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After now dropping my anatomy course & rescheduling when I’m going to retake this class I have been thinking if I am even qualified to transfer to my two options regarding university or even if i meet the requirements. I am considering UCLA and Cal State LA. My gpa is a 3.705 at the moment. Besides my W in anatomy all my grades are passing. All A’s and B’s. I plan on passing anatomy with an A as I am beginning to study now up until I retake the course. However I am the first in my family to take college & university seriously so I’m pretty lost.

I feel like my counselor is no help and often ignores my messages. I am taking courses like two Biology courses, two chem courses, admn Justice, one anatomy course & statistics. My counselor advised me to take my other remaining courses when I transfer however I feel like I’m missing something? Of course I am taking my general courses but is there anything else that I need to know to get accepted into a university? Especially the route I want to take?

Salam everyone,

I had a question for all Muslim. Muslim sisters and also Muslims who have women family members. Awhile ago I went to go take my passport picture, I paid the fee for the passport and it was non refundable after the transaction had went through so there was so stepping back. As I went to the room to take my picture, the person taking the picture was a non Muslim man.

I was asked to remove my hijab or else I can’t take the picture, I felt pressured as my female family member told me to remove it to take the picture and also the non Muslim man (non mahram) taking the picture told me he will not take the picture if I didn’t remove my hijab & I had to have an inquiry to have my hijab in the photo other than that I had to remove it if I didn’t have it.

With the pressure building up and tension, as well as non refundable. I removed my hijab and took the photo. Now looking back at this I wish I hadn’t and I wish I was able to leave the room (wasn’t allowed). I was this the case for anyone else ? Any Muslim sister, or Muslim who has female relatives and family members?

This non mahram made me remove my hijab twice & I wonder has this happened to anyone before ? Is this something reverts have to know in order to take pictures with the hijab on?

Salam,

I wonder if any other muslim sister also deals with this. It’s been a year I’ve been married and honestly I love my marriage. I’ve known my husband for now two years however the first year I weight 109, than I went up to 124 which still I looked amazing I looked great. However after I got on birth control which me and my husband discussed i started to rapidly gain weight. Like rapidly it was weekly that I gained a pound I went up to 134 than 140-145. Keep in mind I’m 4ft. This weight is noticeable for my height.

Now on to my next problem. I sometimes feel like my husband maybe is watching pornography when there’s no signs, no proof no nothing. Secondly I make these scenarios in my head or assumptions that he is checking out other women or looking at other women or even texting other women that are in much better shape than me. I’m tired of feeling this way and feel very crazy?! Has any other Muslim sister dealt with this before or similarly?

It’s not like I’m neglecting my weight lose journey. I work out, avoid sugar from time to time and overall atleast try however it’s not enough as I’m constantly consistent than not than consistent than I’m not again. I just feel burnt out I feel bad and i honestly regret getting on birth control, after I got off birth control now looking at myself I feel hopeless and it feels impossible to go back to how I used to look. It’s very discouraging that’s why I tend to just eat chocolate to comfort myself (chocolate is my way of just ignoring the problem for a temporary feeling of happiness). I know what I have to do but it just feels so discouraging especially when I have these scenarios in my head that my husband probably is watching stuff when in fact there’s no proof or anything like that.

I also recently have just been thinking a lot about past things that were mentioned involving women like past women and past experiences. Sometimes I think to myself maybe I was too young to be married and maybe I could have reverted to Islam after I gained experience (astaghfirullah).

I never stepped into a club or never had went to a house party or was invited to parties where it was men and women having “fun”. I never got to experience what being at a club was like and now that I’m married I see that a lot of people my age are getting this experience and my husband experienced that before I am just feeling like he has more experience than I do.

Any advice ? Or suggestions ?