very problem is a part of the reason why pedophiles , child predators get away with hurting children.

9-year-old commits a crime,

Society," they knew what they were doing,"

The same child gets hurt by child predator.

Society," they don't understand,"

Now, the child loses all understanding of anything ,doesn't understand sex or consent, but at the same time as full and all understanding when committing a crime. Can handle being treated like an adult in court.

Don't you see the developmentally leap here?.

When people discuss these situations (17 and under dating 25+), being bad, they always use life experiences. Never human development, like they use to discuss the wrongs of pedophilia,

Because if life experiences is what matters, then what if a 15-year-old graduates early, has a job, a place of their own,

What makes them being with a 30-year-old wrong if they have similar life experiences???.

Or people will use legality, and say it's illegal but agree with 18 being an adult and okay with them dating older.

So, if it's legal, it's okay???, what if 15 become legal tomorrow, then what??.

Idk I see this same conversation, and nobody really gives a clear answer on why it's wrong.

P.s. I am not saying it's okay, just wanting people to give clearer answers

I believe a lot of people don't actually know why child predators are bad. They just agree with what society says.

They see "children can't consent " without asking why.

I have a few pictures here, I will explain my points or "hot takes,"

Picture 1, "age doesn't equal power ", they're using wealth as a way to say a younger person (child) can have more control over an older person, which is using behavior/life structure, when in reality that's not the problem, it's the ages, a 30yr old have more brain development than a 16yr old it's not equal,.

Picture 2, using depending on the person, they way the person behave =behavior. But when I switch the ages (17) now it's bad but they use something that actually has nothing to do with 17 and 26 being wrong, the life experiences the 19 have , a 17yr can have that too,

Why can't the 17-year-old date a 26-year-old without legality? , because what's the difference between a 19-year-old and a 17-year-old developmentally??, not much. The reason it would be wrong for a 26-year-old to be with a 17-year-old is based on the development of that child, not what the child does behavior wise. That applies to the 19-year-old, too, because what really makes 17 too young but 19 old enough without using law.

When people go against child predators especially when it comes to teenagers, they use children (teenagers) being in high school, needing parents, legality but rarely brain development which is why adults can't date children.

Some people only believe a child predator is wrong if they go after a child who "looks" like a child and "acts" like one, but if they don't, then it's okay!.

The way people throw around legality when it's predatory situations makes it seem like people only view going after children as wrong because it's illegal.

You see it with the quick switch up people do with a 17-year-old and an 18-year-old, an 18-year-old, a 26yr guy, and a yr old =okay because of the law.

But 17 and 26 years =bad because of the law.

If you use development, the age of adulthood wouldn't make sense, and 19-year-olds being with 26-year-olds wouldn't be acceptable just because it's legal.

When your care for children stops at 18, then do you really care????.

If it's okay at 19 and 26, it's okay at 17 and 26.

The whole conversation on whether pedophiles/rapists can be rehabilitated is mostly people saying no, which I understand, but I believe if pedophiles or rapists are treated for their mental condition or behavior it could help society, it will lower crimes against people, when the behavior or urge to harm is being treated then the harm towards people can lower, I know studies says they can't be rehabilitated but when it comes to rehabilitation it doesn't have to mean the harm they caused isn't horrible, it can still be shamed and known as an evil act to commit, they won't be seen as normal or good people

Just very mental harmful people, they will have to be treated for urges to stop them from "wanting " to hurt people, still keep them away from society but treat them , it has nothing to do with justifying or them being good people now, I hope you guys understand what I'm doing, I just think if we treat these people like people in prison, society probably would be safer.

I'm willing to put my emotions (some) aside if it means people, especially children, will be safer.

Society seems to only "care" about children and child development only when it's pedophili***, "The child didn't/don't understand what happened ", but in any other situation the child being a child doesn't seem to matter," their age doesn't matter,"they knew exactly what they were doing ", in situation involving children committing crimes, some will even say the child isn't a child anymore. Call the child a man or woman now,.

Children can't do certain things( legally,developmentally).because they are children, they lack experience and brain development,

But society/public opinions only care about in $exual situations.even though it does/should apply to everything a child does or say.

Including aco, if a child is too young for certain ages to date or sleep with! That same development they need to understand certain relationships should be recognized in criminal situations

Society behaves like child predators when it comes to language.

Society says, "adult actions,adult consequences."

Using the child's behavior to justify adult consequences.

But let a pr3dator say "the child is mature ", now it's bad .

"The child is still a child,"

Society doesn't like it when child pr3dators use a child's behavior to justify their behavior, but society gets to when it wants to punish a child with adult consequences.

Child development should matter in every situation.

Children shouldn't be charged as adults and go to adult prison. It hurts children and especially society, which claims it wants to make society better.

If society wants to continue charging children as adults.

Then the aco should be either changed or not a thing anymore.

If a child as young as 10 can be charged as an adult and put in prison like adults,then they should be allowed to do other things,since society decided that they're old/mental capable enough for prison.

P.s, I'm not defending pr3datory behavior or people. Just pointing something out.