u/Smart_Panda2692

My gf almost brokeup with me, or idk if she brokeup, she said she dont want to keep things with me but i begged her and she said we will have a break and after that i will decide and I agreed saying decide based on my behaviour, and only after a week she said i can msg her anytime but she will reply if she wants and 2 days after that i apologised to her saying i will change and she said u will never change even after i give u 100 chances and i was really sorry at that time( the thing that happened was i called her mother 5 mnths ago and i texted her again saying why is she not replying my msg, i was just calling and messaging her a lot, she said she felt pressured when her sister was there) so she said i will give you one last chance, but it doesn’t mean i will forget everything, i will talk when i want only otherwise dont say why u aren’t replying and dont call me and i said ok, she said i will take this as a break and see if u do as u say, i said ok and yesterday we talked we had really confusing talk, she was just kind of cold and act she didn’t really care about the convo and she yesterday after giving a reply she uploaded a story in insta saying when he calls me his future wife but he isn’t going to be in my future, dk if she is testing me, am an anxious attachment style and she an avoidant, how do i even talk to her so she feels safe and talk quietly and in a good way so everything goes fine.

I have done a lot of mistakes and repeated it again and again, I genuinely showed care but I over cared and she felt overwhelmed all by that, I used to call her when she was offline for multiple times and she said I would just msg when I get online stop doing this and it repeated again and again, one time I panicked and msged her mother and she scold her and she said at that time as well dont do this kind of thing but I repeated it again and she said Why u never care for me, u dont respect my boundaries, I gave u multiple chances but still blah blah, She said her sister would come so at that time she wont be able to msg or call me like before and even at that time i msged her mother and she scold her, and this time she was really upset and felt pressured but she was already thinking of ending things, I begged her saying it wont happen again but she was not listening but finally after weeks, she said she will give me last chance but will take it as a break as well and will talk to me only if she wants, but it has been only 2 days since she said that but she uploaded a story yesterday saying “When he calls me his future wife but he is not going to be in my future” and i felt so much pain in my heart, when i see the reels she likes it feels like she is already moving on and never will be with me, idk whats the purpose of giving a last chance, she hasn’t replied to my message but she comes online post things like this and wont even see my msg, what should I do? I love her really so much, I think all the pressure was because of me wanting to talk to her.

I have done a lot of mistakes and repeated it again and again, I genuinely showed care but I over cared and she felt overwhelmed all by that, I used to call her when she was offline for multiple times and she said I would just msg when I get online stop doing this and it repeated again and again, one time I panicked and msged her mother and she scold her and she said at that time as well dont do this kind of thing but I repeated it again and she said Why u never care for me, u dont respect my boundaries, I gave u multiple chances but still blah blah, She said her sister would come so at that time she wont be able to msg or call me like before and even at that time i msged her mother and she scold her, and this time she was really upset and felt pressured but she was already thinking of ending things, I begged her saying it wont happen again but she was not listening but finally after weeks, she said she will give me last chance but will take it as a break as well and will talk to me only if she wants, but it has been only 2 days since she said that but she uploaded a story yesterday saying “When he calls me his future wife but he is not going to be in my future” and i felt so much pain in my heart, when i see the reels she likes it feels like she is already moving on and never will be with me, idk whats the purpose of giving a last chance, she hasn’t replied to my message but she comes online post things like this and wont even see my msg, what should I do? I love her really so much, I think all the pressure was because of me wanting to talk to her.

So she was at first saying we cant go on and wanted to end things but she gave me a last chance and said even if i give u chance dont think i will forget everything, she said that i will take this as a break but i will see how u will change and she said if she wants she will talk or else she wont text, and the thing I said is that ok am sorry i wont disappoint u this time and when I talk to her now all she does is say idc when I ask what u doing she says nothing and when I ask what u ate she says why would even care what I ate and she is just posting things to make me rage she post things like “When i say i wanna have 3 kids and he blushes thinking he is gonna be the dad” and kpop edits saying this is my man forever like what, am here trying to act cool and she is posting toxic things maybe wanna test me but am really furious, she just casually says bye and dont come online for 12-13 hrs, Idk how do i get her back to be normal, Ik all was my mistakes, I repeated the same mistakes like calling her again again, even texted her mother and she was angry said I wanted you to understand my problem when I cant talk but u are adding up other problems, I dont really know what am i supposed to do so she can feel like opening again with me