u/Upbeat-Secretary-576

Is there ever any justice for the biological parents in these situations? Childs father and I have 50/50 custody, I am doing everything right by my child, and am still hearing directly from my child's father that his girlfriend is a better mother to my child than I am.

Additionally, I have not attended an annual well-child appointment for my 5 year old in ~3 years because my child's father has been scheduling these appointments (him and i do not get along well enough to attend the same appointments), and I wasn't going to overstep if he truly wanted to be there for his child, and I am just learning (from a nasty comment made by childs father) that child's father has not attended a single PCP appointment, it has only been his girlfriend attending the annual well-child visits on his behalf. Child was also seen numerous times for office visits, and it has only been me and father's girlfriend taking child to PCP.

Child's father has also been using medical diagnoses to try to take custody from me. He called CPS on me one time after a MRSA diagnosis to tell them that child got MRSA because of dirty and horrendous conditions that I supposedly keep child in, he called CPS on me after an impetigo diagnosis to tell them that child got impetigo because I failed to take care of child properly, and he also called CPS on me to tell them that the fact that child's seasonal eczema keeps flaring up seasonally means that I am not taking the "skin condition" seriously (child inherited eczema from me)

Nasty comments I have heard from my child's father about his girlfriend's involvement in my childs care within the last year alone include "(GF) is a better mom to (child) than you are because his own mom cant even take care of herself....(GF) acts as the mother of (child) because she's the only one who takes him to dr appointments. She's a great mother to him, she even schedules the doctor appointments, which is something you should be doing yourself...(GF) is a way better mom and loves him better than you do and treats him better and helps get him clothes that actually fit him...giving birth does not make you a mom, sorry not sorry. You need to step up yourself and figure it out. If you need any pointers or tips (GF) can help with that....you just need to worry about keeping him safe and fed, super simple. Is that understood?"

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did the courts help you when it came to being bullied by your coparent like this?

Just trying to gauge whether ot not my anger at this is justified.

The last annual well-child visit that I took my 5 yo to was in 2022.

Child's father has been scheduling these appointments during his parenting time for the last 3 years ~ a year in advance.

These medical records were rather difficult to access, but I got them from the dr today and learned that my child's father has not taken child to a single well-child visit- it has only been his girlfriend attending these. In fact, child's father has not taken child to a single PCP appointment at all- it has only been me and his girlfriend doing that.

Am I wrong to think that I should have been given the opportunity to attend these appointments if the father did not intend to?