r/IVFbabies

I had my first transfer last Saturday. The overall experience was very traumatic (emotionally), and I have my beta HCG scheduled for 10 days from now. As you all know, it is driving me insane, minute by minute. It is also wreaking havoc on my emotions. I am very hopeful one moment and crashing and wanting to scream the next. We had two embryos transferred in the same cycle (4AA and 2AB) to maximize chances, so that is it for us if it doesn't work. No subsequent rounds (we've decided this at this stage). The problem is, I barely feel like anything is changing in my body. Except for the side effects of all the shots, some hip pain here and there, and some fatigue, I do not even feel like I've gotten embryos transferred. Not sure what to feel about it all. I am thoroughly confused, so I would like to talk to you gals about all this.

I KNOWWWWW HCG doesn’t technically correlate to multiples, but can anyone here tell me if they had comparable numbers and only had a singleton? Or others with multiple gestation feel free to chime in how you compared! Thanks everyone!
(***I’m not looking for HCG interpretations, I just want to know other’s experiences***).

9DPT 383 HCG
12DPT 2,019 HCG
16DPT 8,680 HCG
20 DPT 29,676 HCG

Hi everyone,

I’m currently about 8 weeks pregnant (IVF, Day-6 embryo transfer on March 24, EDD Dec 10).

At my scan around 7 weeks, baby’s heartbeat was 145 bpm and everything looked good.

Today (\~8w1d), baby has clearly grown and looks more developed on ultrasound, but the heartbeat measured 93 bpm. My doctor said everything looks good overall and didn’t seem concerned.

I’m just feeling a bit anxious because I’ve read that 93 can be on the lower side for this stage.

Has anyone experienced something similar where the heart rate dropped like this and then normalized later?

Is it possible this could be a one-time measurement issue (angle, timing, machine, etc.)?

Would really appreciate hearing any similar stories or insights 💛

Curious if anyone else is like me and not sharing their journey through IVF with their family. For us my husband had a vasectomy (which his family knows about) due to the high risk medical needs I have, any pregnancy must be controlled and heavily watched so that I don’t have complications arise like we did in my last pregnancy years ago.
We always felt like our family should grow so I went through clearance and extra steps to become clear for IVF, and am currently 8 weeks along.

Curious for those that don’t share, what would you or have you considered telling family one day.

I’m so nervous our families are super judgmental and in their religion IVF isn’t right, although we know it’s right for us.

It’s one that is causing me anxiety just thinking about it but im so happy and looking forward to this. I’m thinking we just say it was a little miracle and leave it at that. My husband thinks we should just tell folks he got it reversed so that they don’t question it… but I’d rather not lie.

Either way I feel like both sides of our family someone will judge I just don’t want to be stressed nor explain as I don’t feel that they have a right to know about the IVF journey nor do I want them to look down on our child in any way.

Thx all for any advice, sorry for the circling post I’m just so anxious

I want to start off by saying a large part of me feels very fortunate and am very much optimistic that this pregnancy will go well and we will get to meet our son. However, I'm 16.5 weeks and have HORRIBLE rhinitis, I mean I've been mouth-breathing for a week and tried everything! On top of the getting big, fatigue, and not being able to eat or drink what I want (silly, I know but I just want a cold cut sandwich!) being pregnant is not a ton of fun. Then I look back on all the pokes, prodding, surgeries, hormones, procedures, etc I've endured just to get here and I'm just OVER IT! This is just a rant and pity party, but I am inviting people to join if you feel similarly!

I had 1st egg retrieval in November 2025 - age 35 years . I got 3 euploid and one low mosaic embryo. First embryo transfer in March lead to a blighted ovum. I am pretty sure that I want 1 kid . I have 2 euploid and one low mosaic (5AA) left

My AMH in August 2024 was 4.41 ng/ml. In October 2025 it was down to 2.35 ng/ml . I spoke with my Doctor and asked should I go for more egg retrieval now and she thinks it’s a good idea . My only thought behind one more egg retrieval is what if I need more embryos for one kid and should do it while I am still 35 and have a decent AMH . But what if I won’t need it later .

