u/No-Cap-1801

My fiancé and I are currently in a 4-month long-distance relationship while I wait for my fiancé visa to the UK. Over time, our arguments have increased significantly, although we still have periods of calm and connection in between.

Recently, I decided to take a step back emotionally, and in response he seemed to move closer again, even sending me photos of a house he’s planning to buy for us. I was supportive and excited, but I also expressed that I felt a little sad not to have been more included in the process beyond receiving a “Rightmove” link to the property.

The conversation escalated after that. I ended up yelling because I felt he became increasingly rude and dismissive toward me. He then hung up the call and appears to have done something that prevents my WhatsApp messages from reaching him, which is currently our only means of communication while we’re apart. I’m not blocked but my messages only have 1 tick. This happened on Friday, and it’s now Monday and my messages are still showing one tick.

He is a trying dismissive avoidant, so communication and repair do not seem to carry the same emotional weight for him as they do for me. I would describe myself as mostly secure, though this dynamic is beginning to affect me emotionally.

How can I handle this situation in a healthy way, and what boundaries would be reasonable to put in place?

I’m becoming increasingly anxious about this hantavirus situation. I honestly don’t know if my heart can endure being separated from my fiancé during another potential pandemic. My biometrics date was March 9th, and approvals from late February still don’t seem to be circulating yet, which likely means I still have at least a few more weeks before hearing anything. Anybody else nervous?

I’m deeply tired of the waiting now.

Hello everyone, I’m new to Substack and don’t know where to begin. I have a lot of things that I want to let out artistically but I’m afraid that I’m joking the party too late to be able to grow. Can you guys give me some advice and/or encouragement to move forward. Thanks in advance

Any Standard outside approvals today?? 👀 I’m trying to keep the energy high!!

Love this group for how kindly everyone shares and keeps spirits high. Please could you also include the visa category you applied for and your biometrics date when posting updates? It’s some of the most helpful information for those of us trying to track timelines.

With today being a UK bank holiday, just wanted to share a little positivity. Here’s to a week full of approved end-of-February Bio and delayed Bio success stories - keep the faith, everyone… We’ve got this!!

You guys, I’m back home for a short period and met up with some old University friends. While catching up, the core theme seems to be that there’s no one to date(75% single). These are some of the most eligible singles I have ever known that are struggling to find love. It was the same sentiment when I visited Jamaica late last year and Barbados in January. I have to ask the question, why is dating in the Caribbean so hard?

With the recent increase in “unable to meet processing time” emails for spouse visas, there appears to be a growing issue within UKVI that requires attention. Having lived in the UK for many years, I’ve seen that delays of this nature are often only addressed when they are clearly and consistently raised. While there may be underlying causes such as staffing pressures or administrative backlogs, these should not become the burden of applicants who have followed the correct processes and timelines. If anyone has the appropriate contact details for submitting formal complaints to UKVI, or for reaching the relevant MP overseeing this department, it would be helpful if you could share them here so that this issue can be brought to light. Im not in X (twitter) but complaining there should work too. Sending love to everyone dealing with this pressure.

You guys, I keep seeing lots of priority (inside and outside) visa approvals. Can we update the community on standard outside approvals in the same way. It’s really good to be able to gauge where our dates sit in the line up. Thanks so much in advance.