u/Which_Bank2946

I have been in touch with ex and just talked with him after break up. And I started asking about our relationship. I said that „when we go out and eat together, I felt like we becoming closer because you take Care of me and feed me“. And he end up saying „not in your case, if you were in my taste it probably would work, but you’re not. I told you I like skinny girls, but you kept eating in front of me to make me mad“. I told him „that sad, I never pretended to like someone to have sex“, and he replied „i didn’t try hard, I told you several times, that’s why we broke up“.
He acted nice, we spent a lot of together, watched anime, go out to eat, cinema, park. He would bought me things if I asked on a way to my home. Bought me flowers.
I thought he likes me at least a little bit. But I realised he just loser that never had girlfriend before, and he was mad that he can’t get skinny girls, and that he should settle to me. I didn’t realise that he doesn’t even like me, he hated me.
Now, I’m not sure, how I should understand someone like me. And my overthinking become even more bad. I always read people through their little face emotions and from the way they talk etc. and when I felt some coldness I used to overthink. And tried to convince myself to not overthink. Now after situations with my boyfriend I will assume that all my overthinking is true, and that some people probably hate me like he did. Especially all guys. I am not sure how I suppose to interact with others now.

Does your feelings get hurt when you get really dry answers?
When you open up to person and get dry answers, is it reason to be upset or not? I don’t have actual friends and I ask advices mostly in forums. When I get dry answers from real person I know, I feel kinda stupid and embarrassed like I wrote something wrong. And you can’t even say anything to person like „why answering dry? You hurt my feeling“. You just feel bad in quite

I broke up with boyfriend I feel so much pain💔 I don’t even have much friends and can’t talk about it with anyone. That’s why I use forums so much.
I am so much tired that I always should detach myself from someone, while others marry to their first boyfriends. I often feel like it’s my fault, the way act and expect too much. I always end up being attached much more, but he left so easily. I still want to be with him even if he caused so much pain💔
I am 27 and I don’t think I am meet someone who’s truly gonna love me💔

I recently broke up with my boyfriend with whom I dated 2 months. We both 27 and he was my first actual boyfriend. At my age people have kids and started family. People have experience of dating much more than me, even if they’re younger. Will I ever find someone?😭
And he was super patient and most of other people can’t deal with my personality. I don’t know, maybe I have adhd, maybe I overthink too much, and attach quickly. And I am from dysfunctional family.
And I also I don’t have much friends cause I feel like it takes so much brain work constantly talking with someone. My brain constantly tired, so I can’t understand how other people constantly build connections.
I am so scared that I am not able to find somebody:(

I really need some perspective because this was my first actual boyfriend, we dated for about 2 months, and now I’m second-guessing myself.
A while ago, my now-ex told me, "Lose weight, maybe then I will marry you. You remember I said I like skinny girls." I offered to break up right then, but he promised he would do better, so I decided to give him another chance and we kept dating for a bit.
Recently, I asked him for $85 for some cosmetic products. In the past, if I asked for something, he would occasionally send me $20–$30. But this time, his response was: "I can give you $50 if you give me a blowjob."
I got incredibly mad. I felt like I was already giving so much to this relationship, and his comment made me feel like he didn’t appreciate anything I did. On top of that, intimacy was very one-sided (he never returned the favor), and I don't even enjoy doing that.
I told him we should break up. He didn't respond for a whole day. I found myself constantly checking my phone, anxious and stressed, so I finally decided to delete our conversation and my account on the app we used to communicate.
Now that some time has passed, I'm spiraling into self-doubt. He did do nice things for me sometimes, and now I'm wondering—am I overreacting? Was it wrong of me to ask for money? Did I expect too much from a two-month relationship, or was I right to leave?

Today guys from my class were playing video games on big screen. I was quiet and didn’t want to ask to join. But my socially active classmate girl came in and started asking question about game and one guy offered her to play. They were active with her, asked questions and actually played with her. Then I decided to ask from the guy with whom I talked in “normal level” also he was the owner of this game, to join the game. He explained me how to play, in game should be 4 people and he acted like he didn’t want to play with me and tried to give his joystick to others. And when I finally started to play, it felt like all players were playing among each other and when I left last they didn’t try to fight me, I would hit them one time and they lost. I don’t think I’m good player so they could easily kill me.
Maybe I’m too quiet and asking to join after hours was kinda weird. And I have one guy from classes with whom I talked normally but he doesn’t support me in any social interaction cause other guys don’t talk with me. I have bad relationships with one guy, and he’s like alpha in group (we had situationship before and now don’t talk to each other), but he talks with that socially active girl and other guys talk with her easily. But with me no. Even guy with whom I tried to be friendly before. He talks with me when we’re alone but that’s it.
With that socially active girl, I also started distancing from, but probably I shoul have to be more smart and try to be more friendly with her for my social presence?
Idk. It is really important in boys group that at least one guy pay attention to you. Or you should really pretty so guys will talk with themselves.
What to do in situations like this? I shouldn’t have to ask to play?

I am using ipl Braun silk pro 5 for about 2-3 weeks and absolutely no results. I have dark hair and light skin. I used it more than what it once a week after shaving.
Should I return it and ask for replacement?

I (27F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) from Ukraine while I’m studying in the US until December.

In general, he is kind in practical ways: he pays when we go out, sometimes sends me money when I ask, buys me things, and we spend time together watching anime online and offline.

Today I brought up marriage again. He has previously said he doesn’t want anything serious and just wants to date. During the conversation, he said:
“Maybe if you had a job here and lost some weight, we could get married. You remember I said I like skinny girls.”

I left the café after that because it upset me, and he didn’t follow me.

I’m trying to figure out how to bring this up with him in a productive way. What is a good way to respond to a partner who ties future commitment to body expectations and career status, without the conversation turning into an argument or shutdown?

I forg to mention that I’m from another country and have to go back after my graduation. And I told him that. But I said that we can find some solution if we will get married and after he said what he said. And we’re dating around 2 month. i also don’t have many friends in general and I am scared to be alone. but I didn‘t like that we meet in my room because I have roommmates, I felt like we are doin something dirty, and if I knew we get married i wouldn‘t feel dirty about this situation. but since we’re not getting married I feel like I am doing something uncomfortable for me with no good end. and I often compare myself with other around me, couoles that getting married or serious about their gf While I am just dating. By the way, I weight 65-67kg and 160cm