r/AdultBedwetting

I just recently found out my boyfriend wets the bed, I had an inkling at first, but I never had the guts to question it. His room has always stank, and he often smelled like pee, I assumed it was just because his sweat just smelled of ammonia. I know he showers when he wets the bed so I know he’s not wetting the bed and just going about his day but he never took precautionary measures to help this issue just dried the bed and changing the sheets. I just bought him a new thing of sheets and a mattress protector, and had him call his PCP for the first time to talk to a urologist. The issues I’m having is A. I have BPD and where I don’t think of him any less for this issue I find myself getting upset and nagging him about his health and lack of care: his mattress has deep dark stains, and I found out by curling up in his bed while he was at work. And B. Idk what to get him to help him other than protectors and a good enzyme cleaner. He said he doesn’t want to wear diapers, and he doesn’t want a loud mattress protector. Almost every protector I find however still has issues with seepage no matter how good. I keep hearing other words that work well for protectors or for under protectors but again I have no clue about this and often times I forget to take a note of the item and lose it in the mass expansion that is the internet. I just wanna know how to be a more supportive girlfriend in this situation and I want to find him stuff to help him with clean up so he isn’t lying in his own waste. Any advice and help would be appreciative.

Hi all,

Never thought I would find a community of people who have had the same problems as myself.

Since I was a child I have been a bed wetter. My childhood was full of bed wetting alarms, reward charts and eventually medication. Since I was 11 I’ve had to take desmopressin every night before bed. This crippled my teenage years and did leave incidents where I wet when I was at my friends houses, family, everything. (Desmopressin doesnt always work!)

Im now mid thirties with a beautiful wife and two great kids. I’ve learnt how to be more disciplined with age but life certainly has thrown it’s embarrassing moments. Fortunately, I have a very understanding partner who has been extremely patient!

I’ve never been diagnosed with ‘nocturnal enuresis’ or anything. Just ‘night time incontinence’ I have tried going back to my GP multiple times over the years who have sent me for various examinations in the urology department. All this has come back with utterly useless advice and I’ve pretty much accepted where I am now and how to manage it to the best of my abilities.

I thought I would share a bit about my story with bedwetting for others who feel so worried about what the future holds. Happy to answer any questions.

Hello all,

Burner account. I (20F nonbinary) have been bedwetting consistently almost every night since I was born. Like so many of you, my childhood was full of timers, alarms, star sticker charts, pull-ups, goodnites, scratchy pee pads, and hushed trips to the laundry room. I’m now living with my partner (21) who is an ex-bedwetter (stopped at 13) so it’s no big deal—they are very supportive.

In the past, both around the age of 12, I have tried desmopressin to no results and visited a urologist to no results. Everybody just sort of gave up on me after that. I’m looking to seek out more solutions healthcare-wise but don’t know where to start. I am autistic and have ADHD and there is a link between those and bedwetting. I also sleep extremely hard—like a rock. I’m thinking that the only reason I bedwet is my hard sleeping because I have no incontinence in the daytime.

How can I sleep lighter without getting awful sleep? What specialists should I see? What meds should I ask about? Thank you.

So if Pull-ups/pant style are less absorbent and less suitable for extended overnight use why do all big diaper companies only make pull-ups/pant style for older kids that wet the bed like Drynites and Libero Sleep Tight?

*Cross post on both r/adultbedwetting and r/incontinence*****

Ok so 

I posted this like a month ago and a lot has changed (crazy innit). I ended up changing what school I’m going to due to getting off my dream schools waitlist. 

Since I have an academic 504, I made an appointment with the disability center to get a run down on how accommodations work and how to apply. While discussing, he asked if there was any residential accommodations I’d want. I said no originally, but he let me know I could always just apply for them when I’m doing my academic ones. 

So the ultimate question is.. To do accommodations or to not do accommodations for bedwetting as in request a single or a fellow bedwetting. 

The housing portal opens up tomorrow so I feel like I kinda have to figure out what I want asap 😭

edit: to clarify o honestly don’t wet the bed that often. I have maybe two wet nights a month at this point

I was curious if there are many older bedwetters here around my age. I’m 64m, single, and have dealt with it my whole life. Sometimes it seems like most discussions online are from younger people, so I’d be interested in hearing from others who’ve lived with this long term.

Even though I've accepted this is just part of who I am, dating with this at my age can feel a little isolating at times, so I’ve also wondered how others have handled relationships and being open about it with partners.

How old were you when you realized it probably wasn’t something you were going to outgrow? And have you become more accepting of it over the years?

