u/PackSerious4055

As the title says, I believe that neighbors is neglecting their dog. Her name is Bee and she looks like a pitbull. I always here them screaming at her and she yelps and cries all the through the night even if they are home. One day they left out the crate they keep her in and it was tiny. She is also extremly skinny and I could see. My roommate reached out to the police but that was over a week ago and I don't think they've done anything.

My question is what more can I do?

My(24M) now ex(25F) told me over a week ago that through therapy and thought that she believes she may be a lesbian and that there is a draw and softness that comes with women.

Previously, we both discussed that we are pan a realization that came to me during the relationship and I knew she preferred women but I did not see this coming at all. I was so sure the hour before she even told me and there were no signs. She says that she is only interested in AFAB but she still has feelings and attraction towards but no longer believes me be her soulmate.

I've probably asked her a thousand questions which she does not even have the answer to. She just knows she needs to do this. I am heartbroken, devastated but worse of all I'm angry. I'm lost who I thought was my soulmate and best friend on a random Tuesday. I tried to see if we could talk about it and try something together but she is not interested and I understand.

I am now trying to be there for her because I cannot imagine how she feels, but I cannot. I can't even here her voice without breaking out into tears. I look around our house and it feels like a ghost town. I'm angry about something, I know was not her choice but I only feel that and heartbreak. I see stories about partners being understanding and them becoming best friends but its like my heart won't let me. If anyone has been in this place before, please give me some guidance.

The past few days have been some of the worst of my(M24) life. So the past few weeks my partner(F25) and I have been having some rough points but we constantly have made it through them. We recently moved in together and we had been figuring that out. Flash forward to this Tuesday and after my partners therapy session, she text she needs to talk.

We get home and she tells me that she’s a lesbian. I go into shock have a panic attack and start to question everything. She goes to her siblings house for a few nights and I call some of my friends to help me through.

A little backstory. When we met she was pansexual and through our time together I realized so was I. Our relationship was open for us to explore that side of ourselves but I could never get to the point where I would be ok with getting physical so we never did.

Back to that night, how sudden everything happened has sent me into a spiral. This is a person I was talking to about marriage we had just out the entire week, we were supposed to have our weekly date night the next day, we had our futures planned out. In the moment I. feel lied to betrayed and hurt not that she’s a lesbian but that she didn’t tell me she was processing this and continued to talk about a future with me. But more than anything I just want the person I thought was my soul mate back. Before bed I tell her that early in our relationship when we had some rough times that whether it was 2 more weeks or 20 more years I’d never look back wishing it didn’t happen.

Now it’s the next day and we are supposed to meet up to talk after work but I couldn’t wait. I start texting asking, if there’s someone else, why didn’t we go through this together, telling her that when had questions about my sexuality I brought them to her why didn’t she do the same. She said she was trying to make it work that she didn’t want to ruin our life together and that she wanted to just push it down and away. I tell that shes my best friend and I don’t want to lose her and she says the same and we agree to talk more after work.

She ends up having a very bad migraine and we can’t talk that night. I spend it a complete mess, Im hurt that my partner isn't there anymore. Im walking around our house and it feels like a torture chamber. I feel hurt and betrayed but I feel bad for not being supportive. I’d give up everything for this person and it seems like I just can’t.

Now it’s yesterday, we finally get the chance to talk in person. I had been met with my therapist and thought that maybe if I offered for us to be open truly and physically then maybe she would stay. Something, even now I don’t know if I could live with. But, before I suggest that I just ask her thought process and where she’s at. As she’s telling me it, I know this is not a choice she made lightly and she did everything she could to stay with me but I just didn’t make her completely happy, no matter how hard I tried, I wouldn’t be able to. We continue to talk and explain where my head is at and say somethings I now regret in hindsight. But in the moment we decided to cuddle up and have one last night together and for a second it was back to a few days ago when I thought everything was great. I now know it wasn’t the same for her. We talk about the lease and I know that I can’t stay here anymore so we agree to figure something out. We hug and say goodbye to don’t want to fade away from each other. The night ends with me thanking her for making me the happiest man in the world but I know she can’t say the same for herself so just “you were perfect you made me so happy.” I tell her I’m sorry how I’ve acted and will try to more supportive and hope we can be friends. She says she’s sorry for uprooting our lives and leaves.