I am confused because both options look valid and I don’t understand how to move forward

Hey - looking for some success stories or similar experiences (even if bad outcome) to help me understand my outlook and calm my nerves.

NOTE: I've repeatedly checked in with my doctor on both my weight gain (+20lbs 😩) and BP and she continues to have NO CONCERNS as of yet. I am looking for community stories. I am also already taking baby aspirin, as prescribed by my doctor.

Currently 16w after a fully medicated FET. I'm 37 in 2 months, and started pregnancy with a higher BMI (~26.5). While my BP has always been great before pregnancy (average from 3 instances taken Sep-25 to Jan-26 was 114/71), it has been creeping up already throughout this pregnancy.

• 10+5 = 118 / 74
• 12+5 = 122 / 80
• 14+4 = 130 / 80
• 15+6 = 124 / 80

I have also gained 20 pounds already in 16 weeks. I have read that BP is supposed to GO DOWN in second trimester, and the consistency of my readings in the 130s top number and 80s in the bottom number (even as I now monitor at home) has me thinking I'm definitely going to get preeclampsia.

Again, my doctor is aware of my weight and these numbers, and says she has NO concerns yet. I'm not looking for medical advice, just wondering if anyone else has hit these numbers this early and still had a healthy, boring rest of their pregnancy?

Specifically curious about those who had fully medicated transfers, since I know the lack of a corpus luteum can sometimes make BP management harder.

Received my first positive pregnancy test thanks to IVf. I am 6w3d and had my first intravaginal ultrasound today. I was measuring 6w1d. Doctor pointed out fetal pole, yolk sac, and gestational sac, but no heartbeat. Doctor thinks most likely I will miscarry but I go back next week to confirm. This is all just so hard. I have accepted the results. I guess I am just looking for some feedback or support. Thanks!

Curious what other peoples parents and in-laws gave as presents to welcome their IVF baby. I am wondering if I need a reality check. We received a very very small amount of money from a family member who I thought would maybe contribute more. I feel greedy even posting this. But we gave this family member more than triple the amount for their birthday last year..

Back story: my husband and I decided not to tell our families that we were doing an embryo transfer. We wanted to take back some normalcy and be able to celebrate in our own little bubble, and surprise our family like most couples. The first transfer failed, second was successful and we had fun gifts to surprise everyone with and it was so special! I lost that pregnancy at 9 weeks.

Everyone knew we were doing this 3rd embryo transfer, and it worked (yay!). Since everyone knows I feel like we can’t really wait until I’m farther along to tell them that it was successful, but it feels .. less exciting this time? How did you announce your pregnancy to family that knew you were doing this?

I am 8 weeks pregnant from a medicated cycle. I am on PIO and suppositories. My PIO is stuck in Kentucky through UPS. It was supposed to arrive 2 days ago and I am down to 1 last dose of PIO. My clinic doesn’t know what to do as I’m in a different state and I don’t think we have PIO anywhere close to me. I’m so worried I’m going to lose this pregnancy due to the progesterone drop off. I’ve worked so hard for years and this is my first success after so much trying. Does anyone have any ideas as to what to do? Will a few missed doses of PIO ruin everything? I feel like I have no support from my clinic, my local OBGYN, or from the pharmacy.

Here's what I wish someone had told me about storing IVF medications at home.

→ Some need the fridge. Some don't. Some need a specific fridge temperature. Confirm before you assume.

→ The trigger shot timing matters more than almost anything else in your cycle. Write it down. Set two alarms.

→ Pharmacy bags from different dates pile up fast. One dedicated spot for your current cycle only.

→ If you're not sure whether something is still in date — check. Then check again. The expiry date is on the box, not the packet inside.

→ Medications from different scripts can look identical. Label everything — even if it feels excessive.

→ It's okay to call your clinic and ask. That's what they're there for.

I learned most of this the hard way.

