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I want to get into Punjabi literature but don't know where to start. I'm a Punjabi speaker so the language is fine, just not very familiar with the books yet.
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Need some help here because I’m honestly running out of options. My husband and I have a 30-day break across June–July, and we’d been really looking forward to using this time to travel to Europe. Unfortunately, with the current situation in the Middle East, visa appointments are no longer available and ours got cancelled. We’ve already waited about two months and still don’t have clarity on when things will normalize, so we’re now exploring alternatives.
We also considered East Asia, including Hong Kong, Taiwan, Korea, and Japan, but from what I’ve seen, the weather during that time is extremely hot and humid, which we’re trying to avoid since it can make travel quite uncomfortable.
So I’d really appreciate some suggestions. Where can we travel during this period that still offers a great experience weather-wise?
This is a rare, long break from work, so we want to make the most of it.
PS. I have Indian passport and I am a resident in UAE
I (31F) have been married to my husband (32M) for two years; we’ve known each other for three. We have a good relationship and are generally aligned on how we manage things. We currently live away from our home country.
With vacation coming up in June, my husband asked if we could plan a visit for his parents, I’m genuinely excited about this and fully on board.
Here’s where it gets complicated.
My husband considers his extended family (aunts, uncles, their kids) just as close as his immediate family. I’m not a fan of them and they’ve never made me feel welcomed, but since we don’t live near them and only meet once or twice a year, I’ve learned to live with it. My husband knows how I feel, and we’ve settled on an unspoken agreement: he doesn’t push them on me, and I don’t make it a big deal.
My two concerns:
My husband can’t say no to his mom, who is very close to these relatives( these relatives are my MIL’s sisters). I’m worried that once we open the door to his parents visiting, his mom will suggest the relatives come along and a two-person trip turns into a 6–7 person holiday.
If that happens, my husband will end up booking everyone’s flights- he’d never take money from family and then it snowballs: showing everyone around, eating out, the whole trip falls entirely on us. I’d happily do all of this for his parents. I just don’t want to do it for everyone.
On top of this, I’m between jobs right now and my husband is the one earning. So I’m also aware that I’m not really in a position to tell him what to do with his money, which makes this harder to bring up.
And the thing with relatives like these is that the moment they sense you’re comfortable, you stop being family and start being a resource. It doesn’t stop at one trip.
My ask: How do I bring this up with my husband without making him feel hurt or like I’m overstepping?
TL;DR: Husband’s parents are visiting in June and I’m excited. My concern is that his mom will push to bring the extended family along (people I don’t get along with), turning a small visit into a full group trip that we end up entirely hosting and funding. I’m also between jobs right now, so I can’t exactly put my foot down on how money is spent. Just looking for advice on how to have this conversation with my husband without hurting him or coming across as controlling.