u/Toughsattacks

Background: I’ve been red cross certified for the last 2 years and I need to get recertified. I didn’t think I would need to go through the pool I guard at since I have another job in which we were during a guard class this weekend. My brother is graduating on Sunday, so I could not go.

I reached out to my manager at the pool and told him that I could no longer go through my swim school and I had to go through him. He said that’s fine and he scheduled it for the 23rd. unbeknownst to me, my mom was actually planning my grad party for that day in the morning. I let my manager know that there was 0 chance I’d be able to attend. I’ve let him know now 4 times and he has not responded to any of my messages… so what exactly do I do in this situation? I’ve offered to pay for the class myself etc but still nothing.

if I don’t show up next saturday is that in him or me 😭

I’m a high school senior, and I am graduating in 2 week weeks. 

 Since I’m applying for accommodations for college, I need to provide them with my 504, psych eval, and a current therapy note. I thought this would be no big deal and it would be a really fast process since I already have 3/3 of those things besides having my actual 504. 

Earlier this week (Monday), I sent my counselor an email requesting a copy of my 504 so I can use it for my college. No response. So I sent a follow up email on Wednesday, nothing.. that’s weird? I thought it was a pretty simple request. So on Friday when I had to tell counseling what college I committed to for transcript stuff as well as to be able to walk at graduation, I inquired about it. She said she can’t send it to me and didn’t elaborate further. 

Is there something I’m missing here on why she can’t send me it .. or?? I kinda also want to know if there’s a way to get my hands on it to begin with since I would like to be able to start the process relatively soon so I’m approved by the start of the semester in August ..

TLDR for commonly asked questions:

1. I’m 18
2. my parents are against me getting accommodations so I can’t go through them to request
3. Counselors are the ones in charge of 504s at my school and in my district
4. Ive always been present at my meetings

*Cross post on both r/adultbedwetting and r/incontinence*****

Ok so 

I posted this like a month ago and a lot has changed (crazy innit). I ended up changing what school I’m going to due to getting off my dream schools waitlist. 

Since I have an academic 504, I made an appointment with the disability center to get a run down on how accommodations work and how to apply. While discussing, he asked if there was any residential accommodations I’d want. I said no originally, but he let me know I could always just apply for them when I’m doing my academic ones. 

So the ultimate question is.. To do accommodations or to not do accommodations for bedwetting as in request a single or a fellow bedwetting. 

The housing portal opens up tomorrow so I feel like I kinda have to figure out what I want asap 😭

edit: to clarify o honestly don’t wet the bed that often. I have maybe two wet nights a month at this point

*Cross post on both r/adultbedwetting and r/incontinence*****

Ok so 

I posted this like a month ago and a lot has changed (crazy innit). I ended up changing what school I’m going to due to getting off my dream schools waitlist. 

Since I have an academic 504, I made an appointment with the disability center to get a run down on how accommodations work and how to apply. While discussing, he asked if there was any residential accommodations I’d want. I said no originally, but he let me know I could always just apply for them when I’m doing my academic ones. 

So the ultimate question is.. To do accommodations or to not do accommodations for bedwetting as in request a single or a fellow bedwetting. 

The housing portal opens up tomorrow so I feel like I kinda have to figure out what I want asap 😭

Demographics

• Gender: ftm
• Race/Ethnicity: white/Asian (Filipino)
• Residence: SC
• Income Bracket: 200k
• Type of School: Public
• Hooks: Recruitable athlete for some schools

Intended Major(s): Poli Sci/Psych

Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 4.78 W, 3.92 UW
• Rank (or percentile): 76/483
• # of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc.:

7 Honors

6 APs

3 Dual Enrollments

• Senior Year Course Load:

AP Chem, AP Lit, AP Stat, DE government, Honors Econ

Standardized Testing

List the highest scores earned and all scores that were reported.

• ACT: 26 - Went test optional
• AP/IB: __AP psych__ (5), ___AP Lang_ (4), AP USH (4)… taking 3

Extracurriculars/Activities

List all extracurricular involvements, including leadership roles, time commitments, major achievements, etc.

