What has open adoption looked like for you?
Can anyone share their story? The good, the bad, the ugly. My extended family hasn't had the best experience with biological parents, but in both situations where we've been dealing with bioparents, the kids were taken by the state for their own safety and in one case there wasn't supposed to be contact; a DCFS employee is facing charges for giving the biomom my niece's new contact info (which led to my niece running away across state lines and ending up on probation for 5 years until she's 21) I know that isn't an open adoption but it still feels (probably unreasonably) like a risk.
I'm aware these experiences are not likely the common experience and would love to hear about y'alls adventures with having the bio parents stay involved bc honestly I'm stressed from the idea of having some unknown adult involved in our family. It probably doesn't help me that my own life experience was better without my bioparents involved.
I've always wanted to adopt and I keep hearing that open adoption is best but with my personal experiences it just seems to add so much more risk to the situation adding in adults I have no idea about other than a few sheets of paper full of their own description of themselves but I want to do what is best for future kiddo, not my personal comfort.