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I (23F) am dating my boyfriend (31M). We’ve been together for about 4 months.

I’m a student and I also work part-time, so I have my own income. I live with my mother and sister. We are stable financially, but I obviously don’t earn anywhere near what he earns. He is very successful, owns multiple properties, cars, and earns significantly more.

My father passed away, so I’m very family-oriented and I also try to support people I care about in practical ways.

In the relationship, I put in a lot of effort. I cook for him sometimes, spend time with him, and I even helped his business by building a website. I do this because I love him and want to support him.

He usually pays for our dates and treats me well overall, but he rarely gives gifts or surprises me. So far, he has only bought me flowers twice.

When I brought it up jokingly and said something like “you say you love me, but I don’t really see it,” he replied: “How long have we known each other? Four months? We still have a lot of time.”

He has also said that in the future, if he marries a woman, he would take care of everything financially and she wouldn’t need to work.

I’m a bit confused because culturally (Morocco) we come from a background where men usually provide more financially in relationships, and it feels natural to me to be taken care of in that way as a sign of love and security. For me, it’s not just about gifts themselves, but about feeling valued, prioritized, and emotionally invested in.

I’m trying to understand if this is just a difference in expectations, or love language, or if it means we are not compatible or maybe he wants more confirmations from me

I (23F) am dating my boyfriend (31M). We’ve been together for about 4 months.

I’m a student and I also work part-time, so I have my own income. I live with my mother and sister. We are stable financially, but I obviously don’t earn anywhere near what he earns. He is very successful, owns multiple properties, luxury cars, and earns significantly more.

My father passed away, so I’m very family-oriented and I also try to support people I care about in practical ways.

In the relationship, I put in a lot of effort. I cook for him sometimes, spend time with him, and I even helped his business by building a website and designing flyers and business cards for him. I do this because I love him and want to support him.

He usually pays for our dates and treats me well overall, but he rarely gives gifts or surprises me. So far, he has only bought me flowers twice.

When I brought it up jokingly and said something like “you say you love me, but I don’t really see it,” he replied: “How long have we known each other? Four months? We still have a lot of time.”

He has also said that in the future, if he marries a woman, he would take care of everything financially and she wouldn’t need to work.

I’m a bit confused because culturally, we come from a background where men usually provide more financially in relationships, and it feels natural to me to be taken care of in that way as a sign of love and security. For me, it’s not just about gifts themselves, but about feeling valued, prioritized, and emotionally invested in.

I’m trying to understand if this is just a difference in expectations, or love language, or if it means we are not compatible or maybe he wants more confirmations from me

أنا طالبة وأعمل بدوام جزئي، لذلك لدي دخلي الخاص. أعيش مع والدتي وأختي، ونحن مستقرون ماليًا، لكن دخلي بالطبع لا يقارن بدخله. هو ناجح جدًا، يمتلك عدة عقارات وسيارات فاخرة، ويكسب أكثر بكثير مني.

والدي توفي، لذلك أنا قريبة جدًا من عائلتي وأحاول دائمًا دعم الأشخاص الذين أحبهم بطرق عملية.

في العلاقة، أبذل جهدًا كبيرًا. أطبخ له أحيانًا، أقضي وقتًا معه، وحتى أنني ساعدته في عمله من خلال إنشاء موقع إلكتروني وتصميم منشورات وبطاقات عمل له. أفعل ذلك لأنني أحبه وأريد دعمه.

هو عادةً يدفع في مواعيدنا ويعاملني بشكل جيد بشكل عام، لكنه نادرًا ما يقدم هدايا أو مفاجآت. حتى الآن، أهداني زهور مرتين فقط.

عندما تحدثت معه بطريقة مرحة وقلت شيئًا مثل: “أنت تقول إنك تحبني، لكني لا أرى ذلك”، أجابني: “كم من الوقت نعرف بعضنا؟ أربعة أشهر؟ لا يزال لدينا الكثير من الوقت.”

كما قال إنه في المستقبل، إذا تزوج امرأة، فسوف يتكفل بكل شيء ماليًا ولن تحتاج إلى العمل.

أنا في حيرة لأنني من ثقافة حيث من الطبيعي أن يقوم الرجل بالإنفاق والدعم المالي في العلاقة، وأشعر أن هذا يعكس الحب والأمان. بالنسبة لي، ليس الأمر مجرد هدايا، بل الشعور بالتقدير والأولوية والاهتمام الحقيقي.

أحاول أن أفهم إذا كان هذا مجرد اختلاف في التوقعات أو في “لغة الحب”، أم أننا غير متوافقين، أو ربما هو يحتاج فقط إلى مزيد من الوقت أو التأكيد مني

I’m 23F and my boyfriend is 31M. We’ve been dating for almost 4 months now. He has very good money, owns houses, nice cars, and can basically afford anything he wants. He pays for dinners, but he never buys me gifts or surprises me with anything. When I asked him about it, he said it’s “too early.”

We also come from a culture where men usually provide and take care of the woman financially, so for me this dynamic feels unfamiliar.

I’d really like to understand different perspectives, especially from men. Is this normal for some men early in a relationship? Could this be about trust, different values, or something else?

I’m 23F and my boyfriend is 31M. We’ve been dating for almost 4 months now. He has very good money, owns houses, nice cars, and can basically afford anything he wants. He pays for dinners, but he never buys me gifts or surprises me with anything. When I asked him about it, he said it’s “too early.”

We also come from a culture where men usually provide and take care of the woman financially, so for me this dynamic feels unfamiliar.

I’d really like to understand different perspectives, especially from men. Is this normal for some men early in a relationship? Could this be about trust, different values, or something else?

I’m 23F and my boyfriend is 31M. We’ve been dating for almost 4 months now. He has very good money, owns houses, nice cars, and can basically afford anything he wants. He pays for dinners, but he never buys me gifts or surprises me with anything. When I asked him about it, he said it’s “too early.”

We also come from a culture where men usually provide and take care of the woman financially, so for me this dynamic feels unfamiliar.

I’d really like to understand different perspectives, especially from men. Is this normal for some men early in a relationship? Could this be about trust, different values, or something else?