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So my gf and I have been dating for almost a year. She already met my parents once but that was before we went on break. After our break everything was fine up until my parents decided I couldn’t live with them any longer and I ended up homeless. She helped me to a crisis shelter and also helped me to get resources. We were struggle bussing living in a motel 6 for a couple days before switching to a Mariott hotel while she looked for an apartment for us. Apartment searching took awhile and I slept in a tent on the city streets for awhile while she was looking. I ended up finding a place and we were able to move in. I stayed in contact with my mom who helped us furnish the place (my dad was the one that wanted me out of the house btw) so I don’t have any problem with my mom. Shes given me her rice cooker and the shelves in our kitchen were from her along with some other things too. Tomorrow is Mother’s Day and she invited me and my gf to breakfast. My grandmother is over for the weekend too and wants to meet my gf. My little sibling also wants to see my gf and has made my gf gifts on their 3D printer before because they really like her and look up to her. My gf says she doesn’t want to go because of my dad. She justifies it by bringing up how my dad beat me when I was a kid and kicked me out as a young adult even though he adopted me. That is all true, but my father and I have a really complex relationship. I forgive him for kicking me out and I know that I was disrespectful to him under his roof as well. Me and my dad have always fought and made up and fought again. I am not trying to say the relationship isn’t messy or toxic, but I forgive him and I want to salvage whatever relationship I can have with him. He won’t live forever. Even so, my gf doesn’t fully understand that and told me directly that she could never respect him because of what he did to me. She is refusing to come to Mother’s Day breakfast and told me to tell them she has work. (She doesn’t until 2pm and breakfast is at 9:30) she also said she is “incapable of behaving in an amiable manner” I just don’t see how I can be with someone who can’t at least tolerate being around my family. Am I overreacting to feel like this might affect the relationship? Or maybe I forgave my parents too soon?

I told her she doesn’t have to go and I will tell them she is at work, but she hasn’t fully listened to my feelings on the matter and that is what hurts most. I respected her boundary and also wasn’t met emotionally in the way I needed. I was sort of shut down when she told me she would flat out never respect them and that I need to get over it without nuance. I am not asking her to pretend I am asking her to at the very least understand that it is complicated and that without her there i sometime feel incomplete in a way that is difficult to articulate. She has done more for me than any of them and even if I respect that she doesn’t want to come it still hurts to feel like the main part of my family is missing when I am literally with my family. Maybe that doesn’t make sense. It is the only way I know how to conceptualize the way it feels.

What do you think?

I am going to try to keep this short. Please keep in mind there is no crisis currently and I took care of my girlfriend before writing this.

My gf just got back from work and the dog went over to her she picked him up and came over to bed where I was sitting and watching my show, but then her eyes rolled back and she fell to her knees. I grabbed her arm to hold her upright. She was swaying and holding the dog. I tried to physically hold her upright and then she put the dog down. I don’t know what happened there. She immediately left for the store seeming 100% fine literally right after. I have been asking her about these “episodes” as she calls them and she says it isn’t really fainting. Every time this occurs she literally seems fine and her vitals are never affected so I am really really confused.

AIO for just being really confused now??

(For more info she was talking to me while I was holding her upright telling me not to worry and then just stood up which is why I don’t think it is a medical issue)

Edit: After a lot of questioning she told me this happens when she gets dejavu and it is her reaction to “delusion” which I don’t understand, but ig that is all the answer i am getting for now.

Second edit: she told me it is a reaction she has to her own thoughts and that she does it because it “keeps bad things from happening” which honestly sounds a little bit like my own OCD before it was treated. She has a recent clean EEG and clean EKG so it is still likely not medical.

Third edit: people in the comments saying I am being dismissive it is because the one time she went to the hospital she did all these tests for POTS and Seizures and none were positive which is literally why I am confused so please remember you don’t have all the information before deciding I just am not looking for answers thx.

I get a very weird reaction when I drink. I can’t even get drunk because as soon as I get the buzz I start twitching. It also sometimes causes drop attacks and also I start “acting high” according to my friends.

