u/SquashOk4209

I just posted about a freezer spell on a person I love, but I need more options. I love this person, but they’re an asshole. I love him but I can’t stay with him. I know trying to do spells to get him to treat me right aren’t worth it, all that “manipulation of free will” talk. But no matter how bad I want to leave I convince myself to stay. I give in to his apologies, the lies he tells to keep me. If anything, I feel like a spell was done on me. Like my free will to leave has been manipulated. No matter how angry, disgusted, anxious I get I just go back to hoping it’ll change, that he’ll change. Even if he is trying to be better, I’m not healed from his past actions and it’s a very weak effort on his behalf if any at all to repair the damage.

What the hell am I supposed to do. I’ve only ever done protection spells, and if you ask me I’m not feeling like I’m being kept from harms way. Like his arrogance is stronger than my will for peace.

I (23F) am expecting an apology from my (25M) partner. Last night, and like a lot of other nights, he completely dismissed, minimised and ignored how I felt towards something that was due to his actions. All day we have not spoken (we live together) and unlike every other time I refuse to act like nothing is wrong and just act normal. I have made it clear that I’m not willing to put my feelings aside and I’ll put it past me after I receive a genuine apology. He said “he will” but for some reason actually hearing it has not come. He tried acting normal with me again, and I again reminded him that until I receive an apology I will not. So he left the room and is now using silence against me for expecting my needs to be met. Which by the way, an apology, let alone asking for it, really scrapes the bare minimum. I’m sick of feeling like this relationship only works when I forget my own feelings and what I deserve so that he can continue avoiding accountability.

TL;DR

Partner ignoring me for wanting an apology for emotions his actions caused

I’m super pissed right now, and my thoughts run pretty rampage. I was just thinking, what part of the ritual is really needed if it’s all focused on intent? I’d say right now I have alot of heavy negative energy focusing on the one thing, specifically an outcome I’d like to see happen as punishment if I’m done wrong against. And isn’t that alone like half of the ritual? Why would I need a candle, herbs, crystals, other tools for magic if the intent is there regardless? Genuine question, no disregard to magic as a whole

I want to do a truth telling spell on my partner, but if I hear what I don’t want to know it’ll break me.

Can I mix a truth spell with a strength spell?

Last year I found out horrendous things about my partner but chose to stay. Now I’m scared he’s just better at lying. But anything I need to know, if it’s bad, will break me down. I want to mix it with a strength spell so I’m strong enough to face the music and make decisions about the relationship. Otherwise I’d probably just end up staying again

Sometimes I get this feeling like I’m living in a bad dream waiting to wake up. One of those dreams where there’s nothing inherently wrong, just uneasiness. Sometimes it worse, sometimes it’s bearable. It first started in May 2021/22 I think, where for months every single day I was just anxious, overly aware of my heartrate, feeling hot and cold at the same time, sweating but shaking. Not really accompanied by negative thoughts, I could just be but in that state. I was constantly trying to find a reason for it, seasonal depression, smoking weed, not smoking weed, too much coffee, not enough food. But it didn’t matter whether I was well fed, coffee or no coffee, high or sober I’d feel that way. I gave up looking for a reason why and just kind of accepted that sometimes I’m going to feel like this. I’m afraid of it though, because I never know how intense it’ll get or for how long I’ll feel it. Days, weeks, months. What if it starts one day and never goes away. It does get worse when the season grows cold, end of autumn/start of winter. I’ll just sit there, dazed. Not interested in communication and if I do try it’s extremely forced and draining, I don’t feel like doing anything productive let alone even watch a movie or tv show. I’m just stuck doomscrolling because I don’t even know why. I just have absolutely no interest in anything else and I don’t want to stare at a wall. It’s not an everyday state, it just comes on randomly and leaves randomly. The only correlation I have to the beginning of this feeling and what could’ve triggered it is the one and only time I did acid and had an awful trip. Worst thing I’ve ever felt in my life. It’s kind of like remnants of that feeling, not as intense, but the only time I’ve ever felt it. I never got like this before doing acid. Since then I’ve stopped all drugs, I don’t even smoke weed anymore. But it still lingers, through all the changes I make in my life it’s still there.

The book ‘I who have never known man’ drew me in and spat me out hard. I just kept reading because I needed to know how it ended, but I didn’t want to finish it. I’m struggling so hard to find a similar book. It has this dystopian vibe, but not in the usual sense somehow. I loved it, but the words dystopian and post-apocalyptic often come with action and drama etc, this didn’t and that’s why I liked it. The book was intriguingly boring? I need help finding something this good

I’m trying to do my research on spells, I’ve been in and out of touch with spirituality for a while and kind of getting that “wave” or retouch with it again.

There’s something I want to do, but I’m not sure of the consequences on it. I don’t want any hate, just facts through personal lessons.

For context, my partner and I had a very rough 2025 and my trust was broken entirely, and I want it back. I want to do some kind of “do right by me” spell, but that crosses the line into controlling freedom of choice. Naturally, I know I should just let him prove his intentions and go from there but if I’m completely honest I just feel too weak to leave him if it came to it but too weak to put up with a repeat of last year. I simply just want him to rebuild the trust he broke.

To add to that, this year has been better so far but I don’t want to take my chances falling back into old cycles. I can always feel when something is bound to go wrong, and I just want that feeling gone. I want to feel secure, I want to feel trust again. I want to know he isn’t willing to put me through what I went through last year.