r/transgenderjews

I feel like it's hard enough dating while trans non-binary, add Jewish into the mix and I'm lost. Also I got banned from JSwipe in less than a day 😅 Ouch. Luckily I live in Houston, so it's not like there's a shortage of people at least.

I'm 26 and if I'm starting a family it would be best to do that sooner rather than later. I also have disabilities that are not going to get any better, and have less energy every year. I worry that I'll be too worn down to be active by the time I find someone, and kids take so much energy.

(Marked as NSFW just in case.)

A bit of a long shot, but I figured this subreddit might be the only one who could have answers. Has anyone had RFF phalloplasty, and if so how long did it take before you were able to put on tefillin on that arm again? I have this fear the scar will be too sensitive to ever handle the straps, which I know is irrational bc worst case I just switch arms, but still would be interesting to hear if anyone has experience.

Would it be appropriate for someone who’s actively seeking to convert to Modern Orthodox Judaism to celebrate the next holiday on the calendar or should I wait until I’m able to talk to a rabbi or until I’ve officially converte?

Hey folks,

I’m a trans woman, I grew up modern orthodox but have been hovering between more liberal denominations for the past decade or so. I still live pretty halakhically, and lean towards leniency whenever I can base it in the learning I have and gain.

For the past year I’ve begun to think seriously for the first time in my life about getting a tattoo—specifically a Bet where I used to put tefilin. If anyone is interested I’m happy to explain the idea behind it. The main thing I’m struggling with is reconciling this desire with halakhah. I know the history of the commandment, the original meaning of the verse, the dispute in the Talmud, and ultimately the greater history of the pesikah that it’s forbidden. I’ve been feeling, though, that like my transition it could be a way of changing my body that could introduce more holiness into it.

Has anyone else had similar thoughts? Do folks with tattoos here feel like it connects to your transness and/or Jewishness?

Should I wait until I’ve officially converted to think about getting a mezuzah?