Estranged Parent Needs Advice
First a little background .....
I've been estranged from four out of my six adult children Since 2016 and 2019. They range in age from 39 to 22.
They've told lie after lie about me. I've had a friend from highs school disown me because of their lies.
I have a son and a daughter that aren't estranged. The daughter is 22 and lives with me. She is my live in aid. I am disabled so she cleans our apartment. She won't get a regular job and only works 5 hours a week for me. But the state of Wisconsin pays her to being a supportive home care person. She gets $14/hour. Her pay checks are $129.29 every two weeks. She is borderline autistic and has anxiety. I've asked her to apply for disability but she won't. I think it's because I'm on disability And her sisters who are estranged from me said that I was lazy and that I'm not really disabled. So I think she's afraid to apply.
Anyways... I pay for all of the bills. Rent, Internet, gas, electric, and my cell phone. She uses a cell phone from the state of Wisconsin that we got for free for being on disability and foodshare. So she doesn't have any thing to pay for.
She has over $3,000 saved in case our animals need to see a vet. I have a dog and a cat. And she has a cat. All are emotional support animals.
We split the foodshare 50/50.
About 95% of the time we get along great. But lately she's been yelling at me. I always just ignore the disrespect but I can't do that anymore.
I'd been using her ps5 to play an video game that I love. I had to buy my own controller because she didn't want me to use hers. Totally understandable. My controller isn't an official controller so it had to be plugged into the ps for a few minutes before it recognizes the controller.
I got a PS5 yesterday and the controller that came with it doesn't have a charging cable. so I texted my daughter when she woke up and asked if I could borrow her cable for a few minutes just to get my PS5 to recognize the other controller. she got mad. then later on, I asked her what her email was because ps signed me out of the accounts. she screamed at me upstairs "No! I'm not doing that now!".
I know that yelling is abusive behavior. one of her sisters whom I'm estranged with used to yell at me all the time. it was so bad that I'd spend 80% of my day in my bedroom on my computer instead of being downstairs.
I think that my 22 year old daughter knows that I'm afraid of becoming estranged from her and so she tests the limits.
What would you do??