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▲ 189 r/immigration+1 crossposts

Moved to the US through marriage and lost my career, financial independence, and freedom..

I moved to the U.S. through marriage and gave up my entire career at a big company to be here.

Since then… I’ve basically had zero financial independence. I don’t have access to my own money, I don’t have a car I can freely use, and even basic daily things require asking for permission.

Over time, I found out a lot of things were hidden from me — ongoing escort/dating app stuff, sexting emotional manipulation, and serious financial/tax issues. He even didn’t properly handle taxes for years, and because of all that, my marriage-based green card process was delayed for about a year.
And I still can’t file because of his tax issues.

What makes it worse is I feel like I lost my entire independence in the process — my career, my freedom, my stability… all gone.

I’m not even sure anymore if this is “normal marriage struggle” or something much more controlling and unhealthy. I’m honestly just trying to make sense of it.

I’m the one who Produced and marketed top k-pop groups like aespa and NCT and now I’m just sitting in this room all the time lost….

Has anyone ever been in something like this?

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u/Opening-Impress122 — 4 days ago
▲ 335 r/CheatersConfronted+7 crossposts

Is my husband having an affair or am I crazy/overreacting? (Pics)

Am I the crazy one? My husband (45/M) and I (35/F) have been married for only a year, though we have known each other for 11 years. Recently, we got into a major argument that resulted in us not speaking for several days. I even cursed at him because I found out that he searched for a local college girl on Instagram. (He has a cheating history) During this period, he decided to pack a bag and stay at a hotel. While I understood his need for space, I was shocked to find that he specifically included his Viagra bottle in his bag.

When I confronted him about why he would need that for a night alone, he didn't give me a straight answer. Instead, he became extremely defensive and began attacking my character. He claimed he packed it along with his passport and money only because he "didn't trust me" to leave them in the house. He even called me the "epitome of a Debbie Downer" and accused me of being on an "accusatory mission."

-reason why he doesn't trust me: He is afraid that I mentioned something about lawsuit and if I find any proof and file a case against him (which I don't think you should be worried if you are not doing anything wrong)

The logic simply doesn't add up to me. Why would performance-enhancing medication be a "priority" item to protect from a spouse unless there was an intent to use it? It feels like he is gaslighting me to cover up something else. I am struggling to process whether I am truly overthinking this or if this is a clear sign of infidelity.

To make it clear, he used to chat with local girls online and sext too on dating, seeking arrangement websites, (he doesn’t think that’s cheating and it’s wrongful) even after our marriage he got caught a few times. So I always search his stuff because I admit that I am paranoid. I start the cold war when I am suspicious often, I don’t trust him hundred percent even if he is really trying and he’s been really good to me. He had been cheating on me the whole time when we’re dating 11 years ago, so I have a major trust issue and I get crazy, overly emotional and yell, accuse him when it comes to girl issues but I thought he changed after all these years because he was so good up untill I said yes.

Given his past behavior, this felt off to me—but I also wonder if I’m reading too much into it because of trust issues.

TL;DR: My husband took Viagra to a hotel after a fight, claiming he only packed it because he doesn't trust me with his belongings. He is now calling me crazy for questioning him.

u/Opening-Impress122 — 5 days ago
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Is my husband having an affair or am I overreacting?

Am I the crazy one? My husband (45/M) and I (35/F) have been married for a year, but we’ve known each other for 11 years. Recently, we got into a huge fight about something, which led us not to speak for a few days.

During this cold war, he suddenly packed a bag and left to stay at a hotel, which I initially thought was just to give us some space. However, I discovered that he specifically took his Viagra bottle with him. When I confronted him and asked why he would need that for a solo night at a hotel, he became incredibly defensive.

He told me he packed it along with his passport, money, and other meds simply because he "didn't trust me" with his belongings while he was gone. He called me the "epitome of a Debbie Downer" and said I was on an "accusatory mission."
It feels like he is gaslighting me. If he was just going to clear his head, why the performance-enhancing meds? His explanation doesn't make sense to me and feels like a major red flag. Am I overreacting, or is his behavior as suspicious as it feels? I need some honest perspective on this situation.

TL;DR: My husband took Viagra to a hotel after a fight, (he went there by himself) claiming he only packed it because he doesn't trust me with his belongings. He is now calling me crazy for questioning him.

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u/Opening-Impress122 — 5 days ago