u/fuckyou1029

I (33F) have been dating lets call him Michael (29M) for about 8 months. A few months ago he expressed wanting to try things with other people in the bedroom and I wasn't completely against that as long as there was transparency and both of us were involved. So far nothing has happened. We have talked to people but nothing transpired. Recently we spent a few days apart while he was dog sitting. He said he stayed up all night into the next day and to me that was a red flag because he never does that. When we saw eachother again I had a suspicion I should check his reddit since thats how we have talked to people in the past. Well I was not prepared for what I found. He was messaging a TF about wanting to meet up and have spicy sleep. I thought at first he might want to do it as a couple, well no thats not the case. He sent some very explicit messages and photos. They then proceeded to exchange snapchats. I asked him if they continued to talk on snapchat after the exchange and he said no. Well yesterday I checked his snapchat and the messages and photos continued there. He not once said he was in a relationship and said some pretty hurtful things in those messages. I typically have a higher drive than him and have no problem having spicy sleep all the time but hes usually the one who doesn't want to. He told this person he wants someone who wants him all the time......Like hello?! What am I?.......I have barely talked to him since he lied to me and broke my trust. He keeps apologizing and saying it ment nothing he was just in the mood. He also said he lied about snapchat because he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I feel stupid for even asking and writing this all out. So would I be over reacting if I broke up with him after this?

I (33F) have been dating lets call him Michael (29M) for about 8 months. A few months ago he expressed wanting to try things with other people in the bedroom and I wasn't completely against that as long as there was transparency and both of us were involved. So far nothing has happened. We have talked to people but nothing transpired. Recently we spent a few days apart while he was dog sitting. He said he stayed up all night into the next day and to me that was a red flag because he never does that. When we saw eachother again I had a suspicion I should check his reddit since thats how we have talked to people in the past. Well I was not prepared for what I found. He was messaging a TF about wanting to meet up and have spicy sleep. I thought at first he might want to do it as a couple, well no thats not the case. He sent some very explicit messages and photos. They then proceeded to exchange snapchats. I asked him if they continued to talk on snapchat after the exchange and he said no. Well yesterday I checked his snapchat and the messages and photos continued there. He not once said he was in a relationship and said some pretty hurtful things in those messages. I typically have a higher drive than him and have no problem having spicy sleep all the time but hes usually the one who doesn't want to. He told this person he wants someone who wants him all the time......Like hello?! What am I?.......I have barely talked to him since he lied to me and broke my trust. He keeps apologizing and saying it ment nothing he was just in the mood. He also said he lied about snapchat because he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I feel stupid for even asking and writing this all out. So would I be over reacting if I broke up with him after this?

I (33F) have been dating lets call him Michael (29M) for about 8 months. A few months ago he expressed wanting to try things with other people in the bedroom and I wasn't completely against that as long as there was transparency and both of us were involved. So far nothing has happened. We have talked to people but nothing transpired. Recently we spent a few days apart while he was dog sitting. He said he stayed up all night into the next day and to me that was a red flag because he never does that. When we saw eachother again I had a suspicion I should check his reddit since thats how we have talked to people in the past. Well I was not prepared for what I found. He was messaging a TF about wanting to meet up and have spicy sleep. I thought at first he might want to do it as a couple, well no thats not the case. He sent some very explicit messages and photos. They then proceeded to exchange snapchats. I asked him if they continued to talk on snapchat after the exchange and he said no. Well yesterday I checked his snapchat and the messages and photos continued there. He not once said he was in a relationship and said some pretty hurtful things in those messages. I typically have a higher drive than him and have no problem having spicy sleep all the time but hes usually the one who doesn't want to. He told this person he wants someone who wants him all the time......Like hello?! What am I?.......I have barely talked to him since he lied to me and broke my trust. He keeps apologizing and saying it ment nothing he was just in the mood. He also said he lied about snapchat because he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I feel stupid for even asking and writing this all out. So would I be over reacting if I broke up with him after this?