u/Positive_thinker007

18M here. I was in an online relationship with a girl (say A)I had spoken to on reddit. She was the sweetest person ever and within a few days we seemed to be deeply in love. We had given each other nicknames, used to send each other cute things and talk about love, our future etc. Another girl had proposed to me probably about 7-8 months before I and A had started talking. Let her name be Y. Y is more attractive and is smarter than A. I had rejected her then because I was focused on JEE and didn't want distractions. Another reason behind the rejection was that another girl (say R) had said that she loved me nearly 2 years back, but then our communication declined and I thought by accepting Y's proposal, I would do R injustice.

So after rejecting Y, she was really upset, but she still texted me fairly regularly in a platonic manner. After I started talking seriously with A( the girl I had mentioned in the beginning), Y found out and she was angry again, although we weren't in a relationship. I had agreed to enter in a relationship with A at that time because I had done well in JEE, and am sure to get a Tier 1 NIT. Coming back, I was all lovey dovey with A, couldn't meet her yet as both of our parents were strict.

A month passed by, everything was fine, I was really happy when I received a bombshell of a text from A. It said that her father had found out about this relationship, and that he would confiscate her phone. I was blocked by her on reddit, telegram and whatsapp. I was extremely devastated. My legs went numb, and I couldn't figure out what to do. 2 days later I texted Y, saying that my relationship with A had ended. She consoled me and made me feel better. She then told me that she had liked me the entire time, and honestly, since I had no hope of reconciling with A, and because I had also liked Y before, had rejected her because of academics, within a week she became my girlfriend.

Now, I had a common friend with A on reddit, who had acted as our shipping partner, he had created a shipping post where I and A had been paired. I texted him and told him to communicate to A, that she shouldn't hope to reconcile with me as she has probably moved on. Mind you I said this 3 weeks after that bombshell message.

However, when the common friend contacted A, she was extremely pissed. She said all kinds of stuff that she can't believe that I had left her, then she created a new reddit account and texted me. She told me she had crocheted a mini figurine of me and planned to give it to me when we would meet. She also said that she was trying to contact me but she couldnt see any route for reaching me. I started to feel kinda weird, as if it were my fault that all this mess happened. After pouring out her feelings, she then blocked me.

Now, I and my girlfriend are quite happy, but at times I'm reminded of A, and I feel disappointed that I broke an innocent girl's heart. She loved me, in her texts after I was in a relationship with Y, she said she wouldn't have a bf again and that she has lost her trust in men. I was her first boyfriend. This even now, after a month has passed, makes me feel really guilty and I sometimes start crying.

So, AITK?

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u/Positive_thinker007 — 6 days ago

18M here. I was in an online relationship with a girl (say A)I had spoken to on reddit. She was the sweetest person ever and within a few days we seemed to be deeply in love. We had given each other nicknames, used to send each other cute things and talk about love, our future etc. Another girl had proposed to me probably about 7-8 months before I and A had started talking. Let her name be Y. Y is more attractive and is smarter than A. I had rejected her then because I was focused on entrance exam prep and didn't want distractions. Another reason behind the rejection was that another girl (say R) had said that she loved me nearly 2 years back, but then our communication declined and I thought by accepting Y's proposal, I would do R injustice.

So after rejecting Y, she was really upset, but she still texted me fairly regularly in a platonic manner. After I started talking seriously with A( the girl I had mentioned in the beginning), Y found out and she was angry again, although we weren't in a relationship. I had agreed to enter in a relationship with A at that time because I had done well in the entrance examination, and am sure to get admission in a good college. Coming back, I was all lovey dovey with A, couldn't meet her yet as both of our parents were strict.

A month passed by, everything was fine, I was really happy when I received a bombshell of a text from A. It said that her father had found out about this relationship, and that he would confiscate her phone. I was blocked by her on reddit, telegram and whatsapp. I was extremely devastated. My legs went numb, and I couldn't figure out what to do. 2 days later I texted Y, saying that my relationship with A had ended. She consoled me and made me feel better. She then told me that she had liked me the entire time, and honestly, since I had no hope of reconciling with A, and because I had also liked Y before, had rejected her because of academics, within a week she became my girlfriend.