I’ve been told because of my age and IVF that they’d recommend I induce at 39 weeks. Can anyone share their experience on that and if they got different advice?

6dp5dt (fully medicated FET) and I’m starting to feel really discouraged.

I’ve been testing and everything is completely negative so far. I know it’s still early, but it’s so hard not to spiral a bit.

I’ve had some twinges in my lower belly, but I’m assuming it’s just the progesterone doing its thing rather than anything meaningful… which honestly makes it more frustrating.

I think I just needed to say it out loud somewhere , today I’m feeling really sad and losing hope.

If anyone has been in a similar spot and had it turn around, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences 🤍

Hi all! I’ve seen a few posts about this and they e been so helpful—also dated, so I’m hoping to get some folks recent experience.

We went for our 20w autonomy scan yesterday. Baby girl came back with all autonomy “perfect” and at an exact 11oz (I guess smack dab average for weight). All limbs and measured body parts measured exactly to gestational age. However, she has a two vessel umbilical cord instead of three. The MFM wants me to come back in one month for more ultrasound imagining of her heart since they couldn’t see everything this early. The MFM was very nonchalant and essentially said that given her weight and all else is great now, she’ll be continued to be monitored for growth, but no other concerns. We did PGTA on the embryo. Of course, I’m very nervous and suspicious the MFM is being overly optimism.

What have others experience looked like? Anything I should be concerned about or looking out for? Anything I can do from a lifestyle perspective to boost her health (beyond the obvious)? Thank you in advance!!

Hello everyone. I am not sure if I am Posting in the right group, apologies for that. I had my first ever ob appointment at 12w1d. I was told that I had subchorionic hematoma. I was reassured at that time, but considering this can go any way make me anxious. This question may have been asked quite a few times, but I was unable to find stats about miscarriage risk at this stage. How common is to have it at this point in pregnancy. How was your experience if you had SCH. For reference, this is PGT-A tested euploid transferred after 2 months lupron suppression and fully medicated transfer. Thank you all and good luck.

Hello! Im 7w1d and feeling so bloated and large. How much of this can I expect to go away when I stop meds at 12 weeks? I know it’s silly to care but will my stomach go down for at least a few weeks?

What was your estrogen level at 8.5 weeks? And was your pregnancy successful? I’m very worried that my estrogen level (495) is too low for 8.5 weeks.

Also what was your progesterone level at 8.5 weeks?

I had a fully medicated FET. Both my progesterone and estrogen levels have remained unchanged throughout my pregnancy so far, which makes me think that my placenta has not started producing any estrogen or progesterone like it is supposed to at this point. Just wondering if anyone’s been in a similar boat and still had success. My clinic is dismissing my concerns and not providing any answers :(

I’ve been praying for twins all year and just can’t believe I might get to be so lucky and have my prayers answered! This is my first pregnancy after a very long journey to get here. So grateful 🙏

I’ve been feeling a lot of emotions lately that I’m struggling to put into words.

There’s a real possibility that this baby may be our only child. I’m so grateful to be pregnant, but I’ve also started feeling this unexpected grief that this may be the last time I ever feel my baby move inside me, the last time I experience pregnancy, and soon I’ll have to deliver them and let them go out into this world.

I didn’t expect to feel this protective and emotional before they’re even here. Recently, I had a discussion with my parents about vaccines/precautions before being around the baby, especially during the first few months when babies are so vulnerable. My dad said he’d need to ask his doctor, which is completely reasonable, but I think I reacted from a place of fear. I caught myself saying “my baby” in a way that probably came across rude or possessive.

I think IVF has made me feel like I need to protect this baby from everything, because getting here was so hard and I know nothing about this journey felt guaranteed. I don’t want to push my family away, but I also want to feel confident that I’m keeping my baby safe.

For other IVF moms, especially those who knew or suspected this might be your only pregnancy: did you feel this kind of grief, protectiveness, or anxiety near the end of pregnancy? How did you cope with the transition from carrying your baby to having them out in the world? And how did you handle boundaries with family without feeling like you were being too harsh?

I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar.