u/Smart_Employee5640

Is it every time I build up the guts to talk to you, to actually figure out what this is, the opportunity never presents itself. It like the universe is saying DONT DO IT!
Avoidance is easy, it’s safe, no one gets hurt, there’s no risks

But then my heart begins to ache, because I don’t know what this is, I don’t even know if it is anything, am I delusional? Have I created something that’s not in my head? is it something worth pursuing? Is it worth the risk? Is it worth creating chaos in my life for? And Its scary to think how much this has impacted me, to the point I am questioning my mentality and sanity, why is it so friggen hard!! It shouldn’t feel like this, it shouldn’t be so damn difficult. But it is and I can’t answer these questions alone.

But If this really is something and you feel it too, why won’t you meet me half way?
I mean I honestly hate when people say the ball is your court or it’s now up to you, I’m not doing that, nor am I asking for some grand gesture. Just small steps, just a breadcrumb, just something so I know I’m not in this alone.

Or do I just keep spiralling in these delusions that there’s something there when there never was?

Is it every time I build up the guts to talk to you face to face, to actually figure out what this is, the opportunity never presents itself. It like the universe is saying DONT DO IT!
Avoidance is easy, it’s safe, no one gets hurt, there’s no risks

But then my heart begins to ache, because I don’t know what this is, I don’t even know if it is anything, am I delusional? Have I created something that’s not in my head? is it something worth pursuing? Is it worth the risk? Is it worth creating chaos in my life for? And Its scary to think how much this has impacted me, to the point I am questioning my mentality and sanity, why is it so friggen hard!! It shouldn’t feel like this, it shouldn’t be so damn difficult. But it is and I can’t answer these questions alone.

But If this really is something and you feel it too, why won’t you meet me half way?
I mean I honestly hate when people say the ball is your court or it’s now up to you, I’m not doing that, nor am I asking for some grand gesture. Just small steps, just a breadcrumb, just something so I know I’m not in this alone.

Or do I just keep spiralling in these delusions that there’s something there when there never was?

I’m just curious, what would you do or what would say if your crush discovered your posts? Would you be relieved? Would you be worried? What would you want to say?

Personally my soul would leave my body and I would probably delete my account.

Was a simple smile from you and I’m spiralling again.
Why can’t I shut this feeling off, just when I think I can breathe again, you do the smallest thing and I’m back at the start. Why doesn’t my heart understand this will never work, it’s impossible, but yet I still sit here fantasising about what could be.
You plague my thoughts every day and night, I overthink every little interaction, when you don’t speak to me I break slowly inside, yet a simple hello from you can brighten even my darkest days. Simple things like the way you say my name and even a simple look and my brain malfunctions.
I even avoid eye contact now because I’m afraid, I’m afraid you’ll see this chaotic mess I have created inside my head.
I’m being delusional I know this and I hate myself for feeling this way, but I just can’t control it, and the funniest thing of all is, you are completely oblivious to the turmoil you cause inside of me.

Was a simple smile from you and I’m spiralling again.
Why can’t I shut this feeling off, just when I think I can breathe again, you do the smallest thing and I’m back at the start. Why doesn’t my heart understand this will never work, it’s impossible, but yet I still sit here fantasising about what could be.
You plague my thoughts every day and night, I overthink every little interaction, when you don’t speak to me I break slowly inside, yet a simple hello from you can brighten even my darkest days. The way you say my name and even a simple look and my brain malfunctions.
I even avoid eye contact now because I’m afraid, I’m afraid you’ll see this chaotic mess I have created inside my head.
I’m being delusional I know this and I hate myself for feeling this way, but I just can’t control it, and the funniest thing of all is, you are completely oblivious to the turmoil you cause inside of me.

Kinda a vent kinda a question… Have you ever felt that your crush is avoiding you? Fair enough if you’ve done something to annoy or make them feel uncomfortable I totally understand that, but I don’t think I have as I usually keep my emotions/attractions under wraps but I get the feeling this person is avoiding me like they don’t talk to me much anymore unless it necessary, anyhow one trait I have is if you avoid or ignore me, I mirror your attitude/actions so I distance myself and don’t speak to give them the space they obviously want, yet now I am the one made out to be an a-hole because I am not talking to them… WTH!!!
Has anyone else had this happen? How do you deal with it?

So after months of crushing on a coworker I’ve decided that it’s time to let it go. I know Nothing is going to come out of this and I’m just setting myself up for frustration and hurt. My question is how do you overcome this especially when you see them everyday at work. Do I just give the cold shoulder and ignore them or do I still be civil and just give them the “everyday generic coworker attitude” how do I do this?

So for context it involves a coworker, now from reading through this sub, a lot of interaction and body language is pointing to there might be some interest, like prolonged eye contact, hidden glances, feet positioning, full body turn when interacting and more. Though they do give a hot cold vibe sometimes and avoids direct eye contact, but for the last couple of days I kinda took a step back and just watched their interaction with other coworkers, and besides a couple subtle differences they interact the same with other workers.

Has anyone else experienced this, am I dense to reading body language or was I just overthinking the whole thing?

Im really confused right now. So I have developed a crush/infatuation on a coworker, to start there was like a lot and I mean a lot of eye contact and positive interactions, but lately I’ve noticed he definitely gives off a hot cold vibe, like there’s days he avoids eye contact and talking to me, so on these days I just putt along and stay out of his zone, but then there’s days when he’s really chatty and Ive noticed he watches me when he thinks I’m not looking (seen it in my peripheral) I’ve also noticed that he watches how I interact with other males or his head perks up when I mention another males names.

But I’m getting serious whiplash from the hot cold vibes, what should I do?