u/OddScore3072

I’ve been with my girlfriend since late 2022, but I feel like I’ve been living through a "humiliation ritual" from the start.

I’m at the point where I feel like I’m paying a premium price, both emotionally and mentally, for a version of her that everyone else seemed to get for free. I need to know if what I’m experiencing is even remotely normal.

When we first became exclusive, she admitted to keeping dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Boo active as a backup plan. She claimed she "wasn't sure" about my intentions, but the kicker is that she apparently never felt the need to keep a safety net with any of her previous flings.

It feels like a total double standard. Her history is full of these overlaps too. While she was with her ex, Lucas, she was still seeing a former hookup named Alec. Then she started things with her cousin Miguel in the summer of 2020 while she was still involved with Lucas through September. The timelines clearly don't work and she obviously cheated, yet she constantly plays the "poor victim" card about her past.

The inconsistencies just keep piling up. Recently, in 2026, she went to Portugal and stayed at her grandma’s house. She told me she "had" to sleep in the same bed where she and Miguel used to have sex because her grandma (the grandma didn't know) told her to and she "couldn't" say no.

She can be incredibly tough and defy me on things that would actually do her good, but she couldn't stand up for our relationship for one night on a couch?

It’s the same thing with her social media and the "random" people she knows. I caught her still following Lucas on Instagram and she claimed she just forgot he was there, yet she’d flee the station if we ran into him.

She even recognized a random hotel receptionist because he was "from uni," but then immediately pivoted to "I thought he was your friend" the second I called out the inconsistency.

Then there is the "Spanish guy" on her blocked list (that i discovered after a solo vacation she took to Spain in 2023). All of his friends blocked me the second I mentioned her name, and she still hasn't given me a straight explanation for that.

The part that really scares me is that she risked my health. Early on, she told me "don't worry I have no symptoms" to avoid using protection, despite having unprotected sex with random people from Tinder less than four months prior without being tested.

I’ve endured what feels like hundreds of instances of micro-cheating, from her calling celebrities "daddy" to her deleting her entire Instagram history the second I got access to her account because she "knew I'd react badly." It just reeks of guilt.

I am living in a situation where she offered herself for free to everyone else, but I am the one enduring the lack of empathy and the constant "trickle-truth."

Are these just "messy" mistakes, or am I staying in a situation that is fundamentally broken? I honestly don't know what to believe anymore.

I’ve been with my girlfriend since late 2022, but I feel like I’ve been living through a "humiliation ritual" from the start.

I’m at the point where I feel like I’m paying a premium price, both emotionally and mentally, for a version of her that everyone else seemed to get for free. I need to know if what I’m experiencing is even remotely normal.

When we first became exclusive, she admitted to keeping dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Boo active as a backup plan. She claimed she "wasn't sure" about my intentions, but the kicker is that she apparently never felt the need to keep a safety net with any of her previous flings.

It feels like a total double standard. Her history is full of these overlaps too. While she was with her ex, Lucas, she was still seeing a former hookup named Alec. Then she started things with her cousin Miguel in the summer of 2020 while she was still involved with Lucas through September. The timelines clearly don't work and she obviously cheated, yet she constantly plays the "poor victim" card about her past.

The inconsistencies just keep piling up. Recently, in 2026, she went to Portugal and stayed at her grandma’s house. She told me she "had" to sleep in the same bed where she and Miguel used to have sex because her grandma (the grandma didn't know) told her to and she "couldn't" say no.

She can be incredibly tough and defy me on things that would actually do her good, but she couldn't stand up for our relationship for one night on a couch?

It’s the same thing with her social media and the "random" people she knows. I caught her still following Lucas on Instagram and she claimed she just forgot he was there, yet she’d flee the station if we ran into him.

She even recognized a random hotel receptionist because he was "from uni," but then immediately pivoted to "I thought he was your friend" the second I called out the inconsistency.

Then there is the "Spanish guy" on her blocked list (that i discovered after a solo vacation she took to Spain in 2023). All of his friends blocked me the second I mentioned her name, and she still hasn't given me a straight explanation for that.

The part that really scares me is that she risked my health. Early on, she told me "don't worry I have no symptoms" to avoid using protection, despite having unprotected sex with random people from Tinder less than four months prior without being tested.

I’ve endured what feels like hundreds of instances of micro-cheating, from her calling celebrities "daddy" to her deleting her entire Instagram history the second I got access to her account because she "knew I'd react badly." It just reeks of guilt.

I am living in a situation where she offered herself for free to everyone else, but I am the one enduring the lack of empathy and the constant "trickle-truth."

Are these just "messy" mistakes, or am I staying in a situation that is fundamentally broken? I honestly don't know what to believe anymore.

I paid a high price, a VERY HIGH price, for your love. While everyone else got it for free.

MY HUMILIATION RITUAL - BEGINNING LATE 2022

October 17, 2022: You asked me to wait for you and you ran. But that same day, you liked a photo of your former HOOKUP A (whom you followed everywhere, public and private accounts). Of course, I had to find out on my own that he was a former hookup. You wouldn't have told me before the wedding; you couldn't risk me dumping you.

You kept your ex (apparently labeled a rapist) on Instagram without telling me, claiming you "forgot" you were still following him. Yet, your last interaction dates back to 2021.

You were still using dating apps while we were together and admitted it was a "backup plan." But backup plans with the others? Not at all, only with me.

You deleted all your old Instagram photos as soon as I got access to your account (supposedly I would have "reacted badly"), it reeks of guilt.

You called celebrities "daddy" (I should have had one too just to give you a taste of your own medicine; im not stupid about why you like Criminal Minds, don't worry, it's definitely because your other "daddy" celebrity crush was in it).

You recognized a receptionist at a hotel we went to "because he's from our uni," but later said "I thought he was your friend" (Inconsistency + you're taking me for a fool, thanks).

You responded "I'll take responsibility" if I ever discover something, instead of clearly denying it, and said "I think I told you everything" instead of "I told you everything" (Honestly, nothing would shock me at this point).

You still have to explain where the SPANISH GUY came from. They all blocked me when I mentioned your name.

You lied about the body count (announced 2, actually 6, and even that I doubt, but thanks for confirming the theory, I’ll live with it fine 🗿).

Unprotected sex with me saying "don't worry I have no symptoms," without any tests, even though less than 4 months prior you had unprotected sex with randoms from Tinder (thank you very much).

If it were me, I’d already be accused of rape and manipulation, but sure, it's fine, no big deal.

You betrayed your best friend to sleep with the "hookup" as I like to call him, so the line of betrayal was already crossed + cheating is common in your family (and I might add, not condemned at all), so my neck is on the line (it wouldn’t surprise me if there was already a betrayal in 2023 given the 150 instances of micro-cheating I endured).

Not only that, but while you were with NAME B, you were still talking to and seeing HOOKUP A. You talk about being uncomfortable, but you had no problem cheating on NAME B. YES, it is cheating. And let’s not forget, you almost certainly cheated on NAME B with NAME C lmao.

The timelines don't work; you were talking to NAME B at least until September 2020, but the story with NAME C started in the summer of 2020 when you were in Portugal? LMAOOOOOOOOOOO.

Confirmed: dating apps (Tinder, Hinge, Boo) kept as a backup plan, probably kept until June 2023 (profile "Ani" found in June 2023) because "you didn't know my intentions." And yet, you didn't do that with the others.

Why flee when crossing paths with NAME B at the station with me? Yet you probably didn't flee when you ran into NAME D and NAME B at uni (+ what happened in 2021 with NAME B? If the story ended in SEPTEMBER 2020?)

You had no empathy, selfishness at its peak.

This is the "poor victim of mean men"? Someone who betrays her friends, her partners, and who offered herself for free to everyone? Someone visibly addicted to sex? A very big red flag, if not ENORMOUS.

151 flings, 115 "nuders" on Snap and Instagram. And me, with 14cm and 11cm circumference, I stand a chance? Liar.

You think you can enjoy the benefit of the doubt? I only sent nudes to "big" girls, but maybe I should have 1) slept with everyone and 2) sent nudes to skinny, fit girls, so you could taste your own medicine and feel what I feel. You and your lack of empathy.

Have we forgotten the humiliation with NAME C? You sleep at your grandmas house in the same bed where the sex happened? With me, you act tough, you defy me, you tell me NO for things that would only do you GOOD. But saying you want to stay on the couch for one night? No, that would be "too weird"? Just keep humiliating me, keep going. And your lies—yes, NAME C got kicked out everywhere, blacklisted, he’s the devil. The "blacklist" in question? NAME E, NAME F and NAME G are just sulking 😹😹.

I still haven't forgotten the time at the bakery when you went to the bathroom with your phone. At uni, you left it out all the time.