TLDR:
Online friends wife left the country to se family
Online friend sexted me and 2 other girl
He met up with one irl and French kissed her
I told his wife everything
A run down of events:
.Met a guy on video game
.Got invited to discord server (he was leader)
.He hit on and streamed hentai to an 18 year old
.He left the discord server after he was found out
.The 18 year old left the server on his request
.He got blackmailed with sexting DMs
.I called him privately and met another girl
.He told me he was sexting her and meeting up with her irl, kissing and planning sex
.The second girl chickened out on the sex and left the server, on his request
.We watched movies together and he sexted me
.Hiswife came back
.I ratted on him
This is a bit of a long one but to make everything make sense I have to go into some detail.
Ok a quick run down of the situation:
I’m 26f and I met this guy called Ado playing a videogame(36m, a tennis teacher to teenagers as his day job).I live in the uk, he lives in Lithuania and others lived elsewhere in Europe. He invited me to a discord server that he ran and introduced me to a group of about 25 people who are a “clan” in the game. Seemed like a nice guy, mentioned his wife often and fondly. They’ve been together for around 10 years.
One day he hosted 7d2d for us; me, him and a couple of friends joined on VC. This one girl who was 17 flirted with him heavily (she flirts with lots of people) but he kind of rejected her softly. Half way through the game his wife joined the VC very briefly. He introduced the 17 year old as his “online wife” and his actually wife as well..:. His actual wife.
I respected the guy for politely turning down the young girl and making space for his wife. Over 2 days of us playing she tried to get him to flirt but he denied her.
However……
Not a week later he started reciprocating the flirting HEAVILY. He would turn everything she said into an innuendo with an “ooooo” and an “that’s what she said”.
I thought it was super weird, not only because she was underage but also like, does his wife not have a problem with this? Me and my friends found it super awkward. She started telling stories about her friends having sex in her bed and her enjoying the motion of it. She threw lewd questions at him and he would egg her on.
Anyway,
About 3 days later he abruptly stepped down as leader of the discord server, and then left completely. I was confused. He was the lifeblood of the server and organiser of all our events. He was well liked, why would he leave?
So I joined a private call with him and another girl I didn’t know, who’s name was koi, to ask what was going on. After koi left he told me everything. He said first of all his wife was in Czechia for like 1-2 months to see family + get vet treatment for their dog, so she had no idea of what he was doing. He said he had left the server because on the 17 year olds 18th birthday, they celebrated together by playing a multi choice OVERLY graphic hentai game. In the VC he was streaming it, thinking no one could see it because it was just him and her in the call…. But we could preview it without ever joining. Some mods pulled him up about it and told him it’s not appropriate because 1: she’s too young and 2: he’s married. That’s why he left. He told me they also sexted over WhatsApp. As well as this, the koi girl who was with us in the call earlier was ALSO sexting him.
About an hour of talking later, he’d vented about his situation although none of his reasons were valid. Said some stuff about his wife being a nympho, him being bored of her wanting sex all the time, he was an athlete and overachieving man so needed the challenge of seducing women to keep him happy blah blah blah. His overall message was “I have no control of myself once girls get me going. It’s not my fault”.
He also told me about another affair he had years prior on a camping trip that his wife found out about and subsequently broke up with him for, eventually getting back together.
He asked the young girl to leave the discord server in fear his wife would find out if she remained in any form of contact. Next day he got blackmailed from an anonymous account demanding 1000 euros for his dms between this girl to not be leaked to his wife. We never found out the blackmailer but it had to have been the young girl herself for many reasons I won’t bore you with. No idea if he sent the money but his wife certainly didn’t find out yet.
Me, him and this koi continued playing together in private calls. We watched movies together, got drunk together and had a good friendship. When he got drunk he told me everything in full detail. He told me he had crossed the border to meet koi irl (she lived an hours drive away on the Latvia border). They held hands the first time, French kissed the second time and planned to meet a third time to have sex. She is 20, a virgin and he was her first kiss. She knew he was married so she is not innocent, but she is very young and he should know better. The only reason they didn’t have sex is because she cancelled due to being nervous to lose her virginity. She didn’t have time to reconsider because his wife was back in 4 days.
He asked her to leave the server and she did.
He began watching movies with me alone and I was clearly his next target. The same “oooo” and “that’s what she said”. He said he’d give me an oily massage and come to England to meet me.
Literally on the train to go pick up his wife he was still sexting me, talking about the massage and touching his nipples. I want to say now that we were talking over whatsapp with disappearing messages (his choice).
After he met back up with his wife, he told me and koi that contact would be limited for obvious reasons. Late at night he would still call us, whispering so his wife wouldn’t hear. He gifted us steam games as a way to buy our silence.
I hadn’t talked to him for about a week and I was STEWING about the situation. I thought his wife deserves to know, I know I would if I was in her position. But I didn’t do it as soon as I should have because I feared how she would react. I was a participant after all, I’m not pleading innocence here. I partook almost as much as the others. I didn’t know if she would react rationally or irrationally…. If she would defend us or her husband. So I would write my message in notes app, read it and re read it, rolling if I should send it or not. After a few days I saw his wife was finally online and I sent it. I told her everything, leaving out the names of the other girls for their protection.
She was very sweet, thanked me for telling her, requesting to speak to koi if possible, which koi agreed: confirming everything I was saying. She thanked us again and went offline.
Almost immediately ado began texting me abusive messages, which continued for 2 days straight (pictured).I blocked him and I have no idea what happened after that.
It’s been about 4 months since it happened and I hear from no one, until a few days ago. A friend from the discord server (which I had left) messages me and asked what I did to ado. I said why? He said because ado had rejoined the server, become leader again and was organising gaming events, but put out an announcement that me and koi were to be killed on sight due to “a personal attack”. So I told my friend everything. My friend confronted ado in VC along with about 10 other people and he actually confusedALLEGEDLY. My friend isn’t the most reliable narrator.
I rejoined the server briefly and some of my friends now dislike me because of what I did, although most are ambivalent. Some said I went to far. But it didn’t sit right with me to let this 36 year old man cheat on his wife with borderline minors and get away with it. They have all forgiven him and I wonder if I went too far, but my gut tells me I did the right thing.