I have more incontinence frequency at night than sitting up. Last night between 1030pm and 3am I wet myself 20 times (I have leg pain and difficulty getting out of bed in time). I just got up at 3 am and sat in my wheelchair watching tv. Up until 10 am I only had to use bathroom 4 times. Why so much when laying down? I am almost done with a uti (I never have symptoms)

I am in a nursing home I put down 6 pads and wore pull ups and still wet everything

Tonight I am going to ask for one of those chairs that you partially sit and lay in. I can’t keep going like this I need sleep. They have not sent me to a doctor. Tomorrow I am demanding

how do you guys go about getting diapers? im guessing you go and buy them but i’d be so scared to do that </3 im 18f, itd be the most embarassing thing ever and why ive avoided them my whole life

I’m 19m and i’ve been dealing with bed wetting all my life and i’ve always wanted to go off to college but im scared of wetting the bed while i’m in college.I haven’t tried desmopressin but im kinda nervous to because if it doesn’t work i don’t know what im gonna do. is there a way to get my own dorm room as a sophomore. all advice helps

You've probably noticed the series of informal polls being posed in this and related subs.

These are to get a snapshot of the community's current thoughts and approaches to a number of challenges we face as well as to stimulate conversations that might otherwise be awkward to broach amongst friends, peers and strangers.

We have at least another ten poll topics lined up for the coming weeks but you're very welcome to suggest more topics that you'd like the collective wisdom of a relatively large audience applied to.

Once a few more have been run we'll be writing some analyses and presenting the results to health authorities, manufacturers and so on, so please vote and/or comment - every data point helps!

18f, made a reddit acc just to ask for advice on this, ive been bedwetting almost my whole life, i cant have sleepovers with my friends, and im scared to have a bf in the future and have to tell him. need the best advice anyone has, thanks

Many people delay seeking medical advice because of embarrassment, uncertainty, cost, or hoping symptoms will improve on their own. How long was it before you spoke to a doctor or healthcare professional?

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Summer is on its way! ☀️ What are your best tips for a dry and comfortable summer?

hey I (M30) took my first flight while wearing protection and of all imaginable situations the most embarrassing one happened to me.

I was waiting in security line for TSA and unfortunately my protective brief wasn’t completely dry because the line was going slower than expected.

I had to go through the full body scanner, I walked through it and saw that the region of my loin and hip got flagged so I had to walk towards the security man who gave me a pad down. He padded around my diaper and asked me to lift up my shirt and probably already saw the waist band of my protection. He then asked me to slightly lower and open my jeans, walked around me and pulled to backside of my jeans and underwear away to habe look at the backside of my protectiv brief. In front of a full line of waiting people.

I haven’t felt this humiliated in a while , even though nothing happened and the moment was quickly over I can’t stop thinking about it.

Any one who had do deal with a similar experience and how did you get over it ?

Talking about bladder, bowel, bedwetting, urgency, or continence issues can be difficult. What has been the easiest or most effective way for you to bring it up with someone?

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Curious as to whether anyone has had success using BeDry diapers on a subsequent night(s) after waking up dry?

I’m in a period of being pretty consistently dry right now, but have reached a point where I’m always going to play it safe if extremely tired, traveling, have guests visiting, etc.

It seems like these diapers might be a unique combo of a plastic shell that generally holds its’ shape as well as hook and loop tapes that don’t lose their stickiness.

Anybody had any success reusing?!

18m i know this is sum i can look up but i just see the same thing saying drink less water at night or its just being caused by stress, but even when i barely drink water it still happens. i wanna just be normal and be able to wake up at night when i have to go

Lifelong nightly wetter, 20.

I want to do so many things and try so many experiences but I feel like I can't because of my bedwetting.

How can do certain things when I have to rely on pull ups every night? I want to travel, I want to backpack, I want to spend months on a hiking trail. How can I work on a sailing boat doing ocean cleanup if I'm living in close quarters with strangers and half of my bag is packed with goodnites?

I want to meet a stranger in a club and wake up at theirs the next morning without issue. I want to not feel awkward taking things further after a date because I have to rush off instead of staying over. I want to be able to say yes to spontaneous plans at 1am and camp in the back of my friend's car.

I want to be young and impulsive and try things but it just feels so difficult. This feels so life-limiting sometimes 😔

I (29 m) had And Accident last night. It’s happened before when I have been drunk or taken other things and been really tired. But last night was different I was very sober. Like I was never to concerned but this feels different. Also like 2 weeks ago there was 2 separate days I had take pre work out in the morning and then had accidents in the middle of the day. I definitely going to talk to my doctor about it.

I feel so deflated, like I want to curl up and a ball and Die. I feel depressed and anxious it’s going to happen again. Any tips for dealing with this?

i noticed a change in the packaging-have the contents changed/improved or is it just a change in packaging?