Now I’m laying alone in our bed and I don’t know what to do. I have a good job but it doesn’t pay the greatest so I have to figure that out where to live. I’m not the social butterfly she is so I don’t know how I’m gonna make friends. But most of overall I just want to wake up from this bad dream. I was so sure a few days ago and now my life is upside down. I want to be there for her like I always was but when I look her part of me is just waiting for her to say it was all a prank. So much has changed and I just don’t know how to keep going. I know I should go no contact but I can’t. I just need some advice on how to keep going.

Im sorry this is so long.

The past few days have been very rough. So the past few weeks my partner(F25) and I(M24) have been having some rough points but we constantly have made it through them. We recently moved in together and we had been figuring that out. Flash forward to this Tuesday and after my partners therapy session, she text she needs to talk.

We get home and she tells me that she’s a lesbian. I go into shock have a panic attack and start to question everything. She goes to her siblings house for a few nights and I call some of my friends to help me through.

A little backstory. When we met she was pansexual and through our time together I realized so was I. Our relationship was open for us to explore that side of ourselves but I could never get to the point where I would be ok with getting physical so we never did.

Back to that night, how sudden everything happened has sent me into a spiral. This is a person I was talking to about marriage we had just out the entire week, we were supposed to have our weekly date night the next day, we had our futures planned out. In the moment I. feel lied to betrayed and hurt not that she’s a lesbian but that she didn’t tell me she was processing this and continued to talk about a future with me. But more than anything I just want the person I thought was my soul mate back. Before bed I tell her that early in our relationship when we had some rough times that whether it was 2 more weeks or 20 more years I’d never look back wishing it didn’t happen.

Now it’s the next day and we are supposed to meet up to talk after work but I couldn’t wait. I start texting asking, if there’s someone else, why didn’t we go through this together, telling her that when had questions about my sexuality I brought them to her why didn’t she do the same. She said she was trying to make it work that she didn’t want to ruin our life together and that she wanted to just push it down and away. I tell that shes my best friend and I don’t want to lose her and she says the same and we agree to talk more after work.

She ends up having a very bad migraine and we can’t talk that night. I spend it a complete mess, Im hurt that my partner isn't there anymore. Im walking around our house and it feels like a torture chamber. I feel hurt and betrayed but I feel bad for not being supportive. I’d give up everything for this person and it seems like I just can’t.

Now it’s yesterday, we finally get the chance to talk in person. I had been met with my therapist and thought that maybe if I offered for us to be open truly and physically then maybe she would stay. But, before I suggest that I just ask her thought process and where she’s at. As she’s telling me it, I know this is not a choice she made lightly and she did everything she could to stay with me but I just didn’t make her completely happy, no matter how hard I tried, I wouldn’t be able to. We continue to talk and explain where my head is at and say somethings I now regret in hindsight. But in the moment we decided to cuddle up and have one last night together and for a second it was back to a few days ago when I thought everything was great. I now know it wasn’t the same for her. We talk about the lease and I know that I can’t stay here anymore so we agree to figure something out. We hug and say goodbye to don’t want to fade away from each other. The night ends with me thanking her for making me the happiest man in the world but I know she can’t say the same for herself so just “you were perfect you made me so happy.” I tell her I’m sorry how I’ve acted and will try to more supportive and hope we can be friends. She says she’s sorry for uprooting our lives and leaves.

That was last week, since then I have asked her a lot of questions many she doesn't have the answer too. She's said she is still in love with me romantically, still is attracted to me and wants to be together, but her need to explore trumps her want to be with me. I asked her if she felt these were just dying embers of a relationship and she also doesnt know that. I do not know if my pan brain can just not understanding. I just cannot compute how all these things can be true yet she still not want to be with me. I feel like I'm driving myself crazy and everyone in my life is saying Im getting tied in her confusion. I just need to here other opinions.