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Is it worth going abroad to give my children a head-start in their life?

I am 39 years old my wife is 37.Is it worth moving abroad to Finland to give our children a better life. We both have stable jobs in India. Is it worth moving abroad for the kids?

P.S. I have a job seeker permit in Finland. If I am able to find a job, I will take my family abroad. Otherwise, I will return back to my home country. I will not be leaving my job and going abroad. I will be taking a sabbatical leave instead.

I am 39 years old my wife is 37.Is it worth moving abroad to a European country to give our children a better life. We both have stable jobs in India. Is it worth moving abroad for the kids?

P.S. I have a job seeker permit in one of the European countries. If I am able to find a job, I will take my family abroad. Otherwise, I will return back to my home country. I will not be leaving my job and going abroad. I will be taking a sabbatical leave instead.

40M living away from my family due to work commitments. I usually join them during weekends.

Yesterday night, my wife sent me a picture. It has one of her close friend standing beside a car. From the caption of the picture it is understood that the has been taken by her husband.

Now, this picture was sent late night when I was asleep. In the morning, when I saw the picture, out of curiosity, I asked her why she sent this picture to me. She has never sent me any pictures of her friends before. But why now? I asked her. She replied: It’s a good picture, and I thought of sharing it with you.

In the afternoon, my wife called me and asked: what do you feel about the picture I sent you? I replied: The lady in the picture is dressed well and car is a good one. She then replied: I found the lady really happy when her husband clicked her picture. It reminded me of our wedding days. Why didn’t you feel that way when you saw the picture? Do you feel anything like this anytime? The usual tiff continues.

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Now, my question is: Is there anything wrong with me? I cannot visualise what she is thinking and expecting every time. She speaks very indirectly and I am not getting the point. Due to this, I am not able to give her a reply she is expecting and this leads to conflicts.

Myself and wife, we both have well paid jobs in the government sector in India. I always wanted to settle down in a European country for the quality of life and the future of my kids. I already have a Masters from a European country and I have first hand experience of life in Europe. But, my wife is reluctant to join with me if I move abroad as she doesn’t like the idea of learning a new language and going through the challenges of securing a job. I have the option to take sabbatical leave from my work and try my luck in the new country. But, my wife doesn’t have that option. She is also not inclined to the idea of joining me abroad once I find a stable job, as she doesn’t find it easy to leave her well paid stable job. Since I have the opportunity to take a sabbatical leave for 2-3 years from work and move to the country where I completed my masters, I feel that it will be an opportunity lost if I am not encashing it now. I am not able to take a decision. What can be an ideal course of action?

Myself and wife, we both have well paid jobs in the government sector in India. I always wanted to settle down in a European country for the quality of life and the future of my kids. I already have a Masters from a European country and I have first hand experience of life in Europe. But, my wife is reluctant to join with me if I move abroad as she doesn’t like the idea of learning a new language and going through the challenges of securing a job. I have the option to take sabbatical leave from my work and try my luck in the new country. But, my wife doesn’t have that option. She is also not inclined to the idea of joining me abroad once I finds a stable job, as she doesn’t find it easy to leave a well paid stable job. Since I have the opportunity to take a sabbatical leave for 2-3 years from work and move to the country where I completed my masters, I feel that it will be an opportunity lost if I don’t encash it now. I am not able to take a decision. What can be an ideal course of action?