Is this related to FND and has anyone else experienced this???

Warning cause idk if this sorta thing could be a trigger.

Now to be clear this is the first time that this has occurred in a way that was not playful.

My gf and I were in bed cuddling and my dog came over. He is very clingy and always wants to be sitting in her lap or mine. He started climbing onto my gf and was about to stepping on her chest.

I told him no and the bugger didnt listen so I gave him a little shove. He dramatically tripped off the bed. (Mind you we have a bed that becomes a couch and this thing is literally on the floor so the dog was fine.) he had his ears up still and he was NOT hurt in the slightest.

My gf hit me in the face and told me not to abuse my dog.

I did nothing back and didn’t even say shit cause I was literally in shock holding my cheek like an idiot just looking at her like wtf.

That shit didn’t hurt and she obviously wasn’t trying to hurt me, but I was seriously not expecting that.

I am not trying to have an ego or anything and Idk if I overreacted/acted like a child, but I literally just went silent and didn’t talk to her.

She went on about how I need to be nice to my dog but I was trying not to let her get her tits stepped on.

AIO to literally be considering texting her and asking her wtf went into her mind and why she did that?

She already left for work, but I am just surprised she did that.

We were planning to watch a show tonight and I was gonna make her something for dinner to surprise her cause I am trying to be useful for something so she doesn’t gotta do all the cooking and I get off work way before she does.

But now that I am looking at recipes I got a little mad because why the hell did she do that?

AIO and should I text her? Ik she got hormones and whatnot but seriously that shit made me feel like I’m a little kid again.

My gf (f24) keeps saying she has intrusive thoughts about slitting my throat or crushing my hand.

Should I be concerned even if she has never hurt me and labeled the thoughts as intrusive?

I honestly haven’t thought much of it because of the fact she has never hurt me, but maybe in reality I am under-reacting?

I don’t know where her mental health is to be honest, but coming up she is being tested for bipolar ADHD OCD and Autism.

I don’t really know how I should be going about this and I don’t know if it would be overreacting to take her “intrusive thoughts” seriously or if it is just something she is worried about in her own head since she never acted on any of those thoughts at all.

(For background I am 20 and live with her in her apartment currently)

(More context is I have harm ocd and know how distressing intrusive thoughts like that can be. I don’t know if it would translate into action for her though amd Thats where the uncertainty comes in. She has told me straight up that I don’t take the thoughts seriously enough, but when I decided I wasn’t safe with her she backtracked. She told me she had acted on the thoughts before and ended up in jail so honestly I feel like she should do CBT and reconcile some of those memories from the previous time.)

(At the time of the incident she had self diagnosed DID and acted like an alter had acted on her behalf, but she very clearly doesnt actually have it and haas also admitted that herself. Now she is still looking for a diagnosis as to why she has these kinds of thoughts.)

My gf (f24) keeps saying she has intrusive thoughts about slitting my throat or crushing my hand.

Should I be concerned even if she has never hurt me and labeled the thoughts as intrusive?

I honestly haven’t thought much of it because of the fact she has never hurt me, but maybe in reality I am under-reacting?

I don’t know where her mental health is to be honest, but coming up she is being tested for bipolar ADHD OCD and Autism.

I don’t really know how I should be going about this and I don’t know if it would be overreacting to take her “intrusive thoughts” seriously or if it is just something she is worried about in her own head since she never acted on any of those thoughts at all.

(For background I am 20 and live with her in her apartment currently)

(More context is I have harm ocd and know how distressing intrusive thoughts like that can be. I don’t know if it would translate into action for her though amd Thats where the uncertainty comes in. She has told me straight up that I don’t take the thoughts seriously enough, but when I decided I wasn’t safe with her she backtracked. She told me she had acted on the thoughts before and ended up in jail so honestly I feel like she should do CBT and reconcile some of those memories from the previous incident)

(At the time of the incident she had self diagnosed DID and acted like an alter had acted on her behalf, but she very clearly doesnt actually have it and has also admitted that herself. Now she is looking for a diagnosis to explain why she is still having these kinds of thoughts.)