1. Police Explorers - Cpl - 3 years - multiple service projects
2. Track - Recruitable - Captain - Niche event - 4 years
3. Swimming - Captain - 3 years on Varsity - Did club for 2 years
4. Stuco - Freshman president
5. Passion Project - STEAM education to underserved youth in community
6. Job - Lifeguarding (2 years), Swim instructor (1 year)
7. 300+ service hours in psych related nonprofit
8. speech and debate - 2 years
9. French Honors Society President - in club for 2 years

Awards/Honors

List all awards and honors submitted on your application.

1. Psych related Art piece in district art show
2. NHS
3. boys state
4. DECA Top 10 in a psych related Community awareness project
5. Anatomage tournament 4/30 teams

Letters of Recommendation

AP Chem- 5/10 - I had her twice for both Honors chem and AP. She does very generic letters and doesn’t ask for a resume.

AP Lit/High school swim coach - 8/10, I always used his letter if a college allowed a 5th letter from a coach Or club advisor. We have a pretty good relationship and he’s known me for a long time. I don’t think I’m his favorite swimmer but I’d like to think that he likes me

AP Psych: 10/10 - She’s known for good recommendations and she’s written me quite a few throughout high school

English 2: 4/10 - I had him my sophomore year and I barley ever talk to him. idk why I asked him

Calc: 10/10 she loves me. I had her my junior year and we talk on a weekly basis still. I did well in my class as well as there werent really many kids in the class so I was able to make a good impression on her

Interviews

Grinnell: This interview still gets clowned on by my friends. I was asked to create a class on any topic of my choice… i told the lady I wanted to do the “history of the writing utensil and how it shaped humanity.“ (Yikes) Besides this, I believe I did pretty well. I’ll give it a 6/10

Connecticut College: 7/10 - I have very similar answers to Grinnell Questions but I didn’t ramble about pencils..

Essays

my personal essay was on the butterfly effect. it begins at the residential treatment center I was in during freshman year then moves onto the transition home and how my time in RTC has influenced what I want to do when I grow up. I did this essay during an essay workshop. I spent about 5 hours in total on it. Everyone who I asked to read it said that they really enjoyed it

Supplementals: none of my supplementals I spent more than like 45 minutes on…

For Conneticut college I spent literally like 20 minutes at a speech and debate tournament. I discussed what it’s like to be mixed race in the Baptist South

Grinnell: I literally talked about Arthur, the PBS kids show, and how Grinnell area and education system provides me with joy the same way Elwood city did 😭

Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)

Acceptances:

• Conneticut College - RD
• Clemson - EA
• UofSC - EA
• Fairleigh Dickson EA
• Augustana College EA
• westminster College (UT) EA
• a few other small irrelevant schools

Waitlists:

• Grinnell: ⏸️—> ✅ RD

Additional Information:

Residential effected my class rank and weighted GPA due to the lack of challenging classes I was able to take

I’ve worked my absolute butt off the last 4 years. 9 APs, 3 Dual enrollment, a million clubs in which I had no down time…

in February, I submitted a deposit to the school I thought I wanted to go to. since December, I’ve had a feeling inside my gut that it was not the right choice. As the time ticks closer to May 1st, I’ve felt more and more regret. In the last 6 weeks, this regret exploded into genuine anxiety attacks to the point I started to go to therapy due to how much I don’t want to go to this college

Last week, I got off the waitlist to my dream school which is a Top 10 LAC school. It’s pretty much unaffordable to go to. So my options are to go to community college, take out loans, or go to a college I really don’t want to go to.

my mom is absolutely furious that I’m backing out of the college we deposited at since she thinks I need to suck it up and just go and deal with my problems and she’s mad my therapist isnt telling me to just go, my therapist is telling me that if I’m that against going then I should not go, and I feel as though im a failure for going to community college especially since I had so much going for me just to end up no where.

so what do I do.