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I’m 6w2d after IVF and feeling really anxious.

Since I got my positive test at 5dp5dt, I’ve had mild cramps on and off almost every day. Today they’ve suddenly disappeared completely, and now I’m worrying.

My boobs aren’t very sore either, just a bit heavy, and my symptoms seem much less noticeable than before. I’m still feeling quite exhausted, though.
I know symptoms can come and go, but it’s hard not to panic. I have my first scan in 3 days, when I’ll be 7 weeks.

Has anyone had cramps consistently from their positive test and then had them stop around 6 weeks, only to go on to have a healthy scan?

Hi everyone,
I’m struggling with the wait between my last beta and first scan and would love to hear how others coped.
My scan is in 10 days (I’ll be 7 weeks).
My betas were:
13dp5dt: 558
15dp5dt: 1,090
18dp5dt: 3,260
They’ve been rising well, but I’m finding this waiting period really anxious and hard.
How did you get through it? Any tips appreciated 💛

Beta check after 5-day FET:

• 13dp5dt (3 June): 558
• 15dp5dt (5 June): 1,090
• 18dp5dt (8 June): 3,260

Does this progression look reassuring? The first increase wasn’t quite a doubling, but I think it looks quite consistent?? Would love to hear from anyone with similar betas and outcomes. ❤️
(I see people with very high betas and that makes me question myself)

Hi everyone,
I’m currently 4w4d after a 5-day embryo transfer and feeling quite anxious about my betas.
My results are:
3rd June (7:50am): 558
5th June (8:00am): 1090
My clinic is a bit concerned as it didn’t fully double in 48 hours, although it did nearly double.
They haven’t confirmed anything yet and want to monitor closely, but I’m really worried this might indicate a non-viable pregnancy or ectopic.
Has anyone had a similar rise (~1.95x in 48 hours) and gone on to have a normal pregnancy?
I know hCG patterns can vary a lot, but it’s hard not to panic while waiting for the next test.
Thanks 💛

Hi everyone,

Just got my first beta at 12dp5dt and it’s 558. (It’s a good number right?)

I was really surprised (in a good way) and feeling a mix of relief and disbelief after such an intense wait.

My clinic doesn’t usually repeat betas with numbers like this, but I’ve asked for a second beta in two days for my own reassurance.
Now just hoping for a good rise and taking it one step at a time 🤍

Thinking of everyone in the wait right now.

Hey everyone 🤍

Just looking for some good vibes and positive energy!!! . My 2nd FET is in 2 days (first one didn’t stick, so I’m a bit nervous but still hopeful)

I’m planning to keep things really calm after the transfer , basically just acupuncture and sofa rest, no running around or anything.

The day after I was thinking maybe a gentle walk through the zoo with my husband… but I’m a bit unsure. I think seeing lots of children/families might make me a bit emotional, although I work in childcare so I’m kind of used to being around kids. It’s actually pregnant women that tend to get me a bit more sometimes.

If anyone has any tips on what to do (or not do) after transfer, I’d really appreciate it. I know there’s loads of different advice out there, so just trying to keep it calm and do what I can this time.

Sending love to anyone else in the same boat. This whole thing is a lot sometimes 🤞✨

Thanks so much 💛

Lately every time I open Instagram there’s another pregnancy announcement. Friends, influencers, TV… it feels impossible to escape, and honestly it hurts.

Tomorrow I have a scan to check my lining for hopefully my second FET next week. My last transfer didn’t implant, so I think I’m feeling extra emotional right now. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever get to be a mum.

Second FET coming up and I’m struggling to feel excited/confident this time around.

Our first transfer failed, and now we’re doing basically the exact same protocol again because my doctor says everything looks good , lining, embryos, bloods, etc. They don’t currently see a reason to change anything.

Part of me understands that one failed FET can just be bad luck and doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a problem. But emotionally, it’s hard to go into another transfer doing the same thing and trying to believe the outcome could be different. I think after the first failure I lost a bit of the innocence/excitement.

My clinic said that if this second FET doesn’t work, then we’d move into deeper investigations/testing before attempting a third. So now I feel stuck in this weird middle ground of “everything is probably fine” but also “what if we’re missing something?”

We do have frozen embryos remaining, which I’m grateful for, but I’m finding it hard to stay positive and connected to the process this time.

Did anyone else feel emotionally flat, detached, or pessimistic before their second FET?

And for people who repeated the same protocol after a failed first transfer , did it eventually work?

I just needed to get this out because I’m feeling really frustrated after my recent failed FET (not even implantation)

My doctor is extremely busy, and unfortunately there are no early appointments available with her to review my protocol. That’s been really frustrating because I feel like I’m stuck in this in-between stage where I want to understand what could be changed or improved, but I’m just waiting with no clarity.

It was my first FET, and overall I consider myself pretty healthy, with only a couple of things in the background:

•	normal thyroid levels but high TPO antibodies

•	gut inflammation / SIBO

I’m now wondering if there’s anything that should be reviewed or adjusted before the next transfer, or if first FET failures are usually just considered “unlucky” and repeated the same way.

I also want to jump straight into another FET if possible, but I don’t know yet if anything needs to be reviewed first or if the clinic would even allow that without a doctor appointment.

The lack of guidance right now is the hardest part. I don’t know if anything will be changed next cycle or if we’re just continuing with the same protocol, and I don’t feel reassured without that discussion. After everything that goes into an FET, the medication, preparation, hope, and emotional build-up , the waiting and uncertainty afterwards feels just as difficult.

I do understand clinics are busy, but when you’re going through IVF/FET, timing feels very important and it’s hard not to feel a bit stuck in the system.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation after a first failed FET? Did you manage to get your protocol reviewed or changed before your next cycle, and how did you go about it?

Just feeling overwhelmed and frustrated and needed to put it into words.

Thanks. 🩷

6dp5dt (fully medicated FET) and I’m starting to feel really discouraged.

I’ve been testing and everything is completely negative so far. I know it’s still early, but it’s so hard not to spiral a bit.

I’ve had some twinges in my lower belly, but I’m assuming it’s just the progesterone doing its thing rather than anything meaningful… which honestly makes it more frustrating.

I think I just needed to say it out loud somewhere , today I’m feeling really sad and losing hope.

If anyone has been in a similar spot and had it turn around, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences 🤍