u/Sad_Secret_444

29F have been besties w my friend Cyn 28F for about 15 years. Super close we did everything together. Love all the same things like concerts, festivals, hiking n so on. She’s been on and off w this pos for years. Abusive, manipulative, aggressive etc. I had her back no matter how draining it was & boy was it exhausting. They broke up, he got together with this girl we’ll call her Ann. Ann is pregnant now. I’m like perfect she can finally stay away & move on properly. NOPE LOL. She stopped sharing her location w me one day and I was like oh that’s sus & she played it off whatever.

I worked w a mutual friend who loves gossip & told me she went to a musical festival w him (September) & I LOST IT. Told the group not to say anything to me & basically avoided me. I’m all for chopping it up and hashing shit out so we did. Now October is here & we’re shopping for our Halloween photo shoot & she’s being weird tailing me & texting I immediately knew she was chatting w him & I’m like “dude what are you doing he’s got a pregnant gf at home” like wtf she told me she can’t help that she loves him she’s not giving up & I just could not respect it at all. I was pulling away from her atp. We do our photoshoot & like a week later she’s messages me “you’re gonna hate me” sent me a pregnancy test picture & I was gasted in my flabbers. Ironically I was having sympathy symptoms & thought I was pregnant, I wasn’t thankfully. I STILL did my best to be there even tho I was so against this. He begged her to get an abortion even tho they planned this baby. Tracked her period & everything, now he wants to back out of his responsibilities. She confessed how scared she was he would try and take the baby blah blah all that bs & I’m giving her advice & comforting her that I’m here to help. By December it was done.

I admit I was kind of cold to her I couldn’t respect her or look at her the same after doing this especially to this innocent girl Ann. She was adamant about herself & the choices she made justifying it that she loved him & deserved to try for the family she always wanted. We were done, had a huge fight & had each other blocked so she went through her pregnancy without me. AITA for not standing by her???

I 29F have been besties w my friend Cyn 28F for about 15 years. Super close we did everything together. Love all the same things like concerts, festivals, hiking n so on. She’s been on and off w this pos for years. Abusive, manipulative, aggressive etc. I had her back no matter how draining it was & boy was it exhausting. They broke up, he got together with this girl we’ll call her Ann. Ann is pregnant now. I’m like perfect she can finally stay away & move on properly. NOPE LOL. She stopped sharing her location w me one day and I was like oh that’s sus & she played it off whatever. I worked w a mutual friend who loves gossip & told me she went to electric Forrest musical festival w him (September) & I LOST IT. Told the group not to say anything to me & basically avoided me. I’m all for chopping it up and hashing shit out so we did. Now October is here & we’re shopping for our Halloween photo shoot & she’s being weird tailing me & texting I immediately knew she was chatting w him & I’m like “dude what are you doing he’s got a pregnant gf at home” like wtf she told me she can’t help that she loves him she’s not giving up & I just could not respect it at all. I was pulling away from her atp. We do our photoshoot & like a week later she’s messages me “you’re gonna hate me” sent me a pregnancy test picture & I was gasted in my flabbers. Ironically I was having sympathy symptoms & thought I was pregnant, I wasn’t thankfully. I STILL did my best to be there even tho I was so against this. He begged her to get an abortion even tho they planned this baby. Tracked her period & everything, now he wants to back out of his responsibilities. She confessed how scared she was he would try and take the baby blah blah all that bs & I’m giving her advice & comforting her that I’m here to help. By December it was done. I admit I was kind of cold to her I couldn’t respect her or look at her the same after doing this especially to this innocent girl Ann. She was adamant about herself & the choices she made justifying it that she loved him & deserved to try for the family she always wanted. We were done, had a huge fight & had each other blocked so she went through her pregnancy without me. AITA for not standing by her???

AITA for giving my sister a reason to cut me off? I 29F host dinners every week for my mother and sister 28F and my brother 25M. I value family time and make it my mission to keep us close. Our youngest brother is in the military so i try my best to keep us interacting. Back story on my sister, she’s only been in one relationship and it’s been extremely toxic and abusive. I’ve always done my best to help and guide her and be there for everything but she still chooses him. He’s ruined 3 vehicles in her name and his oh so amazing family gave him 2 vehicles, my response to her when she told me this was “wow someone so undeserving gets it handed to him as usual” and the evening went sideways. We started arguing about the bs she allows in her life. She told me she was “already planning on not coming over anymore” because to her we’re on opposite ends of the earth. She means in general beliefs. Apparently she’s been holding a lot in about me. Around this time ICE agents were taking over MI and tragedies happened, they were wrongfully detaining immigrants and I was extremely angry and emotional over it. I’m a big human rights advocate, I support everything she doesn’t. She’s racist and against immigrants. She believes Hitler was right for what he did. Just a bunch of nonsense I can’t ever understand. The argument got everywhere and I lost it. I snatched her up and kicked her out. We haven’t spoken sense. My brother thinks I’m completely in the wrong for how I handled it, even went as far in saying that i wanted to do it. My mom stays neutral that we should get along she’s not that opinionated on it. I felt like she didn’t have a good reason to cut me off so I gave her one. (I did read the rules so I’m trying to keep it proper) I guess I already know my siblings think I’m the AH but I need outside opinions? Am I wrong?