Now, I had a common friend with A on reddit, who had acted as our shipping partner, he had created a shipping post where I and A had been paired. I texted him and told him to communicate to A, that she shouldn't hope to reconcile with me as she has probably moved on. Mind you I said this 3 weeks after that bombshell message.

However, when the common friend contacted A, she was extremely pissed. She said all kinds of stuff that she can't believe that I had left her, then she created a new reddit account and texted me. She told me she had crocheted a mini figurine of me and planned to give it to me when we would meet. She also said that she was trying to contact me but she couldnt see any route for reaching me. I started to feel kinda weird, as if it were my fault that all this mess happened. After pouring out her feelings, she then blocked me.

Now, I and my girlfriend are quite happy, but at times I'm reminded of A, and I feel disappointed that I broke an innocent girl's heart. She loved me, in her texts after I was in a relationship with Y, she said she wouldn't have a bf again and that she has lost her trust in men. I was her first boyfriend. This even now, after a month has passed, makes me feel really guilty and I sometimes start crying.

So, AITA?

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u/Positive_thinker007 — 6 days ago
▲ 3 r/relationshipproblems+1 crossposts

18M here. I was in an online relationship with a girl (say A)I had spoken to on reddit. She was the sweetest person ever and within a few days we seemed to be deeply in love. We had given each other nicknames, used to send each other cute things and talk about love, our future etc. Another girl had proposed to me probably about 7-8 months before I and A had started talking. Let her name be Y. Y is more attractive and is smarter than A. I had rejected her then because I was focused on JEE and didn't want distractions. Another reason behind the rejection was that another girl (say R) had said that she loved me nearly 2 years back, but then our communication declined and I thought by accepting Y's proposal, I would do R injustice.

So after rejecting Y, she was really upset, but she still texted me fairly regularly in a platonic manner. After I started talking seriously with A( the girl I had mentioned in the beginning), Y found out and she was angry again, although we weren't in a relationship. I had agreed to enter in a relationship with A at that time because I had done well in JEE, and am sure to get a Tier 1 NIT. Coming back, I was all lovey dovey with A, couldn't meet her yet as both of our parents were strict.

A month passed by, everything was fine, I was really happy when I received a bombshell of a text from A. It said that her father had found out about this relationship, and that he would confiscate her phone. I was blocked by her on reddit, telegram and whatsapp. I was extremely devastated. My legs went numb, and I couldn't figure out what to do. 2 days later I texted Y, saying that my relationship with A had ended. She consoled me and made me feel better. She then told me that she had liked me the entire time, and honestly, since I had no hope of reconciling with A, and because I had also liked Y before, had rejected her because of academics, within a week she became my girlfriend.

Now, I had a common friend with A on reddit, who had acted as our shipping partner, he had created a shipping post where I and A had been paired. I texted him and told him to communicate to A, that she shouldn't hope to reconcile with me as she has probably moved on. Mind you I said this 3 weeks after that bombshell message.

However, when the common friend contacted A, she was extremely pissed. She said all kinds of stuff that she can't believe that I had left her, then she created a new reddit account and texted me. She told me she had crocheted a mini figurine of me and planned to give it to me when we would meet. She also said that she was trying to contact me but she couldnt see any route for reaching me. I started to feel kinda weird, as if it were my fault that all this mess happened. After pouring out her feelings, she then blocked me.

Now, I and my girlfriend are quite happy, but at times I'm reminded of A, and I feel disappointed that I broke an innocent girl's heart. She loved me, in her texts after I was in a relationship with Y, she said she wouldn't have a bf again and that she has lost her trust in men. I was her first boyfriend. This even now, after a month has passed, makes me feel really guilty and I sometimes start crying.

Where I need advice: How should I remove A from my mind and be a better boyfriend to Y?

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u/Positive_thinker007 — 6 days ago

Could you guys recommend english songs that give a soothing or slight melancholic vibe, and that can be listened to in slowed and reverb format. For example, I love listening to death bed, slowed and reverb on repeat. Any similar songs?

Thanks

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u/Positive_thinker007 — 12 days ago