u/Technical-Future-466

When my grandparents were young , they were living in a car. They had a baby. They give the baby up because they just couldn't raise her. So all my life I'm hearing about this missing Aunt. Well , today , I was trying to find my half sister on social media and I see a post from a cousin on dad's side saying that they have located the Aunt that none of us have ever met.

Now , am I tripping , or were these people PLANNING to not tell me anything?

Because I haven't seen them in 4 years and I will not let them meet my daughter but I feel you still owe me the basic decency of informing me about a situation like this.

TW/ DEATH

My MIL texted me and my husband minutes ago about how her husband was going to visit his family member who has breast cancer and only had like 7 days left to live. He went there and discovered her already passed away in her house. So she was talking about how many family members of her husband's have already passed away and I said last year wasn't that the funeral you wanted to take (daughter) to ? And she said yeah the woman who passed away today , her dad passed away last year and "you didn't let us take her (daughter)" and I'm like

Let me not , okay.

Because this isn't the proper time to debate why I don't allow a roomful of strangers I've never met to be ALONE with MY KID. She was either a newborn or an infant at the time. Everyone knows that you don't leave your child alone in a roomful of people you don't even know before they can talk and tell you what happened.

But that conversation will not be had today , because I'm not an asshole. Someone just passed away.

And another thing if this woman wanted to meet my daughter so badly she had a whole year to try to meet her?? Like nobody was physically stopping her????

But is it automatically MY FAULT because I'm protecting my baby , that someone who apparently wanted to meet my baby never got to but also ever even TRIED TO.

and as soon as my MIL said that to me I'm like reddit is gonna love this story.

My mother's last message to me was March 23rd...

My mother knows she hasn't seen me in 4 years. If she was actually trying to fix things with me then why hasn't she reached out since then? It's like she thinks I'M responsible for reconciliation.

She doesn't know I have her restricted on messenger.

I am the child and I am not responsible for repairing something I didn't break.