I feel like it's hard enough dating while trans non-binary, add Jewish into the mix and I'm lost. Also I got banned from JSwipe in less than a day 😅 Ouch. Luckily I live in Houston, so it's not like there's a shortage of people at least.

I'm 26 and if I'm starting a family it would be best to do that sooner rather than later. I also have disabilities that are not going to get any better, and have less energy every year. I worry that I'll be too worn down to be active by the time I find someone, and kids take so much energy.

Context: I watched Rent and I'm trans myself, but only 26

I understand the difference between these two terms just fine, but I also understand that due to transphobia these terms have been used interchangeablely in the past.

In 89 or 90, how common was it for these terms to be used interchangeablely?

Side question, what do you think Angel's identity was?

Given the pronouns and the quote, "I'm more of a man than you'll ever be, and more of a woman than you'll ever get", she reads as transfem to me; however, I can't tell if transphobia of the time is the reason for her ambiguous gender or the fact she was indeed intended to be non-binary. To me, she doesn't really read cis drag queen by the end of it either way.

1: Post Body

If you comment can you drop a number 1-3 to tell me how much you read? I know it's a lot. It's fine if you respond without reading it all, expected even.

When I take a test, INTP is most common, followed by INFP or ENTP. Took a new test hoping for clarity and got ISTP?? 😭 I never get Sensing.

Are there any resources geared towards finding your type rather than just describing them? I highly relate to descriptions of all the aforementioned xNxP types, but that doesn't mean they are my types. It's just super unhelpful to me.

Am I overthinking this? I've checked out all the xNxP subreddits and while I find them all relatable, I usually hang out in INTP the most. Am I just an outgoing feely INTP? I think INTPs can be a bit boring sometimes, while ENTPs can be a bit much. INFP are fun, but usually not logical enough for me. ENFP is the same as INFP but, even more extra. I don't mean this objectively or anything, just how I personally relate to these types from what I've seen so far.

2: About Me:

I'm 26 non-binary, disabled, but generally enjoying life. Also autistic, but in the "I made learning how people work a special interest" kind of way so I can compensate for the social pressure to preform. (Wasn't going to include this but the questionnaire said I should.)

I'm pretty sure my mom is INFP and my dad is ENTP. Everyone says I act the most like my dad.

(I based this off the typing guideline.)

Interests/Hobbies: My primary hobby and special interest of the last 10 years has been breeding fancy (hobby) mice and their genetics. I've made lots of charts to help people learn, because there's not a ton of info out there. https://mouse-genetics.info/charts

Full list of hobbies: animals, exotic pets, nature, amateur naturalist, gardening, photography, news/current events, non-fiction, genetics, coding, language/writing system learning, cooking, tea, fashion, league & vintage story (videogames), anime, bracelet making, crafts, drawing, wood working, music & media collecting.

Lifestyle: I'd love to go out and do stuff more but I am unfortunately stuck at home usually because I'm disabled and have low energy. Usually online even though I hate it here sometimes. I could, I'd be out in nature, doing more active hobbies, or hanging out with people in person more often.

Career/Studying: Ha. My health is not very compatible with either work nor formal education. That said I find health and genetics and languages the most interesting.

Values: Logic, honestly. Compassion and empathy too, but to me those are just logical for a social species. Open-mindedness, nuance, happiness, peace, truth, knowledge. Stuff like that.

Life Goals: I just want a husband and a family and to keep doing my little hobbies. I think those're my realistic goals anyway. Unrealistically? I'd love to be a colony manager for lab mice, or work in research in some form.

Daily Structure: Wake up and do all my morning routines. (Make the bed, check email, etc.) Try to do all of my important tasks that need done for the day. Focus on my more mentally engaging hobbies if I have the brain power, if not it's mindless hobbies like scrolling social media or watching anime. Cook if I have the energy. Go to bed.

Social Interaction: I'm constantly messaging friends daily, either in DMs or group chats. It would be super weird if I didn't talk to anyone all day, and people would assume I'm having a really bad flare. That said, if I had to go out to spend time with people that can be way more exhausting physically. On the flip side, if I'm feeling bad the last thing I want to do is talk to someone. If I don't get at least a few hours of alone time I think I would die.

• "If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel?" It would be nice to have some time to myself since I live with 3 other people. It could be refreshing I suppose, but if I lived my myself it would probably be lonely. I need both.

Relatability: How do I relate to others? Idk how to answer this tbh. I just, do? Sometimes too much. I don't watching too scary or sad because any media makes me cry super easily. Even cute or happy media? Waterworks.

Organization: If I had the energy everything would be perfectly organized all the time. In reality I have stuff everywhere, but I generally still know where it is. I want everything to have its own place and system. I'll get there eventually.

Expression: Depends how comfortable I am. If I don't know you or anyone else there, I'm probably very reserved. If I'm comfortable I tend to express myself a lot. I prefer to keep the peace bc I don't have the energy for people being illogical though, so if it might rock the boat I keep things to myself. I'm just tired man.

3: From the questionnaire. If you stop reading here I don't think you'll miss much.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Absolutely not. Do you think you would be good at it? Maybe. I'm bad with conflict or correction. What would your leadership style be? Delegation.
• How curious are you? Very. Do you have more ideas then you can execute? Always. What are your curiosities about? Already mentioned. What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate? What? Aren't all ideas conceptual? What's an "environmental idea"? my ideas are pretty equally projects or theories.
• Are you artistic? Very. If yes, describe your art? Uh, difficult to put into words. My art is whatever I need it to be, minus realism.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them? Uuuh. It is what it is. Learn from the past, live in the present, don't worry about the future if you can't do anything to change it.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so? I love helping, but I only say yes if I actually can.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life? Need? Yes. Do I get it? Not always.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you? Very, but I have to accept my means.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? I generally don't and do not want to. I just don't care that much what other people are doing.
• How good are you at strategizing? I'm not the best. Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Not easily. Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? Yes... I try not to though.
• What are your fears? Being alone forever, so I make friends. What makes you uncomfortable? Conflict. What do you hate? Ignorance. Why? It's so preventable and easily fixed.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like? Sometimes I'm not in pain and get to do cool things with friends out in the world. Sometimes I make big progress with my hobbies and do/make cool things.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like? Uuuh... Mental instability, chronic pain and fatigue, sensory overstimulation, isolation, just general immense struggling... I think I handle it well though?...
• How attached are you to reality? I have a dissociative disorder, so not as much as I'd like. 💀 I do think I'm fairly realistic though. Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? Sometimes? I definitely zone out a lot.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about? My plans, projects, chores, hobbies, health, life goals... Anything and everything. I'd be fine by myself for a while.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? I am extremely indecisive, but I do not usually change my mind once I've picked.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life? So long. It takes a while for things to sink in. Emotions are very important, but they are still treated as emotions.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? Definitely. How often? Very. Why? I enjoy talking with people but I'm often too tired for conflict.
• Do you break rules often? Not really, but depends on the rule. Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? Always challenged, but experience isn't to be written off either. If you do break rules, why would you? If they're stupid and baseless.