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Me and my girlfriend are in a relationship for 8 month now, but we are not living together yet, so I only see her at the weekends. It takes me 3h to get to her place. This time we agreed that i can come to her place at 8 pm. I had a long day in uni beforehand and she had a photoshoot with friends.
10min before I arrived at her place, she messaged me and asked me if i can come somewhere to pick up the keys, because she wanted to spend more time with her friends.
At this point I already felt sad and I also messaged her that. She apologized and said that she fucked up timewise. I told her that it would have been fair if she would have let me know before and that it feels like I cant rely on her.
Whatever, I picked up the keys, where I also saw her friends. I couldnt hide my dissapointment so they have prolly seen it in my face, but I was not rude or angry (it would have been fine for me to join them, but she didnt invite me and asking felt weird bc withe the message: "can you come and pick up the keys I wanna spend time with my friends" sounded clear enough to me that she doesnt want me to be part of it)
After I picked up the keys and arrived at her place I messaged her that this situation hurt me especially bc we agreed on this time and bc of the time i need to go to her place every weekend
Next fucked up thing is that she doesnt have data outside so she cant send messages when she is outside and she can also not receive them but i really felt like telling her my thoughts and feelings about it
After 4h I stayed at her home alone i called her (she can pick up calls but cant call back) i just wanted to ask when she is coming back bc i already got tired and i had to stay awake to open her the door but the doorbell is really quite so i was afraid that i wouldnt here that and if i said she cant message or call me
She picked up and we talked for 10min where she said that she doesnt understand my reaction and that I destroyed her mood, that she doesnt promise me anything. She asked me if she is not allowed to have fun with her friends or be spontaneous
I said that i would never disallow her that but i feel disrespected and that she doesnt care much about me and that it would have been nice if she at least asked me to join
She got very angry on that and said that she already saw in my face when i picked up the keys that my mood was off and that i would prolly have destroyed it
In fact i was just tired and disapointed
At some point she also said that if i have a problem with that i can pack my stuff again and leave
I also think that her friends have an influence on her reaction bc shw mentioned that they noticed that i didnt kiss her back when i picked up the keys and they felt like i was not happy to see her which is not true
Anyways after i said that i was just tired and upset and overwhelmed with my feelings and the situation she hang up
Around 2h later she said that she will stay at her friends place
I thanked her for letting me know and told her that maybe she would understand me a bit if she would put herself in my situation and think about how shw would feel if i would let her come to my place on a agreed time and tell her 10min before that i switched plans but she can come pick up the keys
I also wished her a good night but she didnt reply
AITJ?