I have lost all interest in being physical with my husband after years of being propositioned vs romanced. I'm trying to gather all my thoughts but the thing that has hurt the most is being asked for sex or a hj/BJ after I took care of myself.
Is it normal for a spouse to expect they should get off since you did (but now you just have twice as much work)?
We don't make out or touch, it's basically a dorky "would you like to make love" and I say no immediately and want to puke. It feels like he is asking if he needs to put the effort in to get laid or if he shouldn't bother. No oral sex for me because he's not good at it and blames his short tongue? (Feels so stupid writing that.) Is this FUBAR'd?
I have currently friend-zoned my husband after five years of him not giving a fuck about my needs and just getting his own met.
Edit: I should say, he allowed me to friend zone him, it was his idea, to take sex off the table and allow us to start over again...